A little encouragement needed

They say that what the mind believes, the body can achieve! Put your mind to it and start off slow making changes in your diet and getting active. Even a 20 minute walk around the neighbourhood will do for starters. Build up on your changes & join the gym or local running/walking/cycling clubs. It's brutal, I won't lie to you but eventually the results will show. Be the change you want to see and not get depressed.

Also, don't worry, that's why you're here on MFP, we can give U all the love and support U need x

What helped me the most was realizing that losing weight is a very long, slow process. But guess what? Time is going to pass anyway! Would you rather have a year pass and be 20 lbs less, or be the same weight? It's up to you. Take it literally one day at a time. Set your calorie goals in MFP (I have always had mine set to lose 1lb per week) and stay under that goal for ONE day. The next morning you will be so proud of yourself, and wonder if you can do two days in a row. You can! You will have days that you fall off track, but you just have to get right back on.

As far as self image, I've definitely been there. What made me want to change my life was seeing a picture of myself pop up on facebook. I couldn't believe how much I let myself go. (That picture is in my profile, I'm in the red and white striped shirt). From that day on I decided I didn't want to be that unhealthy, self-conscious girl anymore. I wanted to feel good about myself and not stress out about a picture being taken of me. I have 4lbs to go until my goal, and I wish it was socially acceptable to run around naked! haha I know how much hard work I put into changing my body and my health and I feel amazing. You can too. TRUST ME! Add me if you need some support please!! I'm pulling for you!

Hi sweetie. I have struggled as well and have had my own doubts but at the end of the day I love me and you need to do the same you are a beautiful women. If sex is an issue with your partner discuss this with your partner if your partner isn't willing to discuss this then maybe they are someone wrong in your life! Keep trying to stay healthy! I know it is hard. Add me if you would like we can keep each others thoughts positive. I hope you have a wonderful day!! Always remember you are beautiful no matter what your size my friend!! Look at me I am no twig I weigh in at almost 400 pounds if you want to get healthy my friend you can I promise!! Don't give up you can do this!! I have lost 15 pounds since August not much but way better then what I was doing!! I believe in you!!!

Do you think you have a goal that is healthy for you? The goal to "do what is healthy for me" is so important. You want to loose weight and that is a good start. Now tell yourself how to make the connections that will work for you.
I really started to lose weight when I put my own good health at the top of my goals list. Then each right choice was one step closer to this goal. Each time I choose a light spread instead of margarine, or ate a fruit instead of chips, etc. It has taken many, many small steps to get there but, the relationship improved as I got closer to my goal weight. Now I have been married for 30 years, and below my original goal weight since last March. Every time I pick up a carrot I say thanks for taking care of yourself. Never give up on yourself. Good luck.