My husband's stupid grandmother!!!!!!!
She just brought donuts over!!!!!! She KNOWS I'm trying to lose weight and I swear she did this on purpose because she knows my husband won't eat them. (He hates sweets!) So I just took them and dumped them in the trash. And to make sure I wouldn't eat them I put my son's dirty diaper on the top! What nerve!!!!!:explode:
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Sounds like she may be jealous of you. You are setting your mind to something and succeeding. Take it as a "compliment" from a jealous woman :-D0
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Such respect for the elderly. We can't hide from tempting treats forever. We have to be big girls, not throw temper tantrums, and wear our big girl panties and just not eat it.0
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LMAO, although I would have hoped just putting them in the trash would be enough for you to not eat them :laugh:
GREAT JOB anyway. I can easily say "no thanks" to food that isnt there yet but if its put in my hands I have a lot of trouble resisting! You did very well, Im very impressed!
Just let her know it went into the trash, she will know then that you are serious and her little temptation games dont work!0 -
What the hell???? Are you serious???? A GRANDMOTHER acting this way!!! So proud of you for dumping them and the dirty diaper as an added touch just brings so much joy to my heart....lol0
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She just brought donuts over!!!!!! She KNOWS I'm trying to lose weight and I swear she did this on purpose because she knows my husband won't eat them. (He hates sweets!) So I just took them and dumped them in the trash. And to make sure I wouldn't eat them I put my son's dirty diaper on the top! What nerve!!!!!:explode:
Do you really think she did that on purpose? Is that something she is known to do? Or do you think that she just didn't think about it?0 -
baaahahaha dirty diaper. Good for you! Just say no!
Also..that was pretty petty of her. lol0 -
Such respect for the elderly. We can't hide from tempting treats forever. We have to be big girls, not throw temper tantrums, and wear our big girl panties and just not eat it.
I guess I should've elaborated that I have NO respect for this lady. She has lied and manipulated many of her family members (many who refuse to talk to her) and even my husband can't stand to be around her. She also comes over and looks in my windows! She's also refused to call 911 when her own dh was still alive and he eventually died from her neglect. I am now "throwing a temper tantrum" just stating a fact. She's lucky I am polite and haven't told her how I really feel about her. And I waited until after she was gone before I threw out the donuts.0 -
Ehhhh-- cut the old lady some slack.
Old folks equate love with food. The more I feed you, especially sweets, the more you'll know you're loved. My grandmother was the same way-- my husband's mother is the same way with my kids--
But, bravooooo for throwing them out. Special kudos for the dirty diaper topping-- stroke of genius. Definitely a nice touch.0 -
I have the same issue with my mom in law alot. She is constantly buying pizzas and cookies and donuts for them. Then she always makes sure to send the leftovers or even go so far as buying new stuff to give to us. Now she knows we've totally changed our way of eating and no longer bring that crap into the house. I'm with you Lisa, it totally ticks me off. And to that extent it's disrespectful.0
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She just brought donuts over!!!!!! She KNOWS I'm trying to lose weight and I swear she did this on purpose because she knows my husband won't eat them. (He hates sweets!) So I just took them and dumped them in the trash. And to make sure I wouldn't eat them I put my son's dirty diaper on the top! What nerve!!!!!:explode:
Do you really think she did that on purpose? Is that something she is known to do? Or do you think that she just didn't think about it?
Well, in the 15+ years that I've known her she's NEVER EVER brought over donuts. Or cake or pie or cookies for that matter. And since I started really working hard last month she started saying how she didn't want me to get skinny! It makes no sense. The woman is very manipulative and it's no wonder my MIL has diabetes and heart problems. SHe just doesn't want anyone to be healthy I think. Since she's fat she wants everyone else to be fat. LOL!0 -
I have the same issue with my mom in law alot. She is constantly buying pizzas and cookies and donuts for them. Then she always makes sure to send the leftovers or even go so far as buying new stuff to give to us. Now she knows we've totally changed our way of eating and no longer bring that crap into the house. I'm with you Lisa, it totally ticks me off. And to that extent it's disrespectful.
