What my boyfriend did to me!

Ah, the Love Chub. It definitely happens. My fiance, when we first met, went to dinner and got drinks almost every time we had a date. It'll catch up with you!

I think some people here are missing a sense of humour

I put on 2 stone when I'd been with my boyfriend for a year! He doesn't like to eat veg so we ended up on takeaways and meals out a lot. It is my fault for putting it in my mouth but I still joke about how his diet made me fat!

To the OP - good luck with your weight loss

I understand this completely Many life changed cause us to gain weight (eat more). I was married, had a baby, moved away from home, divorced, and now I am in a new relationship. All of which have not been good on my body. Just keep your wedding in mind! You'll be beautiful to everyone no matter what, but you want to be beautiful to yourself also! Good luck! Hopefully we can push each other!

I know how you feel! I've gained 40 in 2 1/2 years. We were eating out all the time and my portions just kept getting bigger! And i was going to the gym 5 days a week. I definitely dont blame him though, he's lost 22 pounds since we've been together.

At least you have a boyfriend...

i lost a lot of weight and i am still single :sad:

you and me both. we should be friends. :flowerforyou:

Weight gain sucks. How long have you been together with your boyfriend?

4 years.
So a while, it just crept on. And i tried getting rid of it a few times, but always half arsed
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The exact same thing happened to me! Been together almost 4 years. I gained 10lbs within a few months of dating him the rest had slowly piled on. When I met him I worked at hooters, and was a size 1 in jeans. Over 3 and a half years I've gained 25lbs! He didn't do it to me, but his influence didn't help. He eats fast food a lot and tries to offer me some of everything he eats. I've now put my foot down, he knows I'm on a diet and I can not eat what he eats and not gain weight. You have to take accountability because you can't control what he eats, only what you eat. Good luck!

lol! This sounds like me. I was a size 2 when we first started dating 4 years ago. I'd say i've steadily gained about 5lbs a year, a small number, but 4 years later and 20lbs heavier it's not a trend I want to continue! He didn't do it to me, but all of the yummy dinners out, lazy Sunday breakfasts at the local diner,snacks at the movies etc that I didn't do when I was on my own certainly contributed, I just didn't realize what was happening because it was a slow gain. I'm ok with the number on the scale, but the muffin top has got to go so now i'm here getting healthy and strong and learning better habits! Goodluck!!

I've been with my now husband for 15 years. We met my freshman year of High School. Granted that was also 15 years ago but I've put on almost 100 pounds. (maybe more I really don't remember what I weighed back then) But I noticed it all creeping up. When broke up for 1 month when I was 18 and I lost 15 pounds. Got back with him and put the pounds back on. Hubby loves me for me but like you I'm doing this for myself. Good luck!

I gained a few pounds but I have lost it all now. I have 4 kids and my youngest is 6 months. I am now at my college weight. I have only 3 pounds to go until I reach my high school weight of 125. You can do it. We just tend to get used to our guys and we just kind of stop trying to look hot for him. But don't worry. You can get yourself to your HOT self again. That is what we are here for. I find my MFP pals are the best. They are soo supportive both in fitness and personal things. I love them and if you need me I am here. I didn't really put on weight until I started to get pregnant and pop out these beautiful babies. You can do it.

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yes you are correct there are studies that have shown that being in a relationship rather good or bad can cause weight gain, but it is up to you to drop those pounds I can relate i have gain /lost, gain/lost, I have decided the yoyoing stops my focouc clerly has to be on my health and getting and staying fit. So with being said droping the fork and spoon and plate and getting healthy.

I put on weight after my marriage ended, does a little more than 1 ½ years, 8 months and I met someone else and now I'm engaged, I need to lose weight to feel good

I know how you feel OP :flowerforyou: Been with my husband going on 4 years and I've put on 50lbs since we 1st met. He's skinny and has an awesome metabolism and I unfortunately don't LOL I don't blame him for the weight gain, but on occasion he's told me "oh you don't need to count the calories, you look great! Here have some pizza and beer" :drinker: I'm glad he loves me for who I am, but I made sure he knows its important to me that I want to become healthier; now we work together to try and eat better and take walks. It's hard to do it alone, especially if he's sitting there with a plate of fries and I have some granola or something not fried lol

Btw, I love how quick people are to attack OPs on this site. They're just sitting there looking for threads to misinterpret, threads that will give them a chance to show everyone how smart, witty and funny they are, but it also shows how ignorant, loud-mouthed and judgmental they are too :laugh: We have a very unique and diverse group of people on mfp

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What's important is not how you got there. It's what you do now and in the future to prevent it from happening again ;-) Great luck to you, to all of us.