Im seriously about to call it quits

First of all 3 lbs in a month is not bad, everyone's journey is different!! What do you eat, what do you do for exercise, how much do you and the husband work/go to school, how old is the little one? Answering these could help us help you if we have a little better of and idea what your day is like

It can be tempting to stick with it with so much going on. There are little tweaks you can do that help though. I've found that you can use the kids to help with exercising. Just taking them for a walk makes a huge difference not just on the scale but with keeping the right mind set. I've used my kids to count off as I'm doing reps while lifting or doing ab stuff. It is amazing how getting them involved makes it less of a "work" out and more like fun. Meals can be trickier, but doable. When we get back from the grocery, I'll take the veggies and get them rinsed off and put in storage bags. That way when I am craving a snack it is as easy to grab carrots or celery as it is to find chips or candy. I know some people who will cook some chicken breasts a couple of times a week and keep them in the fridge. Then they just heat them up and use them in whatever dish they choose. It's a simple way to take away some of the excuses we all make when we get frustrated. Just stick with it and you'll find ways that work for you.

I know you're frustration. Believe me I do! I will tell you what I did. Then, after you answer the questions already posted, we can give you more personalized ideas. When I started this journey my husband started with me. That was an invaluable help. We started by just keeping our portion size in check. I started with the recommended 1lb per week deficit. (What do you have your weekly loss set at? Trying lowering it. 2lbs to 1lb, 1lb to 1/2lb, etc. constant hunger, and lack of energy are both symptoms of starvation mode. Does necessarily mean that, but it's a possibility!) I made a concerted effort to have a veggie at every meal (and I don't count potatoes ). I concentrated on getting in at LEAST 8 cups of water a day. (It's amazing how dehydration affects the appetite! Easy way to tell if you're drinking enough is when you use the restroom. The paler the water is when you're done, the better!) I quit eating out, mostly. :blushing: When we do eat out, we try to keep to Subway, Applebee's, and other places that we KNOW we can get fairly healthy choices. As the portion control became habit, and thus easier, I moved on to controlling the amount of sodium. However, my honest opinion is to do it one step at a time. Really focus on portion size and your calorie goal. Once that is "easy" THEN move on to other goals you have for yourself.

As far as exercise, I admit that I still don't exercise like I should. :ohwell: Mostly I walk. (I live in a small town, and I walk the mile to my daycare and back everyday.) It's hard when you are so busy. I have found some videos online that are quick "office" workouts that you can do at your desk. I haven't tried them, :blushing: but I plan to.

Send me a PM if you have other questions. The hardest part is finding that balance between your hunger and your calorie deficit. Please don't quit! You NEED to do this for you and your family. Here are some thoughts I try to keep in mind when I'm frustrated:
If not you, then who? If not now, then when?
If you quit now, you will NEVER reach your goal!
Does this _______(insert food name) taste as good as being healthy will feel?

Ok, this was really long. Sorry Please answer LadyBird's questions, as well as the ones I've posed. The more information we have, the better suggestions we can give you. YOU CAN DO THIS!!!!!!

ETA: By the time I had finished this longwinded mini-book, you had answered several of the questions! After I re-read those answers, I'll post some more specific ideas!

okay it sounds like you and I are a lot alike...(I have three girls 9, 4, and 2 a full time desk job and I am currently studying for my RHIT exam..so homework every night)

First lets start with eating...I found if I eat a breakfast I'm not near as likely to want to eat all day. I usually try and eat a protein for breafast such as some yogurt or breakfast meat and it usually will keep me full until lunch. Then I have a smart ones or watch my portions for lunch...ie just eat one serving of something instead of a whole plate full. Then I have an afternoon snack of rice cakes or fresh fruit or even a granola bar. Then dinner is usually healthy proteins of what I or hubby cook for dinner for the rest of the family.

Now exercise....if you don't feel you have 30 minutes to devote to cardio...like a treadmill or workout video...then try this....try parking just a little farther from work then you are used to and walking into work...do it at a fast pace both in and out of work. Take the stairs at work too..if there is any.... Or take your son to the park and well he's playing (if you can) run around the park a few times...