I know! It would be one thing if I didn't care anymore but I do and I am going to get healthy for me and my kids.0 -
Such respect for the elderly. We can't hide from tempting treats forever. We have to be big girls, not throw temper tantrums, and wear our big girl panties and just not eat it.
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What the hell???? Are you serious???? A GRANDMOTHER acting this way!!! So proud of you for dumping them and the dirty diaper as an added touch just brings so much joy to my heart....lol
Your posts always crack me up!!!0 -
She just brought donuts over!!!!!! She KNOWS I'm trying to lose weight and I swear she did this on purpose because she knows my husband won't eat them. (He hates sweets!) So I just took them and dumped them in the trash. And to make sure I wouldn't eat them I put my son's dirty diaper on the top! What nerve!!!!!:explode:
Do you really think she did that on purpose? Is that something she is known to do? Or do you think that she just didn't think about it?
Well, in the 15+ years that I've known her she's NEVER EVER brought over donuts. Or cake or pie or cookies for that matter. And since I started really working hard last month she started saying how she didn't want me to get skinny! It makes no sense. The woman is very manipulative and it's no wonder my MIL has diabetes and heart problems. SHe just doesn't want anyone to be healthy I think. Since she's fat she wants everyone else to be fat. LOL!
That is crazy! I am glad that I don't have anyone in my life doing that to me. Well my husband is a poop, he loves giving me **** but what he says is all fun. He doesn't tempt me with goodies.0 -
Oh I'm sure she went out of her grandmotherly way to spend her pension money on a box of donuts just to make you incredibly angry and undermine you...
I'm sure.
Overreacting much?0 -
My husbands grandmother asked me a few weeks ago if I was losing weight. When I said yes, her response was "good, you need it." She's a wonderful woman and I love her to death, she just doesn't have a filter on her mouth. I mean, I KNOW I need to lose weight, that's why I'm doing it. So all in all, I'd rather have her bringing donuts.0
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My husbands grandmother asked me a few weeks ago if I was losing weight. When I said yes, her response was "good, you need it." She's a wonderful woman and I love her to death, she just doesn't have a filter on her mouth. I mean, I KNOW I need to lose weight, that's why I'm doing it. So all in all, I'd rather have her bringing donuts.
There are alot of people out there who don't have filters on their mouths! I worked in a paper mill for 9 years with a work force of 94to 96% men. My weight fluctuated. When it was up, I was the "second to know" right after the loudmouth I worked next to. Of course, this was the same guy (married) who hit on me relentlessly when my weight was down. Face it, sweetie, there are alot of jerks in this world, some worse than others.
Great job on the 23 lbs gone...keep it up!0 -
I'm sorry but I have never, ever understood why it is that people think we should always respect the elderly. Just because they are older doesn't give them the absolute right to be disrespectful and often times down right nasty to everyone who is not as old as they are! Be respectful to me and I will be respectful to you, no matter how old or young you are.
To ron2282.....this woman is obviously being a witch and trying to sabotage all your hard work! Good for you for resisting temptation.0 -
lol....good for you for tossing them out......don't give her a reaction b/c that's probably what she wants. Just know you tossed them, and feel good about yourself for not eating them!0
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Just play her game. Thank her sweetly, throw them away when she leaves, and move on. She sounds like a head case. No point in wearing yourself out over a toxic person right? :flowerforyou:0
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To ron2282.....this woman is obviously being a witch and trying to sabotage all your hard work! Good for you for resisting temptation.
I didn't mean to make her sound so bad!! :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
I adore my husbands grandmother and we have a great relationship. She a wonderful person and tells my husband every chance she gets that he'll never find anyone better than me. I was just trying to make the point that a lot of time people don't realize how their words and actions are taken. It's really hard to change your eating habits and lifestyle but I sometimes think it's harder for the people in our lives (who don't feel the need to change) to understand why we are doing this.
I used to get really upset when someone would offer me sweets or something I shouldn't be eating. But you can't let it get to you to much, half the time the person doesn't even realize they are offending you. Just say no thank you and let it be. It also helps when you get to the point in this journey that you get sick when you eat something you shouldn't. I had a piece of cake the other night and was up all night with horrible stomach pains. Eventually your body gets so used to not eating junk that you get sick when you do. That was all the motivation I needed to pass on the next offer of sweets!! Although I did just eat a 2 tablespoons of PB for no reason! :bigsmile: :bigsmile:0 -
Wow, the people attacking the OP really need to step off.
