I dont want to be the fat bridesmaid!

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  • Mrs_Padgett
    Mrs_Padgett Posts: 191 Member
    I originally joined MFP a year ago to get myself ready for my cousin's wedding (Last June). I didn't want to look at the pics that I knew I would getting tagged in on fb by everybody and feel like crying. I lost the weight I wanted to by staying within my calories (using mfp), 30 Day Shred, and by reading all the success stories on here. I literally read them everyday. I actually posted my own success story after doing 30ds with my before and after pics, something I thought I would never be able to do. I was able to relax and enjoy myself at the wedding because I was not worried about how I looked.

    You can do it. Motivation is key and you have that so use it :)

    Good luck and remember not to compare yourself to the other bridesmaids, but to your own accomplishments.
  • luzmidd
    luzmidd Posts: 154 Member
    Hi... Ok, I know I will probably get slack for this... But seeing as you are already doing low carb, try the Dukan diet. Seriously! I lost 20lb last year, in just over 4 months...with No exercise, only started walking after the weight came off! If you go to www.dukandiet.com, and on the right side of the page it says calculate your true weight. Then it works out the stages of the diet for you. Then just google dukan diet, there is so much info on the internet about what to eat in every stage...

    I used to suck at dieting, could never stick to it, also had a bridesmaid situation that kept me motivated and having the Dukan "stages" to stick to worked like a charm. If you can spend a couple of bucks, buy and read the book! If you have any questions, please send me a message.

    Like I said, a lot of people will complain about this, but I swear by it, Dukan diet is easy and amazing!
  • Gizzy1976
    Gizzy1976 Posts: 126 Member
    I'm going to be a bridesmaid too this year, and don't want to be a fat bridesmaid. I've lost 4 stone over the last 4 years but have another 3.5 stone to lose. The best advice I can give you is not to deprive yourself of anything. I love chocolate and because I'm cutting out on my carbs, bread potatoes etc I think I'm ok to have a couple of squares of chocolate. It has worked for me! Try to vary your diet so that you don't get bored. If you want to broaden your support network, feel free to add me ????
  • ksugirl13
    ksugirl13 Posts: 32 Member
    I am also going to be a bridesmaid sometime in late summer/early fall (bride hopefully is confirming date and venue this week) and the first dress fitting is Feb 9th! I'm afraid of the pictures and afraid of worrying the whole wedding about how I look. I want to feel beautiful and cherish the pictures of my friend's special day. I've been on MFP for 2 weeks so far and have lost 4 lbs, but I'm afraid that I'll lose motivation and site of my goals.
  • Hello I am Jess, I also dont want to be a fat bridesmaid, also I am intending to lose the Christmas weight that I put on in the space of like........... a week :) how's everyone doing with their goals so far?
  • sam308lbs
    sam308lbs Posts: 1,936 Member
    good luck! But remember, though eating low carbs seems like a cake walk since you stop feeling hungry and lose weight fast,most people put back on all the lost weight when they start eating carbs again.
  • Miss_dannii
    Miss_dannii Posts: 1,351 Member
    You have plenty of time babe! You can defo do this, with a lot of hard work. I didn't want to be the fat bridesmaid either but I was - 3 times! and each time I swore I was going to diet, and didn't :( And now I'd LOVE to be a bridesmaid because I'm pretty much at goal, and there's no weddings coming up! Wahhhh! lol
  • skbkhey
    skbkhey Posts: 12 Member
    I can relate to everbody, i was a bridesmade in 2010 and i was the one and only lol it was a very small wedding so i stood out. BUt i am getting married in June!!!!!! so i am trying to get my but in to gear so im not the big bride, but we can allll do it juts gotta be motivated :)))
  • merry_abandon
    merry_abandon Posts: 140 Member
    Anyone here, please feel free to add me! I'm in my best friend's wedding in May, and though I wouldn't be considered the "big" bridesmaid, I don't want to be the chunky one! I've been running, and recently started P90X with the bride, though Ab Ripper X put me out of exercising commission for two full days. I don't anticipate I'll be at goal by the time her wedding comes around, but my sister will be getting married sometime in 2014 and since those will be family pics I DEFINITELY don't want pictures of a chubby me floating around through the family history! Ultimately, though, I just want to be healthier and feel better about myself in the long run. I could really use some support though, as I don't get a lot from family/friends. :)
  • amyj000
    amyj000 Posts: 75 Member
    This is a group of my people! I am also trying not to be the fatty that ruins the wedding photos. My friends wedding is July 21. I ordered a size 20 dress. Wayyyyyy depressing.
  • mq68
    mq68 Posts: 118 Member
    This is a group of my people! I am also trying not to be the fatty that ruins the wedding photos. My friends wedding is July 21. I ordered a size 20 dress. Wayyyyyy depressing.