Its really the little things that we do during the day that will burn calories...even breathing...so please don't give up...you will start seeing results and I'm with the other posters...3lbs in a month is good!

Hope this post helps and if you want you can add me as a friend....

Lilmissanji, Hi ,no expert here, but looking over your food for your typical day, I think you are eating too many carbs and not enough protein? Try celery with peanut butter, i oz. almonds, etc. My exercise person I work with, has her Masters, 2oz of protein for every meal, at least , you need protein for muscle. Banannas are ok, but full of sugar, one bananna has lots of sugar in it, one of the most fattening fruits out there, do you like blueberries? Just a suggestion, by the way 3lb is good, so don't give up.:flowerforyou: Good luck.

I'm gonna take this once part at a time, and add some thoughts. Keep in mind that I don't know your personal tastes, allergies, budget concerns, etc. So PLEASE take these in the spirit of help that they are offered!

what I eat? That really depends on what is available. This past week it was either a granola bar or a banana at about 9:30. Which didn't not last until my lunch at 1. But it was all I had.

I have found some granola bars that keep me full longer. They are Walmart Great Value brand High Fiber bars. (Compare to FiberOne bars, but cheaper.) As LadyBird mentioned, not necessarily the BEST choice, but it's better than the choices I was making before!:laugh: (Pop Tarts are NOT healthy!:laugh: ) I also usually have BOTH the bar and the banana for breakfast. Keeps me fuller longer. Adding a cup of milk ups the fullness factor.

Then at lunch I would eat a sandwhich, PB&J or Turkey on whole grain - once again it is all I had available, well there was pizza too but I went with the better choice.

Add some veggies (carrot sticks, celery sticks, etc.) to that sandwich and it sounds like a pretty decent lunch.

then about 3-4 o clock I would eat a granola bar or banana to hold me until dinner til 7 or 8 (which never kept me full) I drink water though out the day. and I don't get off work until 6 or 6:30

Perhaps, as LadyBird suggested, you could try to switch up this snack. Nuts are good, but be sure you measure out a serving! I made this mistake! Just a few nuts can pack a BIG walup of calories. High fiber fruit, such as apples, paired with a little peanutbutter or cheese work well also. A good tip for snacks (and meals!) is to pair a carb (fruit, veggie, etc.) with protein.

I have a desk job, but I do get up every so often to take orders to the warehouse. My son is almost 2 so he keeps me on my toes.

Don't they just? My little man will be 3 this summer. CONSTANT chasing!

I put my son down about 8:30 or 9, then I do homework and go to bed about mid night. and do it all over again.

You are my hero! After reading your schedule, I really am impressed with how well you are keeping it together! As LadyBird said, you have 3 full time jobs!

So has you can see, by the time I get off work it is time to give my son a bath, make dinner, eat dinner, clean up the kitchen put him to bed do homework and go to bed.

I have tried to get up earlier in the mornings to go walk before I go to work, but every time I get up early my son gets up, since he hears me in the bathroom. SO then I have to get him up and fed and dressed and blah blah blah blah....

I tried that, too, for about 2 days. I am NOT a morning person!

I really don't know what to do.

I'm sure some people are thinking that i have it easy and if they can do than I can. No one understands how stressful my life is... so don't go saying that unless you have walked a mile in my shoes.

Babe, I can imagine how stressful it is (and I'm sure that even the imaginings don't hold a candle to the actual stress!) Unfortunately I have discovered that the higher my stress level is, the harder it is to shed weight.:sad: I don't have any suggestions for stress reduction. If I did, I would be using them myself! I just try to do a little something for myself a couple times a week. Last week it was a 35 minute shower one morning. (Ok, so it helped that hubby had the kids a whole state away for his sister's graduation, but you have to take what you can get!) This week was super busy, so no "me time" yet. Although I did go to bed earlier than usual last night and read a "for fun" book, not a text book! So I suppose that counts. I know lots of people use their exercise time as their "me time." I also try to use "cuddle time" as a relaxing time. Small steps. Here's another quote for you, "A journey of a thousand miles starts with one step."

