Being RUDE is NOT giving support!

TempoChiarisce26
TempoChiarisce26 Posts: 43
in Motivation and Support
If im not mistaken, i thought this was supposed to be a site for support and motivation? I have a topic i just posted in one of the boards and....i cant for the life of me....why when someone asks a general help question, there is always one person who feels the need to be ruse and nasty about a comment. I dont get it. I am already feeling discouraged and this did not help one bit....UGH!
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  • Rum_Runner
    Rum_Runner Posts: 617 Member
    Ignore it and move on....simple
  • KANGOOJUMPS
    KANGOOJUMPS Posts: 6,474 Member
    i tend to disagree, it is what it is,,,,, honesty hurts.
  • My0WNinspiration
    My0WNinspiration Posts: 1,146 Member
    Ignore it....it's just the internet...geeez
  • _Timmeh_
    _Timmeh_ Posts: 2,096 Member
    I didn't see anyone being rude.
  • ahviendha
    ahviendha Posts: 1,291 Member
    support & motivation mean different things to different people.
  • GrandmaInTraining
    GrandmaInTraining Posts: 2
    For me it's hard not to take things personally. It's especially true if you are struggling and don't have much support at home. My advice: connect with someone who doesn't have that attitude. Good luck on your journey!
  • BrettPGH
    BrettPGH Posts: 4,716 Member
    1. It's a site for calorie counting. Not support. Too many people think support means "tell me everything I do is right."

    2. If only one person was negative you're lucky. Ignore them. Not everyone in life is nice.

    But I've got a feeling you just took my frank and honest advice as more rudeness anyway so...
  • xXxHBICxXx
    xXxHBICxXx Posts: 370 Member
    Some people suck tell them to F off and listen to the people that are being helpful. If I got upset over every time someone was an *kitten* to me over the internet I would never be happy.
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    I SUPPORT YOU AND EVERYTHING YOU DO!!!!!

    :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:
  • escloflowneCHANGED
    escloflowneCHANGED Posts: 3,038 Member
    1. It's a site for calorie counting. Not support. Too many people think support means "tell me everything I do is right."

    2. If only one person was negative you're lucky. Ignore them. Not everyone in life is nice.

    But I've got a feeling you just took my frank and honest advice as more rudeness anyway so...

    Stop being rude and mean!
  • TempoChiarisce26
    TempoChiarisce26 Posts: 43
    Thank you all for your comments. And you all are absolutely right. I need to not pay attention to the negative nelly's out there! And yes, sometimes people do think that by giving negative comments, it will make someone strive harder.... thats not me tho! I just needed to vent...so thanks for listening to me ***** and complain. I just need to suck it up and keep on truckin' :)
  • shunyata13
    shunyata13 Posts: 71 Member
    When people use a fictitious name they tend to be more rude because they don't have anyone to answer or account to. If they have a bad day they like to make yours bad as well - misery loves company. Some might be having issues loosing weight and want others to have problems as well. As the others have said. Ignore and move on. Ask to have members join you as friends and if any give you negative support drop them. You can be told the truth but it can always be worded in a supportive way rather than a rude way.
  • MidwestAngel
    MidwestAngel Posts: 1,897 Member
    1. It's a site for calorie counting. Not support. Too many people think support means "tell me everything I do is right."

    2. If only one person was negative you're lucky. Ignore them. Not everyone in life is nice.

    But I've got a feeling you just took my frank and honest advice as more rudeness anyway so...
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  • TempoChiarisce26
    TempoChiarisce26 Posts: 43
    But I've got a feeling you just took my frank and honest advice as more rudeness anyway so...

    Actually i didnt. I think you are right. life is not full of rainbows and butterflys, and i get it! i really do!
  • Yanicka1
    Yanicka1 Posts: 4,564 Member
    1. It's a site for calorie counting. Not support. Too many people think support means "tell me everything I do is right."

    2. If only one person was negative you're lucky. Ignore them. Not everyone in life is nice.

    But I've got a feeling you just took my frank and honest advice as more rudeness anyway so...
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  • BurtHuttz
    BurtHuttz Posts: 3,653 Member
    It's okay! You can get past it! YOU CAN DO IT!!! :heart: :flowerforyou:
  • Jacwhite22
    Jacwhite22 Posts: 7,010 Member
    I didn't see anyone being rude.