    you can do it! Remember that it is not always the size but how you feel! you can "feel" better by July and have alterations done on the dress:)
  • You are in the SAME boat as me! I have a wedding this summer and one next summer, and I am also SO tired of being the fat one! :) You can do it, just follow the calories, I have been doing this for almost 3 weeks now, and am actually down 15 lbs!!! Keep your chin up and just remember to drink lots of h2O and when you have food, actually LOOK at it and decide if it's good....you'll be a lovely bridesmaid if you can stick to it! good luck
  • bearwith
    bearwith Posts: 525 Member
    Erin, you are losing the weight for life not just for the wedding but the wedding is a good short term goal.

    Stick to logging all your food religiously and do not kid yourself - weigh the portions.

    Eat lots of fruits and veggies and cut out the bread, cakes, biscuits and processed food. This stuff gets into your blood sugar too soon and gives you a sugar spike.

    Make sure you walk or run for an hour a day.

    YOUR WEIGHT IS GUARANTEED TO FALL OFF.
  • fiwobble81
    fiwobble81 Posts: 5 Member
    Mog, I didn't see your post - congratulations!
  • You've gotta stay positive and take it one day at a time! If you start thinking negatively now you are only going to set yourself up for failure. Treat every day like it's your first day of your new lifestyle and eventually the process will become easier!
  • killervogel5
    killervogel5 Posts: 24 Member
    Probably not the BEST topic for me, but I completely sympathize with all of you because I'm the first one in here trying not to be the fat GROOM. The goal in my ticker is my wedding goal, and I have until October to get there. I hope it's doable!
  • AmandaReimer1
    AmandaReimer1 Posts: 235 Member
    I'm with you! I'm the biggest person in the bridal party. But, I also want to lose weight to be healthy. I got till September. We should have a group!
  • imthejenjen
    imthejenjen Posts: 265 Member
    I'm trying not to be the fat BRIDE!! lol. I just got engaged on Christmas and I realllllly want to plan for a Sept/Oct 2013 wedding. I need to lose at least 50lbs, preferably 60! YOU ARE NOT ALONE and WE CAN DO THIS!!! Lets get thin, healthy, and pretty for the special day! :flowerforyou: :heart:
  • sunshine_gem
    sunshine_gem Posts: 390 Member
    I'm also gonna be a bridesmaid in November. It's the first time I've ever been one so I'm really excited but I've been warned there's gonna be loads of pictures so I don't want to look like I do now. Call it vanity, I don't care, I need to lose this weight!
  • imthejenjen
    imthejenjen Posts: 265 Member
    Probably not the BEST topic for me, but I completely sympathize with all of you because I'm the first one in here trying not to be the fat GROOM. The goal in my ticker is my wedding goal, and I have until October to get there. I hope it's doable!

    its doable buddy! you can do it! stay strong and determined. =) Good Luck!
  • Songbird1104
    Songbird1104 Posts: 210 Member
    I was supposed to lose all my weight for my sisters wedding last year. Instead I got bigger. The photos make me cry and people were laughing at me. Use me as your inspiration and stick to your plan. Good luck!


