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Don't give up! I lost 40 pounds, three times before. Once was following pregnancy. Hopefully this is the last time, lol. Feel free to add.

It's very hard when your partner isn't supportive of your efforts. There must be a reason why he/she does not want to see you regain your health and vitality.. Perhaps they don't want to be left behind? Who knows, but don't be deterred by them. You know you must do this and you CAN do this. It takes a lot of determination, but the reward will be worth it. I am still on that journey, and I have slipped many times, but I hope that by checking in here with people who are in the same boat, I will get the support I need. Good luck!

Welcome! I recommend measuring all your food, and buying a food scale.

You can do this! I added u

Hi I just started MFP the last part of Jan and quite enjoying watching what I eat. It really helps to keep track of your calories. You are a very pretty girl just think of your wedding day in your skinny dress. You can do it. I added you.

Hello, I really need some support lol i have 100 pounds or so to lose and my SO is not very supportive since he likes me the way i am now.I really want to do this before i get married in 2014 mostly because 1.I am embarrassed to go out in public and 2. My health is fading and i can really feel the impact of my extra pounds and what it's doing to my body. I would love to hear success stories so far it feels impossible,I have been trying for a few months with no results and i just give up. I hope this site helps!

Sorry, but your fiance doesn't sound like a guy you should be considering marrying if he isn't supportive. Men who want their women to remain unhealthy and obese do so because they realize once the woman loses the weight, she will be more desirable to other men -- and he has lost control over her. He may not even be too accepting of your situation as it stands now, either -- but he figures you're overweight, you have low self esteem and hey, it's a free ride for him because "no other man would want you". (I have often heard stories of men who prefer their women this way, because that means the women are "lucky to have a guy like me") It's psychological warfare.

Your man may not become that, but if he is resisting your desire to change, you MIGHT want to consider that a red flag.

Hello, I really need some support lol i have 100 pounds or so to lose and my SO is not very supportive since he likes me the way i am now.I really want to do this before i get married in 2014 mostly because 1.I am embarrassed to go out in public and 2. My health is fading and i can really feel the impact of my extra pounds and what it's doing to my body. I would love to hear success stories so far it feels impossible,I have been trying for a few months with no results and i just give up. I hope this site helps!

Sorry, but your fiance doesn't sound like a guy you should be considering marrying if he isn't supportive. Men who want their women to remain unhealthy and obese do so because they realize once the woman loses the weight, she will be more desirable to other men -- and he has lost control over her. He may not even be too accepting of your situation as it stands now, either -- but he figures you're overweight, you have low self esteem and hey, it's a free ride for him because "no other man would want you". (I have often heard stories of men who prefer their women this way, because that means the women are "lucky to have a guy like me") It's psychological warfare.

Your man may not become that, but if he is resisting your desire to change, you MIGHT want to consider that a red flag.

Way to go and over-read half a sentence.
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Hello, I really need some support lol i have 100 pounds or so to lose and my SO is not very supportive since he likes me the way i am now.I really want to do this before i get married in 2014 mostly because 1.I am embarrassed to go out in public and 2. My health is fading and i can really feel the impact of my extra pounds and what it's doing to my body. I would love to hear success stories so far it feels impossible,I have been trying for a few months with no results and i just give up. I hope this site helps!

Sorry, but your fiance doesn't sound like a guy you should be considering marrying if he isn't supportive. Men who want their women to remain unhealthy and obese do so because they realize once the woman loses the weight, she will be more desirable to other men -- and he has lost control over her. He may not even be too accepting of your situation as it stands now, either -- but he figures you're overweight, you have low self esteem and hey, it's a free ride for him because "no other man would want you". (I have often heard stories of men who prefer their women this way, because that means the women are "lucky to have a guy like me") It's psychological warfare.

Your man may not become that, but if he is resisting your desire to change, you MIGHT want to consider that a red flag.

Way to go and over-read half a sentence.
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Not at all -- have you ever seen those documentaries of morbidly obese people (I'm talking 600 lbs and above) who are about to get gastric bypass surgery and get moved to the Cleveland weight clinic or some place like that? In each situation, their partners were either just as obese, OR they were very skinny ones. Once the patients started losing tons of weight, their relationships began to suffer and many couples broke up. They were threatened by the changes going on in the person, and couldn't handle it. One man, I remember clearly, was so in love with the idea of taking care of his bed ridden woman, that as soon as she got up and started losing weight, he started arguing with her and mentally abusing her. HE wanted her to remain an invalid, because he was judging his self worth on HER dependence on him to bathe her, feed her, etc.

I stand by my "reading" into the situation. I do think some men prefer their women to be obese, because low self esteem usually is tied into this, and the men see that as a way to keep those women dependent on them, because in their eyes "nobody else would ever want me". It's a form of co-dependency and psychological beat down.

Welcome to the site! Feel free to add me as a friend

Welcome!! I'm glad you started putting your health first! We all have to start somewhere, and here is a pretty great place to start.
I agree with some of the other posters, buy a food scale, measure EVERYTHING, and don't ever give up! It's a marathon, not sprint! Take advantage of all the features of MFP!

Sometimes I find that telling everyone in my immediate circle about my decision to make a serious shift can be detrimental to my progress...Action is what will get you further toward your goals, not talking about it. And you're the one who has to feel the way you do, and you are the one who will have to do the hard work to get where you want to go. In no time I bet your SO sees you and says, "You're lookin' awesome! Whatever you're doing, keep it up!"