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I have found some granola bars that keep me full longer. They are Walmart Great Value brand High Fiber bars. (Compare to FiberOne bars, but cheaper.) As LadyBird mentioned, not necessarily the BEST choice, but it's better than the choices I was making before!:laugh: (Pop Tarts are NOT healthy!:laugh: ) I also usually have BOTH the bar and the banana for breakfast. Keeps me fuller longer. Adding a cup of milk ups the fullness factor.

Don't get me wrong, I am in no way putting granola bars down, in fact if you look at my diary, which is fully public by the way, I got nothin to hide(LOL), I eat them often, but I stick to Nature Valley or Kashi and avoid quaker(high frucrose corn syrup and no whole grains)and I eat them with fruit or yogurt or both to round things out and fill me up better. On the days I have an 8 oclock class, I often eat a granola bar and an apple or orange in the car on the way to school( I have a half hour commute) You just have to mix it up.. I bring either a nonhydogenated Peanut butter with low sugar preserves on whole grain bread sandwich, or hummus on whole grain, with fruit and carrots to school for lunch on my long days. The peanut butter is a liitle more expensive, but get it on sale and stock up, that's what i do

Your schedule was shocking to me! I would have to agree with the person that said you are their hero. I know what it is like to be busy. I am a stay at home mom of SEVEN children from 9 years to 8 months. :laugh: I can't imagine having a full time job, school, and a 2 year old. Don't be so hard on yourself. :noway: I think the key is make changes slowly and to not look at the full picture at once it gets too overwhelming to do that. So like was said before concentrate on portion control and keeping calories under. If you can get you hubby to help out with bathing your son and getting him ready for bed and do your workout then I would say go for it. If not then incorporate your son into your exercise. I sometimes use my children as weights for the arms and legs (very good workout plus they have fun with it). I used to think the same thing as far as water that 64 oz. was a lot of water but it has helped me a lot. I have a lot more energy then I did before. Yeah I may be visiting the "little girls" room more but I feel better when I drink more water. I have noticed that for me it is easier to remember to drink more when I have a bottle of water with me all the time. I even freeze some so that I can have cold water. As far as the food I would say shop around for the cheapest healthiest deals that you can find (here there are stores that are quite a bit cheaper then the "main" stores).

Don't quit...you're just getting started...make sure what you eat has protein...protein to give you the energy you need to keep up with everything on your plate...protein to help burn calories...some suggestions
Peanut Butter on apple slices
Peanut Butter on celery
You'd be surprised just a couple of apple slices or celery w/peanut butter takes the edge off...
Keep us posted on your progress...you'll get there

No I would never say you have it easy, you work go to school and have a toddler, that's like 3 full time jobs And I feel ya, I'm in the same boat!!! You aren't eating too bad, but all those granola bars, while convenient, add up to a lot of sugar and extra carbs and depending on what kind you get, refined white flour which is little bang for your buck, so to speak.. Try apples, oranges, baby carrots, lowfat or fat free yogurt, small servings of nuts or seeds or other seasonal fruit as snacks or lunch components to fill in the spaces. You will get more whole foods, lower calories (except with the nuts), more fiber and more variety of vitamins and minerals by eating these instead of granola bars. Plus all of these travel well( except the yogurt) I bring these to school in my back pack on a regualr basis. As for exercise, can you use a gym at school? You'd be suprised at what just 30 minutes can do for you. How helpful is your husband, or how helpful is he willing to be? that can make a huge difference. My fiance is very supportive and helpful, he will take our daughter out to play so I can stay in and workout. Is that an option for you (realistically, don't just say no because you would feel to guilty to ask)

Good ideas on food, I was gonna mention the same. Too many carbs are really making me sleepy rather than energetic throughout the day! Protein is a good choice for snacks, combined with fruit and veggies (for a healthy carb).

If you search the web you'll find a lot of places that say the whole thing about needing 8 cups of water a day is a myth - and the ones that do say you need 8 cups don't actually offer any scientific evidence as to why. Most days I manage to drink 3 - 4 cups.I ALWAYS have a water bottle with me (which holds exactly 3 cups) and it generally takes me the whole day to drink it all. I go to the bathroom often and it's a very light colour so I really don't think I'm dehydrated.

