So how honest do you want your SO to be..........

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ninerbuff
ninerbuff Posts: 48,619 Member
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In regards to your body?

So be honest, or sugar coat it?

Discuss.

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  • piratemerdi
    piratemerdi Posts: 212 Member
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    If I ask if I look fat, the worst thing a guy can do is say "yes". If something honestly doesn't look good, I'd rather them just say that they prefer something else over it. I don't want to be insulted, but I also don't want to wear something that isn't flattering.
  • djames92
    djames92 Posts: 990 Member
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    100%
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
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    Absolute honesty.
  • RandiLandCHANGED
    RandiLandCHANGED Posts: 630 Member
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    Blunt. He sees me through rose coloured glasses, though.
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
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    Blunt. He sees me through rosé coloured glasses, though.

    That is a good thing.
  • supplemama
    supplemama Posts: 1,956 Member
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    100% honest!

    But I also don't ask questions I don't want to hear the answer to. I would never ask 'Does this make me look fat?' Instead I would ask 'Does this look good on me?' or something like that.
  • tlesa88
    tlesa88 Posts: 56 Member
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    Definitely honest. Luckily my boyfriend is on here going through the same thing I am so we are both very open with each other. It has helped tremendously to not be doing this by myself :)
  • Cadori
    Cadori Posts: 4,810 Member
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    Tactfully honest.

    This applies in all areas: if he's mad at me, if he doesn't like something I've cooked, if he doesn't like how I look. If he wasn't honest I would worry about the extent that he was preserving my feelings. I'd rather know the truth so I can deal with it head on.

    That said, tact goes a long way in making the truth palatable.
  • Cadori
    Cadori Posts: 4,810 Member
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    He sees me through rose coloured glasses, though.

    My husband does too. It's kind of nice since I tend to be very hard on myself. At least ONE of us likes me! :laugh:
  • TooLeftFeet
    TooLeftFeet Posts: 139 Member
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    I'd love it if he could see me objectively. My mind's eye is quite critical; his eye is genuinely rose colored. I wish when I mentioned wanting to work on certain things, I could believe him when he says don't change anything at all.
  • parvati
    parvati Posts: 432 Member
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    If I ask a question, I always want an honest answer...
    That being said, if I want honesty, I can't hold it against him if I don't like his answer!!! Lol
  • ScatteredThoughts
    ScatteredThoughts Posts: 3,562 Member
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    100% honest!

    But I also don't ask questions I don't want to hear the answer to. I would never ask 'Does this make me look fat?' Instead I would ask 'Does this look good on me?' or so so something like that.

    I couldn't but think of this commercial, :P

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RPX2cQP8uoI



    And to answer OP, I would rather my wife be honest. I need the reality check.
  • allifantastical
    allifantastical Posts: 946 Member
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    Tactfully honest.

    This applies in all areas: if he's mad at me, if he doesn't like something I've cooked, if he doesn't like how I look. If he wasn't honest I would worry about the extent that he was preserving my feelings. I'd rather know the truth so I can deal with it head on.

    That said, tact goes a long way in making the truth palatable.

    This!
  • LMT2012
    LMT2012 Posts: 697 Member
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    I'd love it if he could see me objectively. My mind's eye is quite critical; his eye is genuinely rose colored. I wish when I mentioned wanting to work on certain things, I could believe him when he says don't change anything at all.

    This. Exactly.
  • TheConsciousFoody
    TheConsciousFoody Posts: 607 Member
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    Honest. Because I am 100% honest with him, even if he doesn't like it all the time.
  • SwimFan1981
    SwimFan1981 Posts: 1,430 Member
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    100% honest, this works both ways...
  • fmebear
    fmebear Posts: 172 Member
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    I am fortunate that my husband is honest but tactful. LOL!!! I appreciate it immensely but yet even when I was my heaviest last summer he was still telling me I was beautiful. I didn't feel beautiful but he made feel special. Now, with some weight loss I love how he "eyes' me and makes me feel so sexy.
  • n2thenight24
    n2thenight24 Posts: 1,651 Member
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    Lie your *kitten* of, tell me I look fantastic, since it doesn't really matter. Tell me I look terrible, I'm just going to think you're an *kitten*. Tell me I look amazing, I'm gonna think you're lying through your teeth.
  • iulia_maddie
    iulia_maddie Posts: 2,780 Member
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    I don't want 100 % honesty. And i don't usually offer 100% honesty when it comes to body issues. We all have insecurities, i'd rather not have the man in my life point my flaws out.
    I try not to ask questions that would put people in a position to lie, though.
  • sbbhbm
    sbbhbm Posts: 1,312 Member
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    I want honesty, but it can be done without cruelty. My husband said he was moving out if I didn't lose some weight, and told me I am repulsive. I am only one size bigger than I am in all my pics, and it's from having a baby. But when he and I met, I was actually three sizes smaller than I was in those pictures.

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