    Aww! :cry: How awful!
  • thisisiamj
    thisisiamj Posts: 145 Member
    I am set to be a bridesmaid too in a wedding that 1.5 years away... so I have some time to get in shape but I would like to lose the last 25 or so by the summer (aug-sept)! Feel free to add me for support. I started my journey @ 186 -- similar to where you are!
  • greenfalls107
    greenfalls107 Posts: 87 Member
    Erin, you can do this. And thank goodness you are looking to lose the weight in a reasonable time frame. That is extremely smart, and yes there are plenty of people who lose weight quickly, but they gain it back and more. I have lost 17 lbs since Oct. 3rd (on another program), and my doctor says the slower the better chance of making life long changes.
    I have a few suggestions, always be honest when logging your food. Even on bad days, log the whole cheesecake or gallon of ice cream. So, you automatically over time become aware of what you are eating. Only weight yourself once a week, anymore will drive you insane as your weight can change daily for all sorts of reasons. Finally, I bought a kitchen scale at Costco for less than $20. Helps me make sure my logging of food intake is accurate.

    Erin, you will be a beautiful bridesmaid even if the wedding is tomorrow. Remember that. If you want to lose weight before the wedding, that is fine. But know you are beautiful at 150lb, 193lb, or even 250lbs. Lose it so you feel better about yourself, because doing it for you is the only good reason.

    Hugs
  • Robin_Bin
    Robin_Bin Posts: 1,046 Member
    My suggestion is to list as many reasons as you can that you want to be more fit. Write them down. Here are some other suggestions I've collected over time: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/blog/Robin_Bin/view/how-to-use-myfitnesspal-427993
  • princessrisariri
    princessrisariri Posts: 162 Member
    I didn't go to a friends wedding because I couldn't face being the fat one in the pics or the horror of finding something to hide my stack of spare tires from boobs to hips.. and wasn't even going to be a bridesmaid! So I can't even imagine the pressure on you so best of luck xxx

    I am starting this so next time I get invited to a wedding ill be excited to go out to buy an outfit instead of dreading where I can even go that sells clothes in my size that aren't just tents.

    Make sure you post pics of the lovely slim new you in the bridesmaid dress on the day.
  • lauralouw91
    lauralouw91 Posts: 36 Member
    Went on saturday to choose dresses. The bride picked out the dresses and ordered them i was horrified to be told i need a size 18!!! usually i wear a 12-14 which i know isnt massive but i want to smaller for the wedding as the other bridemaids are tiny.
    Although the lady in the shop said the dresses come up small i am determined by the next fitting that the dress will need taking in...hopefully ALOT. i refuse to wear a size 18!!
  • killervogel5
    killervogel5 Posts: 24 Member
    Probably not the BEST topic for me, but I completely sympathize with all of you because I'm the first one in here trying not to be the fat GROOM. The goal in my ticker is my wedding goal, and I have until October to get there. I hope it's doable!

    its doable buddy! you can do it! stay strong and determined. =) Good Luck!

    Thanks!
  • tndejong
    tndejong Posts: 463
    i dont want to be the fat bride on my wedding day! im getting married october 19! i have a lot more to lose then you do! but i understand completely where your coming from! i was suppose to get married last year. has to cancel the wedding cause of my fiances cancer treatments. new year for us! new me with my weightloss goals! new dress for me later this year! we can do this shizzznit!
  • erinsundberg
    erinsundberg Posts: 26 Member
    Went on saturday to choose dresses. The bride picked out the dresses and ordered them i was horrified to be told i need a size 18!!! usually i wear a 12-14 which i know isnt massive but i want to smaller for the wedding as the other bridemaids are tiny.
    Although the lady in the shop said the dresses come up small i am determined by the next fitting that the dress will need taking in...hopefully ALOT. i refuse to wear a size 18!!

    Dont feel bad, i tried on an 18 and couldnt get it done up... im usually a 14-16. We're in this together
  • erinsundberg
    erinsundberg Posts: 26 Member
    I am SO glad I posted this topic, seems it being supportive not only to myself but others as well. I'm glad I'm not the only one having the same nightmare lol we can all do this!!!