On my third week and already wanting to give up

simplehijinks
simplehijinks Posts: 10
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I am always great at helping others stay on track... I just can't apply it to myself. Motivation and keeping me honest and responsible about what I eat is what I need.

And if you need help, feel free to add me too!

~We can all do this together!
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  • jessnchris
    jessnchris Posts: 14
    I am also on my 3rd week of this weightloss journey and it has been super hard for me as well. I love to eat everything that is bad for me and I cant stay motivated to exersise I started a new diet where I eat what the list says for 3 days and then eat what I want for 4. My foods for the 3 days is in my diary for days tues weds and thurs so feel free to check it out I have lost 7lbs in 2 weeks and had a ton of mess ups on my 4 days off but I have found it is the only thing that has helped me lose weight that I can stick to. Feel free to add me I try my hardest to motivate all my friends.
  • simplehijinks
    simplehijinks Posts: 10
    Thanks so much for that! I find that I have a real problem with portion control because I eat really quickly. The faster I eat, the more I eat because I don't "feel full" but then feel bloated. I'm starting to work harder on that. I also found out in the last three weeks, I *really* don't know any healthy recipes or the motivation to cook the ones I have found. Laziness will be the death of this diet.

    I really like your 3 days on 4 days off idea. I may give that a try instead of trying to do it all at once!
  • JennetteMac
    JennetteMac Posts: 763 Member
    Hi. First off, well done for starting! That's the most important bit done.
    I've been on mfp for over a year, tho I started losing weight about 4 years ago. I needed healthier motivated continuation.
    I empathise with the giving up, frequently get there myself. But take every day as it comes, and look upon it as a fresh start. Rome wasn't built in a day, as they say.
    As to eating quickly, my best thought on this is to load your plate with veg or salad. I can eat a huge portion of either, feel really satisfied, and still be under 200 calories.
    Best of luck. You'll get there, I'm sure. :flowerforyou:
  • olDave
    olDave Posts: 557 Member
    First off...what works for me may not work for you.

    I like to keep things simple. I'm not concerned about ANYTHING but net calories for the week. I don't care how much carbohydrate, sugar, fat, or salt food has.....JUST CALORIES. It's a simple mathematical formula. If you burn more than you take in...YOU'LL LOSE WEIGHT. That way I can eat ANYTHING I want.

    Next....this is a SLOW LOSS PLAN. One MUST be patient. If you go by MFP's recommendation one pound/week loss is EXCELLENT!

    Just keep thinking that a year from now you'll weigh 52 POUNDS LESS!!!! You didn't gain all the weight overnight....you shouldn't try to lose it all overnight.

    Good luck!
  • 20ever
    20ever Posts: 125 Member
    Click me if you like......I am up for some motivation!
  • lizzybethclaire
    lizzybethclaire Posts: 849 Member
    don't give up!!!!!
  • BigDave1050
    BigDave1050 Posts: 854 Member
    You started, That's step one done. You've completed three weeks! Better than Some!

    Keep at it and you'll get where you want to be. Just put your head down and get it done!
  • infamousmk
    infamousmk Posts: 6,033 Member
    It's taken me over two years to lose 24 pounds .... I don't give up. Some times I have bad days and weeks, and it takes a lot of determination to decide to get back to the habits I know are best. But I don't give up. Ever. Even if it takes me a decade to reach my goals, it's better than giving up and never getting there.

    Just decide you're more important than giving up. It's really that easy.
  • BigG1978
    BigG1978 Posts: 54 Member
    I like others have felt exactly the same, as I'm sure you have too before.

    I try to remain focussed and stop to think why I'm doing this in the first place and ask myself has that changed?

    Around 99.99% of the time it hasn't and those thoughts allow me to get through those bad patches so to speak. Always re-visit your goals and WHY you set out on the journey in the first place, it's usually the biggest motivator you have.

    Good luck and please don't give up - YOU CAN DO THIS!
  • Bibianna2012
    Bibianna2012 Posts: 88 Member
    your doing great..you made it to week 3! much better than me..Im back to day 2! dont fall off-- keep it up!
  • lessofkimberly
    lessofkimberly Posts: 98 Member
    Dont quit! It took a long time for most of us to get to the place we were, so you cant expect to lose it all overnight. There will be bumps in the road, just get back up and keep moving forward. You already lost 8# in 3 weeks. Great job!
  • dani_1977
    dani_1977 Posts: 557 Member
    It takes... 6-8 weeks to make something a habit! Dont give up... you are almost there. it wont seem like such a chore. And more like a habit.

    everyone has bad days and good days. Dont let one bad day rob you from your goals.
  • AllonsYtotheTardis
    AllonsYtotheTardis Posts: 16,947 Member
    If it feels overwhelming because it's too many changes at once, start with just one change. (ex - staying within calories, eat whatever you like). When you feel that's easy, then it's time to add another change.

