NEED ADVICE FROM EX_SMOKERS

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  • Hellbent_Heidi
    Hellbent_Heidi Posts: 3,669 Member
    I used the patch for a while, but I have to say...really WANTING to quit is the biggest motivator.

    I was just really, really frickin' tired of having a smoker's cough, stinky car and clothes, chronic bronchitis and that ever-present anxious feeling where you're always worried you might run out of cigarettes......not to mention the constantly rising cost of of cigarettes was really getting old.

    I'll have my one-year anniversary in less than two weeks and couldn't be more happy! Good luck..you CAN do this..you just have to want it bad enough. :drinker:
  • DeeJustice
    DeeJustice Posts: 1 Member
    True Story: I had smoked off and on for 30+ years. I am 53 now. I quit about 15-16 times. Sometimes for as long as 6 years at a time. This time a prayed about it. One saturday evening at church I prayed and asked God to take away my cravings. I told him that I knew that I could not do it without him and I knew that through him I could. So I simply said this prayer to myself, Father God , I come to you broken and humbled . You said with you all things are possible, I am asking you to take away the cravings as I quit smoking tonight, take away the urge after I have a meal , take away the urge after I have coffee. I know with you I can do this, but only with you. In Jesus name I pray. Amen.

    On my way home from Church I smoked my last cigarette and threw away the two packs I bought before church that evening. That was Feb 18, 2012. I haven't smoked one since. My trigger was when I would get into my car. I cleaned my car, then threw away the ash tray. In place of the ash tray I filled my cup holder with peppermints that I bought at Sams. It was a huge tub of mints. by the 7th day I had gone through the entire tub!! I did have heartburn from the mints a few times. But I haven't craved a cigarette one time since the night in church. God Bless and best of Luck

    Matthew 19:26
    New International Version (NIV)
    26 Jesus looked at them and said, “With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.

    John 14:14
    New International Version (NIV)
    14 You may ask me for anything in my name, and I will do it.
  • I'm on day 20 no smokes. Some days are easier than others. Was craving this morning so went to the gym instead.
  • i just recently quit this New year and I was not preparred for all the side effects ( no one tells you the cold truth) anyway, the first two weeks were hard and mind you not everyone has all the side effects of Nicotine withdrawl. I had alot of bloating and slight gerd, so not eating was not a problem however smoking burns 200 calories a day so be preparred for your metabolism to slow down and possibly gain 3lbs over night or more. It is the truth so before you quit lower your calorie intake to about 300 less than normal drink alot of cold water and give yourself a week of being miserable...Like I said not everyone gets all these terrible symptoms but most do. I quit and went right into trying to lose 20 lbs excercise has been helping things move along..I just say dont be hard on your self and give yourself atleast a week of misery. :) but YOU CAN DO IT :smile:

    BTW- i smoked for 25 years and no patch...
  • nins11065
    nins11065 Posts: 29 Member
    Hi,

    I am an ex-smoker and I DID quit cold turkey. What helped me was my sister showing me pictures of smokers' lungs, livers and throats. That was nasty and sadning. I just droped my cigarrete and moved on without thinking about it twice. I think that what you need to do is not think about how smoking makes you feel, rahter how they are destroying your organs and your looks! I quited in 1989 and never looked back....BUT this is not about me but you instead. Feel free to add me as a friend and I will provide as much support as I can to help you.
    Nins
  • Marie31450
    Marie31450 Posts: 96 Member
    It's been many years since I quit! Nov 20th 1984 to be exact! It was national smoke out day and I was driving to work and heard it on the radio to just commit to no smoking for 24 hours! My boss at work was an ex smoker and back then in those days you could smoke at work. I was a new hire, and when he saw me smoking..he said he wouldn't have hired me if he knew I smoked! And at that time, my dad smoked and had a heart attack and he quit..so it was a combination of things that made me try to quit! That 24 hours on November 20th ..turned into ,days , then weeks, months ..and years! I never went back..as a matter of fact, the smell of smoke gags me ..and a person that smokes..smells like an ashtray!
    I did it cold turkey..so it can be done without drugs, patches etc. I took it a day at a time. It was horrible the first couple of weeks..I was a real *****! But as the days added up..It got easier and I felt better than I had in years!

