Need support and encouragement to loose 160 pounds.

im with ya! got 134 to get rid of.

Welcome to MFP. Rather than commence with a gym, my suggestion would be to go for a walk each day. 30 minutes if possible - otherwise start with just 5 or 10 minutes, and work up.

In addition to this, set your weight loss to 1 (or at most 2 lbs) per week. Log all of your food and exercise. Drink you water, eat all of your regular calories, and most, if not all, of your exercise calories. Eat mainly healthy foods (such as vegetables, fruit), or low GI foods (eg low-GI yoghurt), low-fat cheese etc.

Then see how you feel - at that stage you might be interested in doing tai chi or yoga, joining a gym, going for a swim etc.

The key is consistency. By taking little stips, you'll get there in the long run.

All the best,

Jennie

Hi, I am a night shift nurse too, I work 12 hour shifts and understand where you are coming from.
At work now, I plan my meals ahead of time, that way im not eating from the vending machine, and I walk the stairs to the fourth floor where I work.
Also on my lunch break I try to walk around the inside of the hospital. (its way too dark and scary outside)
I have 90LBs to loose, and Im taking one day at a time, dont be too hard on yourself, and dont let your husbands family define you.
Good luck girl! you can do this!

You are the only one that can do this. I always tell myself no one will tap me on the shoulder and say " I just done an hour on the treadmill for you" or I know I will not get out of bed and find the extra pounds just laying there that fell off in the night!! Really just try to focus on one day at a time, even one meal. You will fell better as time goes on, just from eating cleaner.
You have a lot of support here, and you will love yourself for what you can do.
Good luck and stay strong!:flowerforyou:

Welcome to MFP and congratulations on taking your first step. I gotta tell ya, I started on here about 4 times and quit before I actually started again and stuck with it. You CAN do it you just have to know that in your head. Yes it will be some of the hardest work you've ever done but the rewards are worth it. You will be able to snack and eat what you want with-in reason. I have chosen to make these changes knowing that it will take a long time to get to goal and I'm okay with that. (It's taken 3 months to lose 21lbs). I'm moving in the right direction and not giving up no matter how many times i fall "off the wagon". Best wishes to you, this is a great site full of all kinds of information so take advantage of it!!!

My husband is worried about my health and so am I but he tries to push and demand that I go to the gym or not eat something.

My first goal is to loose as much weight as I can by July 22 because my husbands family is having a family reunion. They have all had weight loss surgury in the last year so they will be thin. I don't have that option. If I don't get the weight off it will just give them a topic to talk behind my back . They don't like me much so that is why I'm worried.


Question: Now where to start.....
Answer: I need to learn to say no and start worrying about my health.

Reunion is a motivation!

Fixed a few things, and your husband seems to support you - see if he can workout with you but other people cant change you, YOU would have to make yourself change. I always used to think that if i did this workout now, that I wouldnt feel as bad later with doing it vs not doing it. Thats pretty much all the motivation i need.

I hear you!! I just started here on this website and diet myself, have tons of weight to lose also. All I can say, is it has to be done one day at a time. If I mess up, I stop, take a deep breath and get back on my goal. I have lost 10 lbs so far and need to lose 100 more!! I take one day at a time, sometimes one meal at a time. I have bad knees so until I get alot of weight off I try to walk around the house and doing housework helps!! You can do it, we all can!! Just remember, we are all in this together!! I also give each day to the Lord, asking him for wisdom on this journey I am on......

Diets don't work. The only thing that will help you is a change in attitude which will lead to a change in lifestyle. If you set lofty goals for yourself like losing as much weight as you can before your reunion and then not being happy with the amount you lose, you're setting yourself up for failure. If you want to set goals for yourself make them smaller goals that you can achieve. Something like 4 lbs in a month. That's a goal you should be able to achieve and when you do you'll have something to be proud of and encouraged by. Forget about everyone else. This is for you and you only.
It is a marathon not a sprint. If you try to make it happen too fast you're only hurting your chances for success. The slower you lose the weight the more successful you're going to be at keeping it off.
Go to the grocery store and buy some fresh fruits and vegetables. Buy some chicken breast, ground turkey, pork and fish. Seasoning is the key to good food. Make sure you season all your foods. You can get just as much pleasure out of eating healthy as you can from eating junk food. There's no guilt in eating healthy like there is in eating unhealthy.
Start off walking a little bit per day and increase your distance or time weekly. Soon you'll start feeling like you can go farther and farther. In time it will all start coming together.
Drink lots and lots of water. If you get bored, add lemons.
Buy a heart rate monitor to count your calories burned when you walk. Don't use it for weight lifting. It's not made for that. ;-)

