why do 95%of people put weight back on, ugh

Remember TFAR: Your Thoughts lead to your Feelings which lead to your Actions which lead to your Results. Diets don’t work because they are focused on actions, not the root causes (your thoughts and feelings); in fact they even create new thoughts and feelings that drive more overeating! Where else in your life do you try to fix the outside without addressing the inside first? How is that backfiring?

Diet is forever, you just alter it based on your goal. If you reach your goal weight, you diet to maintain instead of lose, that's all. People gain it back because they go back to their old habits, which are what got them needing to lose weight in the first place. New habits are needed, and the lifelong diet changes are what you have to do to form those new habits and stick to them.

There is a group, the National Weight Control Registry, run out of Brown University, in Providence, R.I. They have a list of people who have been successful with weight loss long term, and they have been studying them to learn what has made them successful.
The website is here: http://www.nwcr.ws/
There is much helpful information there.

3) Pre-packaged/pre-prepared food does not teach you how to eat healthily - Things like Lite n Easy, Lean Cuisine, Weight Watchers frozen meals, etc...anything that delivers the exact quantities they say you need to eat and you don't have to actually choose anything or cook anything...that doesn't teach you how to eat healthily after you stop buying their food because you've never had to choose the size of your bread roll, the amount of pasta, the weight of your protein, the amount of sauce, etc. You've only ever been told "eat this and you will lose weight". You've learned nothing. The exact same thing goes for shake diets or meal replacement diets.

Being obese is just as much a psychological issue as a "eating healthy" issue. Not addressing the underlying reasons for why the weight gain started is a big reason they eventually gain that weight back. Depression and the realization that your life doesn't become perfect eventually brings them back to the same old habits of trying to fill the "void" with food, a temporary taste (literally) of happiness.

My opinion.

Having to lose weight has always been a lifetime endeavor for me ever since my early childhood. The numerous diets tried throughout the years varied but they always seemed to do what they were meant to do...lose weight.... but keeping it off was another issue that never seemed to happen. That roller coaster of losses and gains continued ..... only making me feel more of a failure and defeated. The "fat" girl, is what I conceded to be... I was destined to remain big, for it was who I was. I was ready to settle for just that. And still, even having lost nearly 400 pounds.. I still feel fat.

It's amazing how a child being called that one single 3 letter word "fat", can carry with them so much power over the years. So much power that it molds your maladaptive thinking and behavioral actions during stressful and emotional times. Food became my comfort, my happiness, my escape, my secret, my dependancy, my coping....my life.

Hating myself so much, I felt no one could ever possibly love me, so with my depleted self esteem, I wore a mask to hide behind. Over the years with my feelings of self loathing, unloveability, unworthiness & failure; it was cemented into my being by many occurances over and over again, making my maladaptive thoughts become my reality; solidifying my neg core beliefs.

No amount of weight loss can rid you of the mental work one must have to do. I have to laugh when well meaning people say slurs to a obese/morbidly obese person, "well all you have to do is watch what you eat and exercise". This is pure ignorance to the whole situation; for if they understood, they would know that there's alot more than food and no exercise that gets a person to be obese/ morbidly obese...or super morbidly obese as I once was.

Losing weight is hard work...but even harder is the loss one must work on to remove the years of maladaptive thinking, behaviors and negative core beliefs. We all can lose weight... it's the changing of the mind, thought, behaviors and beliefs that is the hardest. Everything together can make weight loss successful, you cannot succeed without workin on it all.