    Good luck!
  • I started smoking at 14 and stopped 3 years ago. I smoked 2 packs a day; but in NYE 2010 I decided to quit smoking and binge drinking on regular basis, and I've made it so far. Go one day at a time...the first month you will feel the abstinence syndrome, then it gets better. If someone in your group is smoking, go away. Try to avoid similar situations. It's your health, it's your life.
  • Richie2shoes
    Richie2shoes Posts: 411 Member
    I used fake cigarettes to quit. About 15 years ago, my mother had a relapse of cancer and I promised I would quit with her. I bought these fake cigarettes that were basically one long filter wrapped in paper. I carried a couple with me in an empty pack and whenever I hit a trigger (after a meal, during a break, a red light...) I would just puff on the fake cigarette a couple times and the craving would pass. After a couple weeks I didn't need them anymore. Keep your hands busy during your down time, build a puzzle, do a craft, anything to keep your fingers occupied. After about 3 days the physical cravings should ease up, then you just have to deal with your mental triggers.
  • billsica
    billsica Posts: 4,741 Member
    First you have to really want to quit, if you don't want it bad enough you will most likely fail. What helped me was the patch.

    ^^ this If you don't really want it you will fail. I tried the patch several times and hated it. I finally quit cold turkey because the thought of wearing the patch again made me ill.
  • Graceious1
    Graceious1 Posts: 716 Member
    Finding out I was pregnant did it for me. Now I have been an ex-smoker for 8 years now. I think you need your own motivation really. I England there is a free programme encouraging people to quit. I don't know where you are in the world but may be there is one near you. Ask your GP.
  • GypsysBloodRose26
    GypsysBloodRose26 Posts: 341 Member
    I quit on March 29, 2011. I didn't quit because I wanted to, or because I chose to. I quit because I went to the doctor (I had been uber sick with what I assumed was another bout of bronchitis) and after a look at my chest x-ray the doctor said that not only did I have pneumoni but I may have tumors in my lungs as well. That was pretty much a sign that I was not going to smoke. I was only 25 at the time. I, thankfully, didn't have cancer, but I do have an auto-immune disease in my lungs. Smoking is so not worth what it was doing to me.

    I do crave them still but if I do try them they taste nasty. All in all I am greatful that I no longer smoke.
  • This might be strange, but every time I wanted a cigarette I would brush my teeth. If I couldn't (meeting at work, etc.) I would pop a toothpick treated with peppermint and tea tree oil in my mouth and play with it.
  • ...and best wishes darlin'!
  • larsen626
    larsen626 Posts: 99 Member
    I quit 11 years ago it was really tough though! I had cravings and cried a lot my husband would hold me and kiss me when i would have a craving for one this really helped me. After 30 days the smell made me throw up!!! that made a huge difference and I have never went back!!!!!! My son in law is on his 7 or 8th time of trying to quit afraid that he won't make it pray that he does! I pray for you too! I did it could turkey having a support system helps!!
  • niknak2308
    niknak2308 Posts: 315 Member
    I got pregnant and then breast-fed lol. Not something I guess you can try!

    I may have a night out literally once a year where I get a craving and give in but the next day I quite happily continue as if I hadn't.

    Try looking at this calculator to look at it from a financial point of view seeing we all know the health benefits:

    http://www.moneysavingexpert.com/shopping/demotivator/
  • kimosabe1
    kimosabe1 Posts: 2,467 Member
    I smoked since age 8. I got to 1.5 packs a day.......They were way cheaper back then. I remember saying they were for my mom and I just grabbed trash bags or something for the house with it. It was SO HARD to quit but now that I don't cough up huge lugies I'm happy and I also have two friends with cancer from smoking. They do treatments and cough uncontrollably. They still smoke with cancer-HOW STUPID!!!!
  • EweCreekCottage
    EweCreekCottage Posts: 324 Member
    I quit 7 years and 5 months ago I didn't do it cold turkey I was smoking a pack a day- I started smoking outside on the porch or in the garage. Then I switched to American Spirit Cigarettes they don't have the additives in them just pure tobacco(at least they didn't back then when the tribe still owned them don't know bout now) -those cigs really cut back my gotta have one in 15 minute cravings... before I knew it I was smoking a pack a week and went like that for quite a while then when we moved here to Texas I left them in Oklahoma didn't want to bring them with me lol.... we moved next to a chain smoker who smokes outside so it was tough always smelling it... this last 8 months are the first I haven't had cravings for it even after all these years lol.
    Good luck
  • titi4j
    titi4j Posts: 97 Member
    Good for you for taking care of yourself. I quit 13 years ago after many attempts that didn't last. A month here, 6 months there, a couple months, a year and finally got it! I went cold turkey and just chewed the heck out of straws. I know that's not exciting or anything but that's what I did. I also kept bottled water with me and every time I wanted a cigarette I drank a bottle of water. I think that helped me from gaining weight. With the straws, I just always had one with me and chewed on it and I think it helped to have something in my fingers (like the cigarette) and then putting it in my mouth. I've had friends that used suckers (lolipops) for a couple months and that worked great for them. Wishing you all the best. You can do it!!!
  • trrion
    trrion Posts: 1
    I agree with everyone else first and foremost you have to want to quit, once you make up your mind to never do it again then it becomes easier. After 32 years of smoking I quit moving to an e-cig off and on for about 3 months, then quit that too. Just didn't want it anymore. I have not had a ciggerette going on 7 months and never crave one anymore. I actually can't stand the smell of it now, I can smell it on someone else that smokes and it almost nauseates me. I am ashamed that I walked around smelling like that as I never knew how bad it smelt while I was smoking. I guess it was denial when someone told me how bad it smelt. Physically I feel so much better, food tastes so much better (which can be a bad thing if you have weight isues like me), you sense of smell improves, but the best part for me is I can exercise without gasping for air after 5 minutes. I also don't kid myself, I know if I picked one up I would probably be back to smoking, so it is a frame of mind with me now and I really don't miss it. Good luck with quitting, you will do it when the time is right!
  • PikaKnight
    PikaKnight Posts: 34,971 Member
    I smoked for about 18 years (well 17, actually. I did quit for a year, several years back, but started again). Yeah...and I started smoking at an early age for those that figure out my age and do the math.

    I have been a bit over 5 months smoke free now and I did it cold turkey. I tried cutting back, etc..but I realized that I would never really be "ready" to quit and so one day (Aug. 13th) I said...screw this. I'm done.

    The first 2 weeks were horrible. The first month was crappy. The 2nd month seemed barely doable. I was cranky, emotional, and there were times I binged on food and thought I'd go crazy. But now, I'm so happy I did it and this time it is going to stick.

    Some of the things that helped was chewing gum, baby carrots and using the Livestrong Quit Smoking app. It sounds silly but pressing that crave button like a maniac kind of helped me calm down..hahaha. One of the biggest helps, though, was exercise. Jumping on that elliptical or doing some push ups helped take my mind off of it and make me feel so good that I didn't want to smoke for awhile. :smile:

    However you go about doing it..just do it. :flowerforyou:
  • Akdn
    Akdn Posts: 121 Member
    I used the patch about 15-16 years ago. I had tried many time before but always failed. I think the last time I was just ready to quit. I haven't looked back since.
  • Beth24793
    Beth24793 Posts: 63 Member
    I stopped cold turkey, I sat one night having a cigarette and said to my partner "This is going to be my last ever *kitten*" He didn't believe me and about 8/9 months down the line I'm still smoke free :) I use to have my family say to me when I smoked I smoked like a chimney and I did but I wanted to change my life style choices and here I am today :)

    Tell your self that you CAN and WILL do this, find your motivation and make it stay :)

    Good luck!!
  • I smoke two packs a day. Have for most of my life. I have quit several times but it never sticks. I am trying again cold turkey. I could use advice and stories of how you did it, what it took to make that decision. I hope this will help and inspire me.