ONE: Just living longer so far than I have does not automatically make you a person of respect.
TWO: You have no idea what the OP's relationship is with this woman...maybe being disrespectful or manipulative or abusive is a pattern for her. The OP may be fed up with this behavior after dealing with it for years.
THREE: This is a vent thread. Have none of you ever said things in anger or frustration that exaggerated the severity of the issue? Have none of you ever had to just get something off your chest? Ever just felt unreasonable angry about something, even if you KNEW it was unreasonable, and KNEW you were over-reacting? By the way, if you say "No," you are lying...or a robot.
Let the woman vent, sheesh.0 -
Wow, the people attacking the OP really need to step off.
ONE: Just living longer so far than I have does not automatically make you a person of respect.
TWO: You have no idea what the OP's relationship is with this woman...maybe being disrespectful or manipulative or abusive is a pattern for her. The OP may be fed up with this behavior after dealing with it for years.
THREE: This is a vent thread. Have none of you ever said things in anger or frustration that exaggerated the severity of the issue? Have none of you ever had to just get something off your chest? Ever just felt unreasonable angry about something, even if you KNEW it was unreasonable, and KNEW you were over-reacting? By the way, if you say "No," you are lying...or a robot.
Let the woman vent, sheesh.
THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!! You made my night. The attackers of this post made me :noway: . I thought I was back on the weight watchers message boards! LOL!0 -
My husbands grandmother asked me a few weeks ago if I was losing weight. When I said yes, her response was "good, you need it." She's a wonderful woman and I love her to death, she just doesn't have a filter on her mouth. I mean, I KNOW I need to lose weight, that's why I'm doing it. So all in all, I'd rather have her bringing donuts.
My husbands grandma is the same! We don't often see her as we live in a different part of the country, but whenever we do, she always comments on our weight. She says something like'Oh, your face isn't as fat as it was last time I saw you. You look much better like that.' It is very embarrassing as she lives in a nursing home and doesn't have a volume control on her voice--everything is LOUD, so everyone hears it and looks at us! Then I just think, she is old and is only trying to give us a compliment. I know I am a very sensitive person, but she wasn't trying to be nasty. Bless her...0 -
Yup yup,,,Just play her game. Thank her sweetly, throw them away when she leaves, and move on. She sounds like a head case. No point in wearing yourself out over a toxic person right? :flowerforyou:0 -
Give her the benefit of the doubt.
By the way, is there a maple bar in there?0 -
Great job of taking care of yourself!!!!!!:drinker: :drinker: That's awesome self control.:smokin: Let it go, you took care of the situation and dumped crap on it so to speak, :glasses: and literally as well. I don't know all the ins and out of why ppl feel the need to sabatoge others but I think it's far more complex than any of us realize and it would probably hurt our brains to even begin to try and understand.She just brought donuts over!!!!!! She KNOWS I'm trying to lose weight and I swear she did this on purpose because she knows my husband won't eat them. (He hates sweets!) So I just took them and dumped them in the trash. And to make sure I wouldn't eat them I put my son's dirty diaper on the top! What nerve!!!!!:explode:
YAY for your self control, be proud of your progress:flowerforyou:
:flowerforyou: 
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:laugh:Give her the benefit of the doubt.
By the way, is there a maple bar in there?0 -
My kingdom far a plain cake donut tossed in cinnamon & sugar! :laugh: :drinker: :bigsmile:0
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:drinker: well said!Wow, the people attacking the OP really need to step off.
ONE: Just living longer so far than I have does not automatically make you a person of respect.
TWO: You have no idea what the OP's relationship is with this woman...maybe being disrespectful or manipulative or abusive is a pattern for her. The OP may be fed up with this behavior after dealing with it for years.
THREE: This is a vent thread. Have none of you ever said things in anger or frustration that exaggerated the severity of the issue? Have none of you ever had to just get something off your chest? Ever just felt unreasonable angry about something, even if you KNEW it was unreasonable, and KNEW you were over-reacting? By the way, if you say "No," you are lying...or a robot.
Let the woman vent, sheesh.
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