If you want it, you'll get it.
Good luck.

Great job, today! Let us know how tomorrow goes!

I'm also a night shift nurse with a 120 pounds to lose. I got back in the game yesterday with losing weight and tracking my calories. I go back to work Thursday evening and am not looking forward to the array of food that is always present. I know what you mean about the 3am snacks coming out to keep you awake. We're going to Disney World in July and that is my motivation to sticking to plan. I would love to be your friend and we can support each other as we knock off these pounds forever!

Hello! My name is Jen and I'm in a similar situation - I have about 120 pounds to lose, and finally feel like I'm *beginning* to get on the right track. I'm so inspired to hear that you lost 10 lbs in a week! You must have been working your *kitten* off (literally!)!!

I just wanted to say - without being too forward, although I know I come off that way - counseling, girl. We all need it. Anybody who depends on any substance for emotional support needs counseling. Whether it's a group, an individual psychologist, or a community of church members, ANYTHING... you're going to need to find that person who cares deeply about your success.

That being said - any man who demeans you, calls you names, thinks you should be able to "just do it already," or looks down on you for not being thin... That man doesn't deserve you. Once you do lose the weight, you might just realize that, and go find someone who will support you 100% in all of life's endeavors.

Keep something else in mind, if you can! Weight loss surgery is definitely a way to get the pounds off. However, it does not fix the emotional part of the problem, which is what caused the obesity to begin with. Those people you're going to see that have all gotten surgery...don't let that intimidate you. You're stronger than them, both physically and mentally, for putting in the hard work and finding the motivation inside of yourself.

YOU GO GIRL!!

Hello there and welcome. I've been a member on here for a few months and this is the longest that I've ever tracked my food and exercise. This site is wonderful. That's a tricky situation with your husband. I can't comment much on that since I don't have one and my son who is 19 is very supportive of my weight journey. Is there anyway you can talk to him about how he can support you more and how it makes you feel when he gets on you like that? The gym isn't for everyone. I work out at home, I prefer it actually. I don't like being distracted while working out. It's just me and Leslie Sansone and her girls...hahahaha. Getting healthy isn't about starving yourself, its about just eating more the right things and getting off of the couch.

Is it possible for you and your husband to take walks together? Maybe if he do something with you instead of getting on you to do it, his attitude may start to change. All in all, I just ask you to stay strong and remember you are doing this for you. Even if you have a bad day with calories and working out, you still need to remain strong. Trust me all of us have bad days with staying on track. It's how you deal with it that counts. I just get up the next day starting off fresh. So you can't let your husband or anyone else who may say "I know you couldn't it" when you eat something sinfully wonderful get to you.

You will lose your weight. Just remember the normal weight loss is 1-2 pounds a week. I would just set up a goal. Like maybe going with 5 lbs to lose for February and then go from there, if you lose more that's wonderful but if you don't, then you know you lost 5 pounds. I know it takes about 2-3 weeks of me exercising in order for me get into my program mentally to work out. I don't do well with meal plans. So I try not to fry things as much and eat more fruits and vegetables. I would look up to see how many fruits and vegetable servings you need to eat daily. That's what helps me. I keep 100 calories snacks in my drawer at work, a long with 1 serving fruit cups.

Please feel to add me as your friend. You will discover on here, you are loved and liked. You will find you will have more support than you can handle with a lot of people who are passionate about their own weight loss struggles and helping others. Please don't be shy about asking for help and motivation, that's what we are here for.