What my boyfriend did to me!

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  • clairyfairy247
    clairyfairy247 Posts: 425 Member
    OP.... stop with your excuses. your boyfriend didnt do crap to you. You shoved the excess food into your piehole by choice. Stop making excuses, take action.

    Good grief. I don't think she's really blaming him as much as coming up with a catchy title to explain how she gained weight being in a happy relationship.

    Be nice and jog on.

    Agreed! :smile:
  • diodelcibo
    diodelcibo Posts: 2,564 Member
    So he literally inserted all of those fats proteins and carbs into your mouth?
  • danasings
    danasings Posts: 8,218 Member
    then there's us who have never had a relationship T.T

    Honey, you're only 18...plenty of time. :smile:
  • Juliejustsaying
    Juliejustsaying Posts: 2,332 Member
    I hate when my boyfriend force feeds me.

    Really? I love it when a guy force feeds me.

    *giggles* ^^^THIS.

    +1 hahahah
  • NicholeRobb
    NicholeRobb Posts: 166 Member
    When we are in love it seems we pay less attn to those calories. You truly are lucky he loves you regardless. I have over 100 to go as well so feel free to add me if you like
  • lindsyrox
    lindsyrox Posts: 257 Member
    Same situation my husband made me fat (not me i'd never do that!).

    it comes down to his unhealthy eating habits rubbing off on me. Its hard, but now I get to watch him eat 7/8ths of a large pizza while i eat a chicken breast and salad. You can do it, hopefully he doesn't give you grief over changing your eating habits and hopefully you find the strength to resist all the crappy food he brings into the house.

    good luck!
  • Alyssa__Lauren
    Alyssa__Lauren Posts: 148 Member
    Some of you need to calm down and learn how to take a joke.

    This happened to me too in my last relationship. I think it's because we went out to eat a lot. Then when we broke up I lost it all and gained it all back...blahh :/
  • Jbella27
    Jbella27 Posts: 3 Member
    I understand what you mean. My boyfriend is skinny and can eat all he wants. This last year I've gained 25 lbs as a result. But I can get off so to the gym I go and as for eating all hours of the night, no. And I have note that i don't have to eat what he eats. Keep up the good work. You can get the weight off.
  • fbmandy55
    fbmandy55 Posts: 5,263 Member
    Happy relationship weight exists. I lost 50 on here and have gained back 25 since being with my BF. Trying to lose that 25 now and then some more....
  • Juliejustsaying
    Juliejustsaying Posts: 2,332 Member
    I kinda get cranky at this title...

    meh, just a joke...get a sense of humor. :flowerforyou:
  • ironanimal
    ironanimal Posts: 5,922 Member
    He didnt do it to you! Its genetics!

    It's not genetics, it's eating too much.
    Oh I like you.

    Best of luck :)
  • Fozzi43
    Fozzi43 Posts: 2,984 Member
    Just because you're happy in a relationship doesn't mean you have to gain weight...if its that good, the sex would keep you fit :wink:
  • Tacosofinjustice
    Tacosofinjustice Posts: 6 Member
    Good grief. I don't think she's really blaming him as much as coming up with a catchy title to explain how she gained weight being in a happy relationship.

    Be nice and jog on.

    Exactly. When you get comfortable with the person, you get lax on the attention to pay to little things. Unfortunately, those little things can lead to big problems. I don't really blame my husband for why I've gained a total of 80lbs over the last 6 years but being single makes you keep up appearances better to attract people. Another issue is, since he's skinny and has a crazy high metabolism, he can eat whatever and I started to eat what he eats and boom, Now I'm fat. I do blame him for bringing junk food, candy, and soda home with him. It's very hard to resist. I think he could be a little more considerate and help me by keep the temptation away from our house.
  • cls_333
    cls_333 Posts: 206 Member
    It can be the opposite. One of you needs to be a good influence. My boyfriend (now husband) smoked up to 2 packs a day when we met. Now he's a runner.
  • KittieLea
    KittieLea Posts: 1,156 Member
    Yikes! My first husband did the same thing to me. Being in a happy relationship can be tough on the waistline! Since you've been together 4 years now, you're probably out of the "honeymoon" phase, so it's time to get on track and focus on you. You can do it! I would advise clean eating, and a combination of strength training, and moderate cardio. Feel free to add me for support. Good luck!
  • SOOZIE429
    SOOZIE429 Posts: 638 Member
    I hate when my boyfriend force feeds me.

    Really? I love it when a guy force feeds me.

    how YOU doin?

    :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
  • Goldie_13
    Goldie_13 Posts: 71
    My husband is in the Army & during his 3 deployments I put on tons of weight due to lack of sleep, stress, horrible eating, & no exercise. Do I blame my husband or the Army? Nope cause I could've done more to lose weight & eat better while he was gone....I'm more mature now & can't turn back the hands of time but I now know that I'm important & I control what I do to my body. Don't put your weight gain on anyone else cause he didn't do it to you..you did it to yourself & love blinded you.
  • Jenne1979
    Jenne1979 Posts: 29 Member
    Oh man...I don't think the original poster was serious when she said her boyfriend did this to her....I think she was being humorous. Lay off....this is a support group people are here to be healthy and some of the *kitten* comments on here may make her think twice about returning to MFP!
  • mshopey
    mshopey Posts: 125 Member
    OP.... stop with your excuses. your boyfriend didnt do crap to you. You shoved the excess food into your piehole by choice. Stop making excuses, take action.