    I've been here almost a year, adding one change at a time. It's less overwhelming, easier to make the changes into new habits, and it works.
  • workaholic_nurse
    workaholic_nurse Posts: 727 Member
    On my third week as well...my problem was portion control. I don't care how much clean food you eat if you eat too much of it you will still be overweight. MFP has really helped me cut down on my portions and I have ramped up the cardio portion of my exercise program(was doing straight strength and tone) and am down 13 pounds as of last weigh-in, am also a 3 week non-smoker as of today. WE CAN DO THIS!

    Feel free to add as friend, we can use all the support we can get!
  • Ready4Change05
    Ready4Change05 Posts: 34
    I know exactly how you feel. I am great at motivating and helping others with exercising but when it comes to me and actually exercising myself it lacks. I go to school full time and work so my schedule is pretty busy. I am now on 25 days of working out and finally able to give myself the motivation. If you would like to add me, you can maybe I can help you out with some motivation. You got this but don't give up. It is hard but it is so worth it in the end!
  • AllonsYtotheTardis
    AllonsYtotheTardis Posts: 16,947 Member
    Also - skinnytaste.com - lots of great recipes that are well explained. Tasty too.
  • dstuttgen
    dstuttgen Posts: 14
    Hey, my third week too.(Yea us!) I see you have already lost weight, that's fantastic. I carry my lunch to work and it is stuffed with veggies (usually 4-5 servings) plus my tuna and whole wheat Wasa bread. All those veggies take me a lot of time to chew chew chew. I used to eat my lunch and then have 15 - 20 minutes to just chill but now I use the whole 30 minutes to chew.
    Maybe if you incorporate some more chew intensive foods you will be able to slow down as you eat and give your fill indicator a chance to kick in. Anyway, congrats on the 8 lbs lost and keep up the great work.

    Ciao, Dan
  • BeachGingerOnTheRocks
    BeachGingerOnTheRocks Posts: 3,927 Member
    Getting started is the hardest part. You've accomplished that.

    One thing that I did that worked for me is I only cooked a portion for each person in the household, so a portion of something was all I got to eat. If it isn't cooked and not on the plate, you can't eat it. In the time it takes to get up and cook another portion, the feeling of being sated starts to kick in, and you are less inclined to eat more. Plus it saves money on groceries because the fridge isn't clogged with leftovers that you either graze on or toss because nobody eats them.

    Fill the house with snack vegetables and fruits, such as cut up raw broccoli, cauliflower, carrots, grapes, and fat free yogurt and cottage cheese. These will curb your appetite. The veggies won't add much in calories between meals, but they will fill you until your next meal. You'll also get more of your micronutrients. Cottage cheese and yogurt have more calories, but adding the punch of protein in the morning or mid-morning will keep you from midday snacking.

    Wishing you the best.
  • TylerJ76
    TylerJ76 Posts: 4,375 Member
    It's taken me over two years to lose 24 pounds .... I don't give up. Some times I have bad days and weeks, and it takes a lot of determination to decide to get back to the habits I know are best. But I don't give up. Ever. Even if it takes me a decade to reach my goals, it's better than giving up and never getting there.

    Just decide you're more important than giving up. It's really that easy.

    Thank you for that...
  • MelanieMamaof5
    MelanieMamaof5 Posts: 75 Member
    One day at a time friend. Just take one day at a time. The key is to finding just a few low calorie foods that you really like. Try replacing "bad" with good. For instance, instead of dressing on a salad, try cottage cheese. It's really REALLY tasty.

    Google "skinny" recipes and you will find a ton. I need to add a TON of recipes to my blog but you can check out a few here http://somethingalittlepretty.blogspot.com/p/recipes.html.