It sounds like you need some ideas for foods that are quick and easy. I'd suggest sugar free jellos (only 60 calories each), fat free yoghurt (80 calories per cup), protein and granola bars I find are good too, just read the nutrition information on the packs to find which are best. Fresh fruit is good, don't worry about the sugar, your body needs a certain amout of sugar to function. I eat a banana almost every day, they contain a lot of important nutrients. If you don't like fresh fruit much (like me) try canned fruit - I find it much easier to eat.

Walmart sells 1 cup size plastic containers, they're about $2 for 6 containers and they're great for making up ready-measured snacks. ( Imade a huge pot of antioxidant vegetable soup and then froze a dozen 1 cup servings. Also small ziplock bags are great for storing pre-measured servings of things like nuts or dried fruit.

I eat a lot of Healthy Choice type meals. I usually add 1/2 to 1 cup of frozen vegetables to them, which adds only a few calories but makes it into a bigger meal. I also eat a lot of fish (Gorton's uncrumbed varieties are healthy and convenient) and a lot of mushrooms.

For exercise, every little bit of movement helps, run on the spot or dance in the kitchen while dinner is eating, use cans or packages as weights, park a little further from the shops and walk briskly.

I hope you find these suggestions helpful, as lots of others have said you've done well so far, 3 pounds might not sound like much for 1 month, but multiply that by 3 months and you'll have lost 9 pounds. You want to make a lifestyle change, not go on a diet. The weight may come off more slowly than on a diet, but it will stay off and you'll fell better.

If you search the web you'll find a lot of places that say the whole thing about needing 8 cups of water a day is a myth - and the ones that do say you need 8 cups don't actually offer any scientific evidence as to why. Most days I manage to drink 3 - 4 cups.I ALWAYS have a water bottle with me (which holds exactly 3 cups) and it generally takes me the whole day to drink it all. I go to the bathroom often and it's a very light colour so I really don't think I'm dehydrated.

ouch!:noway: I find it so hard to hear how little water some drink, I can't imagine drinking less than a minimum of 8 a day.:flowerforyou: It's so good for so much of our body, our skin, ridding our body of toxins, our hair, our nails, keeping us hydrated, keeping us energized, alert, the list could go on and on and on....

I highly suggest you give it a go and make it to at least the bare minimum and see just how much different you feel before you take advice and drink less.:noway: I really don't think you'll regret it.

I think if it's really researched well you'll find far more reliable sources that highly recommend getting plenty of water in each day for your health. Our bodies are made up of approx. 70% water.

Becca

If you search the web you'll find a lot of places that say the whole thing about needing 8 cups of water a day is a myth - and the ones that do say you need 8 cups don't actually offer any scientific evidence as to why. Most days I manage to drink 3 - 4 cups.I ALWAYS have a water bottle with me (which holds exactly 3 cups) and it generally takes me the whole day to drink it all. I go to the bathroom often and it's a very light colour so I really don't think I'm dehydrated.

Everyone is different. The 8 cup recommendation, like so many things, is an average. My husband drinks over a gallon of water/tea every day. My eyeballs would float if I drank that much!:laugh: As long as you "pee clear," you are probably doing alright. As for scientific evidence, a couple summers ago I took a grad class about the theories of teaching. In one of those theories we talked about the brain and its make up, chemistry, and how it works (or as much as we know about it so far!). Water is a HUGE factor in brain function. All the synapses in our brain are filled with water (and other stuff). That water conducts the electrical impulses, chemicals and hormones that make our brain function. Even slight dehydration can effect how quickly our nerves fire, and how we process information/think. I can dig out this research if you'd like. I don't think, though that anyone has come up with a formula that says exactly how much a person should drink. So many factors go into it, I think it might be impossible to make one that wasn't 100 pages long!:laugh:

Also, any liquid you injest counts! The liquid in fruits, veggies, jello, milk, coffee, etc all count. Somethings are dehydrating (caffiene for an example), but the effect of that varies person to person. They say water (I think ) because it's calorie free.

That all said, try upping your intake for at least 2 weeks. If you don't notice any changes (more energy, clearer skin, etc.), then go back to whatever seems comfortable.

Keep up the good work. Now that schools done for the semester, relax, take a breather, and then have a little fun exercising!