I'm so mad with myself :-(

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  • bspikes86
    bspikes86 Posts: 61 Member
    maybe you should try replacing your addiction to food with an addiction to running or walking or biking. idk just an idea. good luck hun
  • gal2013
    gal2013 Posts: 6
    I started my diet on January 1st and in the last few days I have been tempted to binge too. Last night I ate some slices of pineapple and two pork filets, and I feel guilty for that. I have been missing bread (I have cut it out completely). I realize that I need to calm down again - I have been anxious lately! - and eat slowly. Treat your body as a temple, remember that food has the function to keep your body healthy and working, so don't eat because you're anxious or something like that. Good luck and let's start again! :)
  • Rhonnie
    Rhonnie Posts: 506 Member
    I wouldn't say I'm a binge eater, but I'm definitely a "one was good, two will be great" type of eater. You are going to have good days and bad days. And while you will mess up and you have to be able to forgive yourself and get back on track, you also have to be honest with yourself about what is really going on and actively try to figure out a way to stop the binges.

    You can do it!
  • cheers_b
    cheers_b Posts: 74 Member
    dont beat yourself up --it's done - but help yourself - get rid of all the bad stuff you can in your place if you "cant help but eat it" --i find if it not around i dont have as much an issue - if sweets are around - i am done!! secondly -- have some healthy stuff- - lice rice crackers/low fat cereal/etc handy -- and binge on that! plus carbonated water to fill you up.

    good luck!

    cheers
    b
  • Cal28
    Cal28 Posts: 514 Member
    My gym instructor once said, "We eat over 1000 meals a year, one meal cannot send you off track."

    So you binged, big deal. Did you enjoy it?
    Sometime I get something I really fancied and feel really disappointed after I've eaten it that it wasn't as good as I'd anticipated, I remember this for next time I think about it before I eat it again. Some foods I eat and are SO worth the calories, but they're no doable all the time to fit in with eating 'real' foods too, these I have but in moderation.