    Good grief. I don't think she's really blaming him as much as coming up with a catchy title to explain how she gained weight being in a happy relationship.

    Be nice and jog on.

    Agreed! :smile:


    Woah! Not everyone on here is supportive, but at least some people understand.
    When there's only 60 characters a title, maybe "I'm in my first relationship ever, and being with him makes me very happy, and he used to buy me food to show how much he loved me, and then i looked in the mirror, and i thought, maybe it's time i start going on a diet. And i love him very much and i know it's not really his fault, but still. Drats." is a little too long.
  • alaliberte
    alaliberte Posts: 205
    He didnt do it to you! Its genetics!

    It's not genetics, it's eating too much.

    Awesome answer!

    I was thinking the same thing. I'm going to send you a friend request...anyone that can stay calm when attacked is my kind of girl! :) If you chose to add me, I'll be looking and commenting on your workouts, not necessarily your food diary. For me the key is working out...just so you know. Best of luck either way!
  • arcticfox04
    arcticfox04 Posts: 1,011 Member
    I noticed anytime I date someone they jump 10-20lb's in a couple weeks. Kinda scary namely since I'm losing weight and going to the gym alot now.

    I think its someone gets in a comfort zone and they start eating since they don't have to worry about their looks to others as much.
  • fiferize
    fiferize Posts: 141
    happens to most of us. Being happy in your relationship usually tends to make us comfortable and we gain gain gain. But then it's time to lose lose lose. Don't worry, just eat healthy it will come back off!
  • rachyoung12
    rachyoung12 Posts: 16 Member
    Happened to me too! Luckily we have good boyfriends who are trying to help us get back in shape, feel free to add me :)
  • JBcat123
    JBcat123 Posts: 211 Member
    you have an amazing boyfriend that seems to accept you for who you are. you can loose the weight once again and when you eat out with him just track down your calories on this site, that's what im going to do when i go to mexico with my parents and eat out each night. oh and also...do an hour workout after you log in your cals and eat the food. :)
  • miss_magzy
    miss_magzy Posts: 58 Member
    I think that to a n extent we must all take responsibility for our own actions.. in this case, what we put in our mouth and the lack of excersise. But I TOO was guilty of this mentality not too long ago. When I left my ex in 2008, i weighed 40 pounds more than I do now.. and I still have 30+ I want to lose (yea I was big!) Anyway I honestly did not diet or excerise when I left him that first year but weight started falling off because I was HAPPY again and I LOVED MYSELF again. I didnt gain the weight bc I was so happy in love, I gained it bc I was punishing myself. I blamed myself for my crappy situation and rather than leaving it, I ate and sat on my fat *kitten*. Well here I am 7 months away from my wedding and ready to get rid of those last 30 lbs so I can feel like a freaking movie star on my wedding day and every day after! Best of luck to you on your adventure. DO NOT LET ANYONE TELL YOU WHAT IS RIGHT FOR YOU.. . dont fall for the old line" I love you just how you are" the question is DO YOU LOVE YOURSELF JUST AS YOU ARE!?

    xoxo
  • CallMeCupcakeDammit
    CallMeCupcakeDammit Posts: 9,377 Member
    I'm not going to comment on the title, but I am going to say....put those weights behind you to good use, young lady!
  • LittleMiss_WillLoseIt
    LittleMiss_WillLoseIt Posts: 1,373 Member
    I guess I could blame my weight gain on my ex but then I would have to give him credit for the weight I've lost without him. This will never happen because I put the effort and hard work into it not him.
  • Goldie_13
    Goldie_13 Posts: 71
    OP.... stop with your excuses. your boyfriend didnt do crap to you. You shoved the excess food into your piehole by choice. Stop making excuses, take action.

    Good grief. I don't think she's really blaming him as much as coming up with a catchy title to explain how she gained weight being in a happy relationship.

    Be nice and jog on.

    Agreed! :smile:


    Woah! Not everyone on here is supportive, but at least some people understand.
    When there's only 60 characters a title, maybe "I'm in my first relationship ever, and being with him makes me very happy, and he used to buy me food to show how much he loved me, and then i looked in the mirror, and i thought, maybe it's time i start going on a diet. And i love him very much and i know it's not really his fault, but still. Drats." is a little too long.


    I 100% get what you're saying & trust me I understand how easy it is to put on weight when you are happy & in love....Good luck on your weight loss goals.
  • Elzecat
    Elzecat Posts: 2,916 Member
    OP.... stop with your excuses. your boyfriend didnt do crap to you. You shoved the excess food into your piehole by choice. Stop making excuses, take action.

    Good grief. I don't think she's really blaming him as much as coming up with a catchy title to explain how she gained weight being in a happy relationship.

    Be nice and jog on.

    Agreed. When I was in a serious, happy relationship I gained weight as well. I don't "blame" the guy--it was not about him "doing" anything to me, it was more about our habits as a couple, about US making a choice to eat out/snack a lot, about me cooking foods for him that I normally didn't eat (and started eating to keep him company) and making a choice to spend more time with him and not as much at the gym. Those were all choices I made, he didn't force me into anything. When I became single, I realized that I didn't like gaining all that weight and now I have changed my lifestyle again to be more healthy and fit.
  • _Witsy_
    _Witsy_ Posts: 609 Member
    Bleh.

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