Frustrated :(

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Oh sweetie dont give up I know I might e new at this myself but 9lbs way to go thats progress like someone said earlier you can lose weight just on diet alone if you cant walk a mile right now then dont slow progress is better than no progress, look you have came this far please dont give up (im fighting for you)! your story almost brung me to tears im so sorry your in so much pain > your strong and even though I dont know u I do know that you can do this add me as a friend if you want to and i will try and help you out as much as i can (im still learning myself) lol ...Good Luck and keep me updated !

So, Today I tried to do the right thing. All week I been craving the new Hibachi place that just opened. After reading what my amazing MFP friends commented I decided it would not be the best choice. I ended up with subway. A much healthier choice.

I Purchased a nike fuelband the other day and decided that today was the day I was going to walk 1 mile. I know that does not sound like much but having 4 herniated disc from a bad car accident every mile seems like 100. I walked 1 lap around my local park. I was so proud of myself but now I'm paying the price. The pain in my back is bringing tears to my eyes. Shooting down my legs and just throbbing. I know I pushed it and I'm trying to make this weight come off asap.

Now I'm stuck in bed and starving. Maybe I should have just went to the buffet and came home. I lost 9 pounds so far but need another 41 before they will do surgery on my back. My wife says I'm to hard on myself. I'm just tired of the back pain. Tired of being stuck in the house and tired of being fat.

I'm just plain tired and feeling like just giving up !!! The weight has won for 42 years and It might just win again.

OOOooooOOOooHHhhh DMJ........I know your pain intimately. Im so sorry you're hurting. Im in the same boat only they wont do surgery anymore. Ive had 4 or 5 done and have titanium pins plates screws and rods all over from my neck to my ankles. Some days...especially lately it hurts to sit still much less think about walking. I couldnt walk a mile if I had to...even after taking pain meds.

BUT please dont give up......you can do this. Im restricted...extremely so ...on what exercises I can do and have still managed to lose something like 70 pounds in 100 days. My blood sugars are better than a non diabetic!!! I feel better than I have in years.....I just cant work out like all the others here. SO you CAN do this just be kind to yourself...take it easy...move as much as you can without hurting beyond words...watch the carbs more than anything and load up on vegies, fruits and protein.

I wish you much success and less pain STAND STRONG!!

DON'T you dare give up!!!

You need to look at yourself in the mirror and SMILE... You have already lost 9 pounds. That's 31,500 calories you have SHREDDED off your body!!

You don't HAVE to walk right away to help with weight loss. I've lost 47 pounds and I've gone power walking less than 10 times since September 12th. (I'd love to walk more... but, long story). Anyway my point is, you CAN lose weight simply by just eating better. I promise!

3,500 calories equals to 1 pound. So you need to "burn" 3,500 calories in a week to lose 1 pound. Oh, that's so easy! So you figure out your body's basic caloric intake need. This amount is the amount your body needs to simply function and maintain the weight you are at. Look at that number. Now think of the calorie intake MFP has given you. Subtract the difference. That's how many calories you are burning a day simply by eating better. I hope this makes sense. I will provide the link. http://www.freedieting.com/tools/calorie_calculator.htm

Now times that amount you burn a day simply by eating better by 7. That's how many calories you burn a week simply by eating healthier. I will provide a better example.

Let's say a person's basic calorie intake a day is... Oh, 2,100 calories. Just to maintain. Now let's say My Fitness Pal gives them 1,500 calories a day. So that's 600 calories a day that person is burning simply by eating what MFP recommends. 600 calories times 7 days a week equals 4,200 calories. So that person has lost a little over a pound that week. That's not even including the fact we burn calories every day by doing chores. Going to the store. Or even exercising a little. So this person could actually have lost 2 pounds a week by their every day functioning.

Does that make sense? Please don't give up. You need this for you. You need this for your wife. She deserves a healthy and happy YOU.

Hang in there!

Pain is so hard to deal with! It makes me irritated when normally I wouldn't be, it makes me feel sorry for myself, ( I detest self-pity), and I find I focus more on what I can't do than what I can do. What we all can do is eat at a deficit. Diet is at least 80% of the solution. I am relying entirely on diet to get this weight off because I don't know from day to day how I will be feeling. Mfp has helped so much. I like reading different theories, ideas and recipes. I have to wait 6 to 8 months for surgery, perhaps your timeline will be about the same. Keep tracking, you have the tools to do this! You've had tremendous success ready. The time will pass, let's spend that time being grateful for a solution, for taking health and happiness by the reins and enjoying life every day! ( I know I'll still complain but by practicing being positive and thankful for hundreds of blessings in my life, helps me get off the self pity pot and into my day)

Hello dmnj33, I just joined MFP 2 days ago and am learning the ins and out of this page. I am so happy to see you have stuck with it and have lost 27 lbs.(your first post I saw was from back in Oct.) I have 40lbs to lose and feel very overwhelmed. I am on a cancer medication that has slowed my metabolism and makes all my joints ache, and then I broke my wrist 6 weeks ago, so no lifting or any type of push-ups allowed. I can walk, but it is a slow go. Thank you for giving me the encouragment to try to walk more. I hope your back is behaving itself.

How AMAZING is that! You've lost almost 20 extra pounds since you first posted this You are doing GREAT! Keep your chin up and know it WILL come off. Don't give up!!

Have you tried swimming? I find that on days that my back and neck decide to argue with me, swimming and general water exercises are a great alternative. Great job so far though! Keep it up and you will get there!

I am so sorry about what you are going through. Please watch this video before thinking about giving up. It is so inspiring. http://www.filmsforaction.org/watch/fat_sick_and_nearly_dead_2010/ It could get you to the point where you could get the surgery and then you can take it from there. Hang in there. Sometimes eating less and exercise is not the best answer. It is ok to try alternative solutions for your health and well being. I did it for 30 days and it really changed my life in a very positive way. You can do this. If you keep getting bigger, you will get further and further away from the surgery. 9 lbs is a huge accomplishment. You made some great choices, keep it up and try to get inspired.

No sage advice to offer... just hugs and prayers to send your way. It will all be worth it if you just hold on. We are behind you. And in front of you, to te left of you and to the right of you. In other words, we are here to surround and support you. Sending you a friend request.