    The key is this. Don't give up and decide now what you want more. Do you want to be skinny/healthy, or do you want that "insert food here". When you have cravings for something not so good, drink a glass of water, pop in a piece of gum, and find something CONSTRUCTIVE to distract yourself with.
  • MelanieMamaof5
    MelanieMamaof5 Posts: 75 Member
    It's taken me over two years to lose 24 pounds .... I don't give up. Some times I have bad days and weeks, and it takes a lot of determination to decide to get back to the habits I know are best. But I don't give up. Ever. Even if it takes me a decade to reach my goals, it's better than giving up and never getting there.

    Just decide you're more important than giving up. It's really that easy.

    This is what it's all about. Making a change in your life, never giving up, correcting yourself when needs be, and not getting discouraged. Way to go!!!!
  • MrsBikiniBound
    MrsBikiniBound Posts: 120
    The first few weeks is the hardest, i remember around the third week getting tired of measuring and preparing and saying no to all the foods i shouldnt eat. stick with it... it takes a few weeks for it to be a real habit. Eventually you will begin to crave healthier options and you will learn how to get your cravings sated with healthier options... use your resources- there are plenty of people on here who would love to help you out!
  • healthyburnette
    healthyburnette Posts: 1
    ms kortney, You have the right attitude/ winners never quit and quitters never win! I have fallen many times but I get back up. So can you. I decided today to be commited to myself for a change because I love me first and be the leading lady in my own show!!!. I walked 4 miles and did 100 situps today ( I did them in 5 sets of 20) Work on it girl U CAN do it! I have a wt loss goal of 40lbs too. You CAN and WILL make it. Try modifying what eat by using cookinglight.com or diabeticliving.com Thats what I do to keep myself motivated because I love to eat. knowledge +motivation produces power to change. ::glasses: Healthy Burnette
  • Por2gueseMama
    Por2gueseMama Posts: 102 Member
    I am the same way. I know what your suppose to eat and all kind of different work outs but i cnt seem to stick to it myself my friends look up to me for advise and il give to them just like if i was the one doing its so hard to stick to anything lately. I have been battling the same 15-20lbs for the last 2 years after losing 50 after my son was born its just hard!!!
  • mraychel9606
    mraychel9606 Posts: 10 Member
    I would always recommend doing things at your own pace. I have always been the slow one in the family so it must come natural to me. I started the journey on the new year with my sister who is smaller then me in more ways then one. I am down 8 pounds if I am lucky when I weigh in on Wed. Had a bad weekend. But my sister is down 15. I have yo-yo dieted to no avail so this time I am taking it slow. Learning what I like and what I don't. Started off with just smaller portions and I always felt like I was starving. Now I start with a soup or salad and normally feel full after I eat the main course. Good luck on your journey.
  • KenosFeoh
    KenosFeoh Posts: 1,837 Member
    Getting motivation and inspiration from friends is the icing on the cake, for sure, but the cake is you doing what is best for yourself. Don't let yourself down. Do you promise friends and family that you will do something for them, then drift away and fail to follow through? If you don't do it to others, don't do it to yourself, either. I used to let myself down all the time, every day, but I won't do that anymore.
  • ddky
    ddky Posts: 381 Member
    Don't give up. You have lost eight pounds. Just think what eight pounds of lard woud look like. I also have problems with portions. I have been having my cereal from a coffe cup that only holds one cup instead of a bowl where I could easily pour two or three servings. For awhile, I was eating supper on one of the grandkids elmo plates. It seemed to help. Hang in there.
  • EveryNameWasTaken
    EveryNameWasTaken Posts: 10
    I feel the same way, having a hard time keeping motivated, did awsome the first two weeks lost 7 lbs then started to fizzle out, trying to keep motivated. feel free to add me also
  • Pioneer454
    Pioneer454 Posts: 11
    Three Weeks is a GREAT start. A lot of people don't make it out of the first week. Stay with it. If you are having a bad day - don't fret it - Just get back on track tomorrow.

    As others have said, you didn't gain the weight over three weeks, so it will take some time. I have lost 70lbs since April 2012. Feel free to add me if you would like. I always like to be held accountable by others.
  • Syl92
    Syl92 Posts: 55 Member
    I'm also starting my 3rd week. I felt like giving up before, during my monthly. The cravings were bad but I've made it through that, so I can make it to my goal weight. If you think about it, it's not a diet it's a change of life style. You're eating healthier, watching how much you eat. Make mini goals and once you achieve the first one, things will get better and so much smoother. So don't give up, you'll get to where you want to be. :happy:

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