Should I Stay or Should I Go Now from MFP????

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Just great! No weight down, clothes are fitting the same. I hate to think I'm stuck in this body - I want change! Where in the hell is it? You know the pants I'm wearing today I used to be able to pull them up over another pair of pants. The seams would bust if I tried that today. I am really wondering if I should just quit MFP and weighing myself once a week. I've done weight loss/weight training before and I DID NOT track my cals or did I weigh myself. It worked in a short 3 months! So MFP and weighing myself is what Im doing different this time, so maybe they are the problem?!?! They sure as hell cause stress that's for sure. At least when I don't do them, I have no idea what's going on and it leaves me stress free for the most part. Should I stay or should I go now? That is the question people?

I've been working really hard and the weight isn't going down - fine! But there's a bigger deal - my body shape isn't changing either! Clothes are still tight on me. I only have 8lbs to get to prepreg weigh, I understand that my shape still may be different now but GEEZ, were is the progress/results from all this work I've been doing. At least if i can'treach some of goal then I can start to enjoy life again.
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I am NOT quitting or even thinking about quitting my weight loss journey! I am just thinking of ways to revamp it so IT WORKS! And it's not very often I only do 10mins on the ellipical - C'mon - I am smarter than that you know! I do cardio at least 3 times a week for a period of 30min - usually burning around 300cals. I also lift heavy weights 3 times a week (universal gym set, free weights, deadlifts, squats, lunges) I figure my body fat percentage is around 25% which is considered healthy! But I feel that I need to lose the fat on my belly and thighs. I've had diabetes for 20 years so the diabetes is not what's causing this "no weighloss thingy". I think it's just so slow because Im so stressed out about it all the time.

So here is my decision: I am staying on MFP but I am dropping the group Elegant for Easter because you have to do weekly weigh ins and I am done with that. I am keeping my calories at 1500 and YES somedays I will be going over - is that really gonna stop my weight loss? -some may think so.... I am 5'9" and 148lbs right now. I don't really care what I weigh, I just want to fit into size 28 pants again without my belly hanging over. And I won't be eating more lean meat - its too much money and I don't have it. My protein comes from pbutter, eggs, lean beef, pork chops and occassionally chicken and fish. My fat comes from margarine, cheese and almonds. And there is no way in hell I will eat minimum amounts of fruit - fruit is the best and I love it!

This body transformation will come and I will be happy with it one day! Hopefully sooner than later - It's been 4 months of hating my pregnant body and another 13 months of hating my postpregnancy body. It's time to love, time to love thy body. lol

Such an aggressive response! Were you really looking for an answer?

You are older, your body changes constantly. What used to work might not work now, trial and error. I have noticed that even 5 years after my last attempt at weight loss. Just be patient. Who knows if you are fighting changing hormones, additional stress in general, thyroid etc. All those things play into weight loss.

Don't give up.

I am NOT quitting or even thinking about quitting my weight loss journey! I am just thinking of ways to revamp it so IT WORKS! And it's not very often I only do 10mins on the ellipical - C'mon - I am smarter than that you know! I do cardio at least 3 times a week for a period of 30min - usually burning around 300cals. I also lift heavy weights 3 times a week (universal gym set, free weights, deadlifts, squats, lunges) I figure my body fat percentage is around 25% which is considered healthy! But I feel that I need to lose the fat on my belly and thighs. I've had diabetes for 20 years so the diabetes is not what's causing this "no weighloss thingy". I think it's just so slow because Im so stressed out about it all the time.

So here is my decision: I am staying on MFP but I am dropping the group Elegant for Easter because you have to do weekly weigh ins and I am done with that. I am keeping my calories at 1500 and YES somedays I will be going over - is that really gonna stop my weight loss? -some may think so.... I am 5'9" and 148lbs right now. I don't really care what I weigh, I just want to fit into size 28 pants again without my belly hanging over. And I won't be eating more lean meat - its too much money and I don't have it. My protein comes from pbutter, eggs, lean beef, pork chops and occassionally chicken and fish. My fat comes from margarine, cheese and almonds. And there is no way in hell I will eat minimum amounts of fruit - fruit is the best and I love it!

This body transformation will come and I will be happy with it one day! Hopefully sooner than later - It's been 4 months of hating my pregnant body and another 13 months of hating my postpregnancy body. It's time to love, time to love thy body. lol

I did want to address your discussion regarding lean meats: A whole turkey or a whole chicken is less expensive than beef per pound and much leaner. I but a whole turkey (about 15 or 20 pounds) for about $1.15 a pound. I roast it on a Saturday, pick most of the meat off, then simmer the carcass with some meat left on Sunday with seasonings. I add veggies, a starch, and some of the meat if it seems a little light on meat, and the whole turkey feeds my family of 3 for 2 meals a day for a week (with broth left over for another soup in a couple of weeks). Cooking lean doesn't have to be expensive. Also, when buying pork it's more cost effective to buy the larger pork loin (half a loin) rather then a cut down loin, the cost per pound is at least $.15 per pound less. I'll buy the larger cut, take it home cut it in 2 pound portions or just in half, wrap it in foil and then stick it in a freezer bag.

I've come and gone a couple of times so i highly recommend that you STAY....it takes a while for things to start working but they will. Just stay positive and keep on keepin on....:bigsmile:

How long have you been a member and trying on a regular basis? You can't expect overnight results. If you gained the weight back before you obviously didn't fix the problem. Once you lose weight, you'll gain it right back if you go back to your old eating habits. It's not a diet, it's a lifestyle change.

It doesn't seem like you are ready to make this commitment so I'm going to be blunt. Get rid of MFP until you're determined to do what you need to do. Stop making excuses and blaming your failure on other things. The problem isn't MFP.

Losing weight is simple, burn more calories than you consume. That goes for EVERYBODY, you included so blaming a website that allows you to track your progress is nothing more then a cop out. In the end, you are in charge of your results.

Silly me, I thought this dilemma was brought about by the rise of stupidity/lack of humor/overly sensitive feelings on the forums recently.


As for your question, it looks like you've figured out what you would like to do. Good luck.

Stay and add me, I'll kick you in the tail!

I'm a little confused. I read the entire forum you posted, how on EARTH are you wearing a size 28 jean at 5'9 and 140-odd pounds? I outweigh you by almost 100 pounds and I don't even wear a size 28....

As to the weight loss;

Did you have a c-section or an abnormally large baby belly? Chances are your stomach muscles were damaged by carrying or delivering the baby. It shouldn't be about weight but about your inches. Perhaps try measuring your waist, hips, arms, thighs etc. and concentrate on shrinking those rather than losing actual pounds. Even when I'm a size 12-14 (I'm 6' and very large framed so believe me that's small for me) I still weigh 190-200 pounds. It's about how things feel. Do my clothes fit? Am I excessively flabby somewhere I don't want to be etc. In all likelihood, if you're just 8 pounds off your pre-pregnancy weight you may never actually meet that poundage. You're a very natural healthy weight for your height but you're going to have to do quite a bit of stomach muscle work outs to repair pregnancy damage and muscle weighs more than fat.

I think getting rid of the weigh in group is probably a great idea. Also, you have a young infant perhaps look into those floor activity workouts you can do with your baby. It creates bonding time with your child while working out your muscles and as the baby grows in size so do your work outs.