    This. I actually went into your thread.....(expecting it to be about shakeology/BBV/cleanses/paleo/atkins/etc) and was pleasantly surprised when it was not........Then I read through every response. I did not see any rude ones? Perhaps you are being slightly over-sensitive.


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  • KenosFeoh
    KenosFeoh Posts: 1,837 Member
    It's all in the delivery, isn't it? Two people can give essentially the same advice, but one comes across as snarky and condescending, and the other is helpful and supportive.

    Use the ignore feature. It feels so good to make the mean disappear!
  • jenbit
    jenbit Posts: 4,252 Member
    Gonna try to explain this nicely...... Most people on here aren't rude we're tired of giving advice and being critized for not telling people what they want to here. This inturn causes us to become more ,snappy,shall we say... Also just because you don't like someones advice it doesn't make them rude.....

    There are about 5000 versions of this thread currently in circulation and most of them are written because people don't like what they are told ..
  • ndj1979
    ndj1979 Posts: 29,136 Member
    this is the greatest thread ever...how is that for support?
  • CharliesInCharge
    CharliesInCharge Posts: 278 Member
    1. It's a site for calorie counting. Not support. Too many people think support means "tell me everything I do is right."

    2. If only one person was negative you're lucky. Ignore them. Not everyone in life is nice.

    But I've got a feeling you just took my frank and honest advice as more rudeness anyway so...

    QFT
  • LittleMiss_WillLoseIt
    LittleMiss_WillLoseIt Posts: 1,373 Member
    If you don't want people to give their opinions then you shouldn't be on the Internet. Sheessshhhhh.
  • ndj1979
    ndj1979 Posts: 29,136 Member
    1. It's a site for calorie counting. Not support. Too many people think support means "tell me everything I do is right."

    2. If only one person was negative you're lucky. Ignore them. Not everyone in life is nice.

    But I've got a feeling you just took my frank and honest advice as more rudeness anyway so...
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    This

    this is a calorie counting site? really, I thought it was soft porn...shrugs shoulders and deletes account...
  • TempoChiarisce26
    TempoChiarisce26 Posts: 43
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    This. I actually went into your thread.....(expecting it to be about shakeology/BBV/cleanses/paleo/atkins/etc) and was pleasantly surprised when it was not........Then I read through every response. I did not see any rude ones? Perhaps you are being slightly over-sensitive.
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    Its possible that i would be a little sensitive. Im just having a rough time and am feeling discouraged and didnt expect a response i got. but like i said, and some other epople have said...i just need to get over it, ignore them and focus on the positve :)
  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
    WHY does MFP have to be any different than the real world? I DON'T get the "whhhhhhhhhhaaaaaaaa I'm not getting support" threads.
    Generally if you want support, leave it to your page. Your friends are generally happier to answer a question others feel that they have answered a million times.
  • WendyTerry420
    WendyTerry420 Posts: 13,274 Member
    I didn't see anyone being rude.

    ^^ This

    I see *WAY* more unfounded complaining. I don't see rudeness except once in a blue moon, and when it happens, people always call them out and probably report them.
  • quirkytizzy
    quirkytizzy Posts: 4,052 Member
    1. It's a site for calorie counting. Not support. Too many people think support means "tell me everything I do is right."

    2. If only one person was negative you're lucky. Ignore them. Not everyone in life is nice.

    But I've got a feeling you just took my frank and honest advice as more rudeness anyway so...

    This. MFP is an extension of the real world. Do you really expect everyone in the real world to be nice and supportive of you and your goals?
  • cubizzle
    cubizzle Posts: 900 Member
    this thread is rude




    and divisive
  • BrettPGH
    BrettPGH Posts: 4,716 Member
    But I've got a feeling you just took my frank and honest advice as more rudeness anyway so...

    Actually i didnt. I think you are right. life is not full of rainbows and butterflys, and i get it! i really do!

    :noway:


    Sorry. I just get shocked when people actually listen instead of getting hurt and reporting me. Good on you!

    Now go make some more of that mac 'n cheese and shrug the rest off.
  • FitnessPalWorks
    FitnessPalWorks Posts: 1,128 Member
    this is a calorie counting site? really, I thought it was soft porn...shrugs shoulders and deletes account...
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