Why don't I look ok?

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  • DAM_Fine
    DAM_Fine Posts: 1,227 Member
    Not entirely certain you're getting an accurate body fat reading. I'm also 61" tall and weigh between 103-105 - and I'm at 19% BF, according to an immersion body fat test I had done at our local university. By the picture, I'd guess that about 25% would be more accurate.
  • MireyGal76
    MireyGal76 Posts: 7,334 Member
    regardless of your body fat percentage, if you look at any of those "curvy vs skinny" nasty threads, you will see that the majority find your body WAY more attractive than one like mine.

    If you want a body that is ripped, then it's a matter of pushing more weight and losing fat.

    I am NOT saying that you need to, because, many see what you have as abso-freaking-lutely ideal.



    If it makes you feel any better (and maybe it doesnt), but when I'm not looking in the mirror, I feel as big as a house. Sometimes I feel embarrassed at how fat I FEEL. Then I get up and look in the mirror and think... how can this be me? How is this my body when I feel so huge.


    Remember... FEELINGS do NOT equal fact!
  • giggitygoo
    giggitygoo Posts: 1,978 Member
    regardless of your body fat percentage, if you look at any of those "curvy vs skinny" nasty threads, you will see that the majority find your body WAY more attractive than one like mine.

    If you want a body that is ripped, then it's a matter of pushing more weight and losing fat.

    I am NOT saying that you need to, because, many see what you have as abso-freaking-lutely ideal.



    If it makes you feel any better (and maybe it doesnt), but when I'm not looking in the mirror, I feel as big as a house. Sometimes I feel embarrassed at how fat I FEEL. Then I get up and look in the mirror and think... how can this be me? How is this my body when I feel so huge.


    Remember... FEELINGS do NOT equal fact!

    YES. Perfect response.
  • jsherrill92
    jsherrill92 Posts: 775 Member
    I think you look great!
  • Elf_Princess1210
    Elf_Princess1210 Posts: 895 Member
    Why don't you go see a personal trainer, or a doctor that specializes in weight loss and have your body fat percentage measured. You're a healthy BMI for your height, so it just sounds like to me that you're feeling self conscious. Try focusing on being healthy, which is what my endocrinologist tells me all the time. Every girl has "fat" days

    *edited for spelling*
  • jennifer_417
    jennifer_417 Posts: 12,344 Member
    To be blunt....the problem is in your head, not your thighs. You need to think about why you think you look bad when you are at a healthy body weight and fat%. I would kill to have your waistline, girly!
  • SkimFlatWhite68
    SkimFlatWhite68 Posts: 1,254 Member
    I wouldn't be complaining if my body looked like that. You look ok to me.
  • Gallowmere1984
    Gallowmere1984 Posts: 6,626 Member
    You're not fat and your thighs are not big. Perhaps you should post a pic of the body type that you're aiming for so we get a better idea of what you're measuring against. It's easier to gauge that way.

    This. However, if you can find a way to approach your mentality in a way that isn't self destructive, you could do well. No, you aren't fat, but yes you could always be in better shape. There is no such thing as being 'finished', until you are dead.
  • tobejune
    tobejune Posts: 177
    Wow, thank you all for the great advice and support. I agree with what many said about my body fat % being higher than what it is measuring as... What is the most accurate way to get this reading anyway? I've seen a trainer at my gym and used their machine (a scale type thing with handles- don't know what it's called). Is this immersion thing supposed to be a better measure of body composition?

    As for my head being the problem, frankly, yes, I mostly agree with that now. Which is a weird head space to be in: "I know I'm not as fat as I think I am but.... I still FEEL that way." I really liked what one person said about feelings not making it a fact.

    Thanks again for all the responses and helpful advice!
  • now_or_never13
    now_or_never13 Posts: 1,575 Member
    Confidence is mental. Maybe your mind hasn't caught up to the smaller body you have.

    As another poster pointed out, please do not call yourself fat. You are no where near it.

    Your body changed after having a baby. You may never be able to get the same body as before.
  • jonnythan
    jonnythan Posts: 10,161 Member
    The best body fat measurement is the one you can repeat regularly. It doesn't really matter what the specific number is - what matters is whether you're increasing or decreasing it. A body fat scale is the simplest tool to use. I have a Fitbit Aria scale that has built-in WiFi. It's kinda awesome - I just step on it and it uploads my weight and bf% to the Fitbit website, which is synced up to MFP. It was about $120. You can get a non-wifi body fat scale for around $40.

    The other way is with calipers. They take some practice. I use the calipers once every two weeks or so usually. It's a bit more time consuming, but I think it's more accurate and you get actual direct measurements, and seeing those change is great.

    By the way - 920 calories ain't enough. You're not going to see the kind of progress you want by doing that.
  • moonsforeyes
    moonsforeyes Posts: 228
    Because society and airbrushing give us unrealsitic ideas of what our bodies should look like sadly.
  • alexbusnello
    alexbusnello Posts: 1,010 Member
    Here's a recent pic. Recent meaning I just went and hopped up on the toilet lid to use the only (dirty) mirror in the house for a god old fashioned selfie. Please forgive the still-sweaty workout clothes from earlier. I just figured WTH, it's 11:30 at night and it's mfp. Not a blind date or anything.... haha

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    you look amazing to me..
  • Reza151
    Reza151 Posts: 517 Member
    I WISH I had that sexy, flat stomach. You are beautiful and don't let your vision of other women or the media tell you otherwise. Btw, between 19 - 24% body fat (I think? Though correct me if im wrong) is considered athletic.
  • meltslez
    meltslez Posts: 1
    Looking at you and your numbers make me want to weep and starve myself. I am 1 inch taller than you and I weigh 135 and I am STRUGGLING!!! to get to 130. I have been gaining and losing the same 1 to 1.5 lbs since December. You look awesome!!! It could be worse. You could have 120 instead of 12 lbs to go. Keep smiling!
  • tobejune
    tobejune Posts: 177
    Thanks everyone. It's been extremely helpful to have the honest and supportive feedback. I'm feeling my motivation returning and trying to just let my thoughts and feelings around the way I *think* I look be, for now. I think I have suddenly realized that no amount of calorie counting, clean eating, cardio, or weight training will every change what I think I see in the mirror. That's only going to change once I change my attitude.

    In the past I've received some really upsetting and hurtful comments via the forums but this post and all the kind and considerate people who have responded and the ones who sent friend requests have restored my faith in the support on this site and in the forums.

    Thank you so much. :)

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