    Cold turkey is the only way, as long as someone keeps smoking he is still hooked. Only way to free yourself is not to smoke for as long as possible.
    I smoked for 15 years before I quit. I knew the dangers of smoking and I felt bad every morning but I told myself that lung cancer is relatively rare compared to other cancers and that I only smoke half a pack so I'm at a lesser risk than the average one-pack-a-day smoker.
    One day I was lying sick in bed with the flu. That was very common for me, two, three times a year and each time took longer to recover - 12-14 days on the recent ones. So I looked up online about it a bit when I stumbled upon a thread in a health forum about lung disease. That's when I found out that cancer is not the only lung disease, there are many worse diseases, caused by smoking of any amount. People have no cure, quitting will not reverse it. The treatment can only slow it down. Every flu damages your lungs, leaving a scar. First you can't run, then you can't climb stairs, then you can't walk without an oxygen bottle. Finally you just sit and wait for death.
    I decided to use the flu as a jumpstart to quitting. When you have the flu your smoking crave subsides a little, and I used that push to quit. I also decided that to make things easier, I am allowed to whatever I want as long as I'm not smoking. Any food any candy, whatever. It's all better than smoking. I kept that for a year until I realized I'm gaining weight and considered changing the "everything goes" rule.
    And it takes a year. It takes more than a year, it took maybe 18 months until I could say I don't need a cigarette after a meal. There was also the problem of ending a meal. There was no need to stop eating and my appetite got bigger so I ended up eating more. For me that was a blessing maybe, I was very underweight.
    It's a struggle, but every day it's a tiny bit easier. There is only one rule, don't smoke. Whatever you do don't smoke.
    It's been almost five years and the last thing I want to do is smoke, the smell is terrible, can't stand it !
    Best of luck.
  • bitxbit
    bitxbit Posts: 1,465 Member
    I was able to quit "cold turkey", 15 1/5 years ago July 1997. Three days later, l got that dreaded call from my mom...a "mass, the size of a baseball" was found in her lung. Oh, yes, a cigarette was the first thing l wanted, my stress factor was through the roof!! But, l didn't cave in to the urge. l left home immediately, headed for California, where l stayed for the next 3 months..., til the end, watching my momma die and be buried.
    Yes, the whole situation screamed at me to just give in! "You are under sooo much stress and added responsibility and away from your comfort zone and on & on. Still, l remained a new non-smoker, even though dozens of family and friends,visiting, waiting through surgeries and trying their best, to give comfort, surrounded me with their smoke!!
    When l returned home, at the airport gate, the first thing my 13 year old daughter said to me, when l hugged her, wasn't "momma l missed you". lt was "momma, did you smoke?". At that point, l knew l'd never smoke again!
    Yes, it was hard!! I ate thousands of wintergreen lifesavers (my many thanks to my brother, for the constant supply!) and yes, l gained 75#'s in that first year after my mom's death. Combined factors are tough to deal with, but physically, l felt better for not smoking. You can make it through the withdrawals and cravings! After meals, instead of smoking, drink another glass of water. While driving, crank the radio up and sing real loud, chew gum, eat lifesavers. Watching t.v., crochet, knit, do word search/crossword puzzles, whatever it takes!!! I know you can become a non-smoker!! l'm proud of your efforts!! Keep going forward and never look back!!:flowerforyou: My best to you... ♥bitxbit
  • Mylolamia
    Mylolamia Posts: 88 Member
    I quit smoking over a pack a day when I was 23. I am now 65 and have not looked back. My husband did not smoke so that was a tremendous help, but back then at least 85-90% of the population smoked. I was smoking just over a large pack a day, 25+ cigs. I quit cold turkey as many here have done...it was one of the hardest things I had ever done but I knew in my heart it was the best decision for me. So I used Nicorette gum way back then when I needed it. I kept the cigs. in my desk for a month (I was a secretary back then), they were totally dried out by the time I finally threw them out, but never touched one. Guess they acted as a security blanket for me.

    But during that month, my mother was diagnosed with lung cancer...she smoked two packs a day. My mom was only 48 years old. She had surgery to remove one lobe from her left lung and lived another five years when the cancer reappeared and spread through every organ of her body. I was three months pregnant with my first son when she died...she never saw her first grandchild. This was the hardest thing for me and frankly, It was twenty-five years before I totally got over losing her. My boys are now 36 and almost 38, never having met their beloved grandmother. I have spoken to them many many times about what a beautiful kind loving person she was but it is not the same as her being there.