    Just remember this is a lifestyle, not a short term diet. Eat a little of what you fancy, and if you blow out just get back on the wagon ASAP, whether the next meal or the next day. YOU CAN DO THIS! x
  • WadeLam
    WadeLam Posts: 224 Member
    Sometimes you have to go through the kitchen and trash all junk food.
    Good luck!
    I must agree with the comment above. At the time, does it seem like a waste? Yes it does. I've been there, and done that. But sometimes, it just must go - and the moment it goes into the trash, it's over...and gone. Binging and eating junk food just isn't worth risking your success. And please know, I don't say that harshly. This advice comes from someone real who has been there. Feel free to add me!
  • Faye_Anderson
    Faye_Anderson Posts: 1,495 Member
    You know what helped keep me on track? The friends I've made along the way. They started off as faceless strangers who listened and understood and turned into friends who could share ideas and stories and have a laugh and enjoy weight loss. Maybe look in one of the groups and see if there are people with the same aims or hobbies as yourself and go from there. There is a group called Team UK http://www.myfitnesspal.com/groups/home/150-team-uk
    Good Luck :flowerforyou:
  • Joyjmb
    Joyjmb Posts: 221 Member
    Hey, doll! You brought it here - you outed yourself and are questioning how you can make better choices.
    That's wonderful - I'm really proud of you. Next time, you'll feel even stronger and can make a different choice.
  • mamawoz
    mamawoz Posts: 31 Member
    On thing that helped me is to include what time of day you are eating, what you are feeling when you decide to eat (i.e., hungry, bored, frantic, tired, sad, happy, etc.) incude a real diary with your journal. You are looking for a pattern or trend here so you need to give yourself some time to be able to find that. This will help you identify your triggers. Sometimes, it could be the foods you are eating that trigger binges -- for example carbs from things like sugar, white flour, etc. mess with your insulin levels which leave you hungry and craving. Other times, it's a particular time of day (for me the hour after I get home from work is a free for all for food). If you are honest and specific in your journal you will be able to identify your triggers and then combat them accordingly, ie., reduce, eliminate the binge inducing food, take a walk or schedule around your trigger times, confront the feelings, get more sleep, etc., etc. Main thing is that it doesn't make you a bad person, you can overcome it and you are already on your way. Good luck!
  • Lalouse
    Lalouse Posts: 221 Member
    Every day is a new day! Every meal is a new meal! Forget what happened and just do better the next meal or the next day. Or work out so you can work it off. If you start to have a consequence for binging -- tell yourself "If I overeat, I have to walk for an hour tomorrow" -- you'll start doing it less!
  • Lisa2bHappy
    Lisa2bHappy Posts: 107
    Thanx to each and everyone who has and is taking the time to read and reply to my post.. I have read every one of the messages and im very gratefull for the support and kindness shown :-)
  • salcha76
    salcha76 Posts: 287 Member
    Get therapy. See a counselor....you have internal issues....emotional....deep....You only believe what you want to believe, do what you want to do....your stomach isn't telling you to binge eat...your head is...find out why. You can change only if you want too, so...do you want too? Or do you want to keep "trying" ? Find out what will flip the switch in your head to do it, and do it.
    I only mean this supportively, not to be mean...I started at 326....emotions run us....we have to control those & everything else will fall into place....keep your chin up, take a deep breath....and start finding the new you:)
  • chrishodum
    chrishodum Posts: 4
    I know it's hard. I also gave up one addiction just to add food in it's place. The best thing that has worked for me is to get the trigger foods out of the house. I also found if I need something crunchy , I eat a crisp cold apple. Not always as satisfying as the chips but I do feel better after. Just start today as a new day and celebrate your victories no matter how small. Good luck
  • Akimajuktuq
    Akimajuktuq Posts: 3,037 Member
    I cured binging by changing what I eat, including eliminating foods that caused the binging and adding foods that stopped the binging (lots of healthy fats). Strangely, a whole bunch of other health problems were also resolved. However, eliminating certain types of food is not a popular idea on MFP, though it's the only thing that worked for me and others like me. Supposedly it's just an issue of willpower and finding high volume foods to "fill up" on. So good luck with that. (Try 8 cups of lettuce and 2 cups of chopped celergy drizzled with lemon juice, and drink 2 litres of water.. JUST KIDDING, but that's the kind of silliness you might see in the comments!)
  • vleebow
    vleebow Posts: 49 Member
    Don't be so hard on yourself. And, more importantly, don't obsess and beat yourself over this minor set back. View it as just that...a minor set back and move forward. It's okay to have set backs, you're human. ;-) Good luck!
  • Aplaxton
    Aplaxton Posts: 19
    Aww I understand. Ill eat more than 3 chocolate bars, and cinnimon buns, or an entier box of cookies. But the feeling after is worse than the need to want it all is strong. It is a trail and error, and which can last for years! days! Months, weeks! I dont know exactly what it took me to stop the terrible cycle, and i rmember getting advice, and thinking that people dont get how bad it is for me. I blamed myself becasue I wasn't really getting how to stop the madness of food in my life. Thats why Ive resorted to Jenny Craig. I need the one on one support, and yet, im doing it myself.
  • Lisa2bHappy
    Lisa2bHappy Posts: 107
    Thanks alot everyone :-)
    Feeling better and focused today.. Yesterday has gone, today is here ;-) and tomo I can handle. PMA is back & im ready x
  • Natashaa1991
    Natashaa1991 Posts: 866 Member
    meet your binge sister
  • Lisa2bHappy
    Lisa2bHappy Posts: 107
    Hi natashaa1991,
    Hope you are ok, Im here for a long time so if you need support .... im only a message away!
  • Edwardo27
    Edwardo27 Posts: 34 Member
    Binge is a nightmare. My two triggers are: Loneliness (in the house on my own) and if I restrict my food too much. What was your trigger - have a think.

