How is your family with your weight loss efforts?

My husband questions everything I put in my mouth. He's trying to be supportive, but it sometimes makes me feel guilty if I'm treating myself to a little indulgence and he asks, "Can you eat that?"

My daughter is only 3, so she's very supportive ;-) That's funny you mention not eating the rest of her pizza- not finishing my daughter's plates has been an eye-opener, giving me an idea of how many extra calories I was consuming by eating her crust, last chicken nugget, etc.

My Baby Girl is only 3 so I guess she doesn't really notice. Just that Mama's makin more veggies for dinner!! My husband is very supportive. He knows that I have Heart Disease and Diabetes in my family and he understands that it's more than just looking sexy, but being healthy and living a long life!

I have a 2 year old daughter and 1 year old twins (boy and girl). Most of my exercise is when I interact with them or when I run errands. I am slowly re-adding exercise to my daily routine at work. Especially on my lunch break and when I am just sitting at my desk. My food diet is better and I have seen weight loss since I have had them although it has been slow. I want to get back to being a healthier me. I want to be able to last with my children.

I don't get much support from my family. It's a struggle to get fruit in the house. I lost weight for the first time a few years ago and it was the same way. I started at 315.5 and have lost around 90 pounds. I thought that would help them realize how important their own health is, but they don't want to listen. My whole family (including aunts, cousins, etc) besides one sister has a weight problem. The only time they will say something is if I am treating myself to a delicious snack. They have a hard time understanding that food and I don't have a good relationship when it comes to stress/emotional eating!

I know that they want me to be healthy, but it is just so hard when there is no support at home, and they are eating some of the most unhealthy foods they can bring into the house. I have no health problems besides the extra weight, but they have BP problems and such. I just want them to see what they are doing to themselves...I guess I had thought when they saw my success and how healthy I had become that they would want the same for themselves.

I have about another 80 pounds to go, so there is still time!

I have 5 yr old girl twins! Because I am constantly watching calories and weighing food, both my girls have noticed. For example, they ask me if certain foods are healthy or turn down food because they think it's not healthy for them. They've even started looking at calories on the back of packages.

They are very young to be starting this, but at 5 yrs old I was already obese, and maybe it's good that they are taking some notice. I don't talk negative about myself because I don't want them to start thinking that they are overweight or fat.

God that's awful:( maybe don't do it in front of them? I have a 4 yr old and would be devastated if she was doing that.

By the way that wasn't intended to offend! I would just be really upset personally if my little girl did that.

I have been going through the same thing. My co-workers are always telling me to stay on track and if im eating something that I am not supposes to they say what are you doing or things like that.Meanwhile at home the kids and my husband says you can eat the same things and workout and lose weight the same and we all know that is not true.I think that we need a little more encouragement instead of being hassled about what we are doing to better ourselves.

I have 5 yr old girl twins! Because I am constantly watching calories and weighing food, both my girls have noticed. For example, they ask me if certain foods are healthy or turn down food because they think it's not healthy for them. They've even started looking at calories on the back of packages.

They are very young to be starting this, but at 5 yrs old I was already obese, and maybe it's good that they are taking some notice. I don't talk negative about myself because I don't want them to start thinking that they are overweight or fat.

God that's awful:( maybe don't do it in front of them? I have a 4 yr old and would be devastated if she was doing that.

I think that, if approached well, it could actually be a good thing to have five-year-olds conscious of what they choose to eat . . . It can be an excellent opportunity to create dialogue about healthy food choices. For example, if they perceive a healthy food as unhealthy, that can be a great topic for conversation. As long as they don't start talking about themselves negatively or severely restricting their food intake, I think it's great. If the girls get this embedded in their minds now, maybe they'll continue to eat their vegetables and such rather than becoming that 15-year-old girl in Britain who was hospitalized for health problems because the only foods she ate ever were chicken nuggets and French fries.

If more children chose apples over cookies and green beans over French fries, we may not have the obesity epidemic that exists in our country.

My family are generally very supportive (especially my husband) but my mum can't get her head around the fact that I'm weight-lifting as a big part of my weight-loss plan.

Bambi, there's nothing wrong with teaching kids that some things are healthy and good for you and that you have to watch your portion sizes, but try to maintain positivity about yourself in front of your children. You're eating well to be healthy and that is a really positive thing. Even if you think you're fat, your children will think you're beautiful.