    I was determined to never start smoking again. So please, think about your loved ones before you take that next cigarette. Quit smoking is not easy. It is an addiction which needs to be broken and replaced with something else. I did put on about 10 lbs. after stopping but for me, it was well worth it just knowing my lungs were clearing(ed) up, I could breath more easily, my hair and clothes did not stink, for lack of a better word, any more and I was healthier as a result.

    If you are interested in friending me, please feel free. I feel we have a kinship here. Good luck.
  • Lalasharni
    Lalasharni Posts: 353 Member
    I got down to my local surgery and begged for help. My doctor was supportive and gave me Champix which allows you to smoke while you use it, after about five days the cigarettes start to taste like hell. You will stop.
    What you then need help with is the withdrawal from nicotine which is an extremely addictive substance. The only way is to use NRP - gum, lozenges, sprays, patches, whatever works for you. I found gum was the best option.
    I havnt touched a cigarette in 5 years, but if I feel like a "smoke" I use an electronic cigarette which has a fruit flavour. Even that I can go without, but sometimes I enjoy it.
    It takes a lot of commitment to quit and no one denies that its hard, but if you look at it like an addiction, which it is, and ask for professional help, you will have more of a chance.
    I wish you all the luck in the world and admire your conviction and tenacity in trying again.
    Best regards.
  • aviseli
    aviseli Posts: 103 Member
    I used the patch...all 4 levels of it and stuck with it till the end....my mind set was "I'm only going to quit once" and the patch worked for me. I was smoking close to 3 packs a day for most of my life and on Aug. 13, 2001 my right lung collapsed. Went to the ER spent all day there on oxygen and the threat of putting a tube in my chest, lucky for me they didn't have to do that. But after I talked them into letting me go home, I had kids to take care of etc etc I left against medical advice. I tried to smoke when I got home cause I was wanting one so bad, but it hurt too bad to finish. So I lit one got a couple of puffs and then put it out and repeated an hour or so later. The pain was pretty bad and it was extremely hard to breathe. So the next day on the 14th I told my then husband to go and get me the patch. (he wanted me to quit for years and couldn't wait to go and buy them) I put the first patch on that night before bed so that when I woke up I'd have at least 8 hours of nicoteine in my system, so my official quit date was August 15, 2001 and I never smoked another one. Best decision I ever made, and I think saying that I was only going to go thru that once has made me never second guess it. Good luck to you!
  • DaniH826
    DaniH826 Posts: 1,335 Member
    Can't understand this e-cig thing. Nicotene isn't good for you, and why not just break your addiction instead of trading it?

    It's a step-down. My reasons for smoking had as much to do with keeping my hands and mouth busy as it did with the nicotine fix.

    The e-cigs give me that for the time being, minus all the tar and added toxins and bad breath and stinky clothes and burning lungs and guilty conscience. I get to play around with a variety of flavors, none of them nasty. Plus, I don't get the lightheadedness and all-around feeling badly and sickly that came with smoking cigarettes (and I only ever smoked ultra lights, mind you).

    I quit after I got the flu and was too sick to smoke for a couple of days. Then when I lit up again, it tasted so nasty that I could only stand taking a couple of drags and had to put it out immediately. I switched to e-cigs that day.

    So my advice to the OP would be to get the flu and then switch to e-cigs, but of course that's not exacly something you can duplicate, is it? LOL.

    I had been thinking and praying about quitting for some months by then, though. I had made it a goal to quit smoking once I'd lose enough weight to get a "buffer" so I could gain some weight back without having issues.

    But, as life goes, you make your plans and then life happens. As it turns out I quit first, and now I'm working on losing weight by taking control of what I put in my mouth so I don't fall off the wagon again.

    Kudos to everyone who has quit cigarettes, especially after being a long-time smoker. I fully understand how challenging it is.
  • booboo68
    booboo68 Posts: 302 Member
    I just made up my mind one day that I was not going to smoke anymore (after smoking on and off for 20 years), put them down and put the price of a pack of cigarettes in a jar every day and then bought myself an elliptical with it. I've been smoke-free for 3 years now.
  • Travelchiick
    Travelchiick Posts: 12 Member
    I was a smoker for 30 years(yes I started young) I have been a non-smoker for 3 years. Anything you need plese let me know