    Do not be angry with yourself, this is the part where you need comfort, not anger. Accept you have done it now. And try again from now. Take every MOMENT as it comes. Do NOT restrict yourself because of this binge either. Its a vicious cycle.
  • morf13
    morf13 Posts: 151 Member
    Don't keep anything that you can binge on in the house. Throw it all out, and only keep healthy stuff in reach. Make it so that in order to eat bad stuff, you either have to go out of the house to get it, or order delivery, and you will be less likely to fall off the wagon
  • moya2525
    moya2525 Posts: 6 Member
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  • Janey142
    Janey142 Posts: 50 Member
    I have been eating worse lately but exercising more so i dont feel bad/ go over calories. is there some more exercise you can do to give you a little extra leeway so your less likely to binge?
  • Synapze
    Synapze Posts: 499
    Dont be so hard on yourself. Ive just come back from a night out and absolutely smashed my daily allowance.

    Check my diary. 3 Sausages, 2 Pork steaks, 5 Ciders....i think i broke my diary.

    Ive even put a little note reminding myself how crap i feel now a few hours later.

    Tomorrows another day.
  • hoosierlad
    hoosierlad Posts: 69 Member
    did you try drinking a lot of water when you feel the binge coming on? then eat the salty popcorn, and drink more water...might fill up ?
  • ashleighcollins89
    ashleighcollins89 Posts: 33
    Tomorrow is another day. Chin up, log everything and learn from it tomorrow x
  • runningwild00
    runningwild00 Posts: 109
    You need to find more strength to say no or more strength to stop after just a few.

    I binge on days that I don't eat a lot during the AM or at lunch. I don't know how you're spreading out your calories, but I find if I eat too light of a breakfast and lunch -- then I completely binge at night.

    Good luck, keep posting we can all try to help!!!
  • umachanxo
    umachanxo Posts: 926 Member
    - Get rid of those foods from your home. Having them there is setting you up for failure.
    - Quit with the "I can't" attitude and thinking that you're the only one with this problem.
    - Have healthier snacks like veggies and dip, yogurt & fruit, or some mixed nuts on hand for when you are feeling snacky.
    - Drink 2 full glasses of water when you get cravings, or make a tea or something.
    - Have light popcorn on hand if you need to munch on something.
    - Realize that YOU need to CHANGE and stop GIVING IN. Yes, it will be HARD, but no one is FORCING you to binge eat. That's just yourself giving in and not making the changes that you need to.
  • elenachamberlain
    elenachamberlain Posts: 1
    Lisa, please don't beat yourself up over this. When was the last time you binged? I can pretty much gauge my binges and know they will overcome me about a week before I am due to menstrate. I know that I will eat my bag of crisps (Ruffles), with my dark chocolate and probably a few other things. Keep a record of this. You can always go back in your food log and see when you did it the last time. I work mine out by placeing WHAT I am going to binge on into one container (you know you are going to binge within the week before your period). Count the calories and write them on a post it and place on the outside of the container. I know there have been times when-just by looking at the total number of calories (sometimes more than what I just burned at the gym) in that container, it has forced me to make better choices. Other times, I only choose my favorite out of the container and make up for it throughout the day. We are all human and know that as long as you do better by the time the week ends, you will be ahead.
  • GoddessG
    GoddessG Posts: 172 Member
    I was just reading (somewhere on MFP though I can't find it again) about the link between binge eating and epilepsy. What works for ending binge eatiing also works with epilepsy.

    The ketogenic diet is a treatment for epilepsy in children. The thread that I was reading this morning said that one person who went to a doctor for binge eating suggested the ketogenic diet and that person hasn't binged since. At least one other replied that binge eating stopped with the ketogenic diet.

    I know that mine did. I made it through Christmas and even a New Year's Eve party at my house - where the table was filled with interesting hors d'oeuvres. No binge.

    Might I recommend that you stop berating yourself, recognize that you have food alergies and perhaps something else (because the medicine used for treatment of epilepsy also works to end binge eatiing), and consider going on a ketogenic diet. I don't even worry about binge eating any more. The thought doesn't even pop up - unless someone like you writes about it and I remember when I USED to do that.

    check out the group "Keto".

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