I really want to be a healthy role model to my children (when we have them). Neither of my parents were particularly active (in terms of exercising) when I was younger and I think inactivity was actually a much bigger issue in me being a bit of a chubby kid than what foods I ate (where portion sizes became my big issue in my teens).

At first my kids hated it.... Now My kids are eating better and like to work out for fun.... my 4 year old likes to show off his "gun show" LOL!!!! my kids sometime ask how many cals something has in it.... my boys remind me to do my workout and when I am done they hug me and tell me they are proud of me... my husband has been on and off with support....

I haven't told my husband that I'm dieting, I just try to eat healthier when around him. It's not easy because he only eats certain foods, very limited in vegetables. He is willing to try new things as long as he knows what's in it but it is slow going. I'm trying to get away from frying everything--that seems to be the only cooking method he knows, but I work late two days a week and he does the cooking on those days. I am trying to make foods ahead that he can just heat up but he seems to revert to pulling out the frying pan most days.

I just want them to see what they are doing to themselves...I guess I had thought when they saw my success and how healthy I had become that they would want the same for themselves.

Perhaps you are not aware that you are undermining them. They are not so stupid as to not know that already. And they will not take advice from someone who is so obese. You haven't yet earned the right to give them advice. You are behaving like an ex-addict who is out to save everyone from themselves.

Save yourself from yourself. Don't depend on them for support and don't belittle them with your successes. We each walk our own paths. You can lead by example, but when you lead in arrogance, you lose - and they do too.

Did you even read what I wrote, or just scroll through and pick out what you wanted? I'm not undermining them and know that they are not stupid. They know that they are unhealthy, they know what they need to do, they just don't want to right now. I WAS obese, and I have worked extremely hard to get where I am now. I'm not trying to save anyone, but they are my family. You are so ignorant and quick to judge me. You should really be ashamed. I am doing this with my twin sister, and she wants to see our family healthy as well. We want to help them because we want to have more time with them. I have every right to give advice, I have been losing weight for over a year, and try to learn what I can. I give advice when asked, I don't just dish it out every chance I get.

I am in no way arrogant. Don't tell me how I am or am not behaving. You know nothing about me, my journey, my family. This is a topic about whether there is support at home or not. And no, I don't. My support is my pals here on MFP, I feel so sorry for anyone that is a friend of yours on here. I depend on myself for support. No, I don't need it from anyone else, I haven't had it from anyone else thus far besides the people on this site. I would never belittle them with my successes, I have worked hard and I never boast about it. I keep it to myself when I am home, and anywhere else. If people ask me, I tell them.

I just want them to see what they are doing to themselves...I guess I had thought when they saw my success and how healthy I had become that they would want the same for themselves.

Perhaps you are not aware that you are undermining them. They are not so stupid as to not know that already. And they will not take advice from someone who is so obese. You haven't yet earned the right to give them advice. You are behaving like an ex-addict who is out to save everyone from themselves.

Save yourself from yourself. Don't depend on them for support and don't belittle them with your successes. We each walk our own paths. You can lead by example, but when you lead in arrogance, you lose - and they do too.

Well someone is a bit judgmental today. Perhaps you should save yourself from yourself. You know nothing about her or her family. You're post is rude and not beneficial in anyway.

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My family is very supportive. I never told anyone I was going to lose weight or made a big thing about it. As the weight came off and they noticed, they asked questions.

Hubs and I aren't living together (thanks work) but I'm working on the tone of his emails...he's trying to be super supportive, but I nearly spit out my chocolate truffle last night when he said he'd been "bad" and made a pan of brownies. Dude, if its in my macros, and I want it, I eat it... But over all he's very supportive. Cheering me on, promising not to sending me trigger food based care packages, hunting down PB2 and all.

My roommate, on the other hand... Omg, you're so skinny! Don't worry about it! She's one of those tiny, bony people.

I don’t really get any encouragement, but my wife does do really good at helping me find healthy foods and my daughters are young so they don’t think much about it. I’ve done the lifestyle change for almost a year and a half. I’ve lost over 150 lbs. and still have a long way to go. They will, every once and a while, say “good job” if it’s brought up, but on a frequent basis, no, and they never ask. Which is fine, I made myself this way, it’s up to me to fix it. It just gets tough when they can eat what they want, so on occasion they have fast food or sweets, (i.e. birthday cake, candy bars and my favorite, Girl Scout cookies). But they love me for me and that’s better than encouragement.