A NONJUDGMENTAL question about drinking
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I agree with almost everyother person on here. I have children and they leave every other weekend to go with their other parents (5 children btw) So occasionally I like to have a few drinks, because they taste delicious. Same reason I enjoy certain things I eat. When I have a social gathering (with adults) for instance like I'm having tonight (sort of a poker night) it's kind of nice to let loose a little and have some adult fun for a change. I posted a thread earlier also on low calorie drinks, not because I'm wanting to get drunk but because I'm on a diet and don't see why it's a problem to enjoy a couple of alcoholic drinks. The relaxation factor is a HUGE one and to be honest wether we want to get drunk or not, it does happen. Just nice for someone like myself who is constantly on the go always putting my kids first, running around like a chicken with my head cut off, always on routine routinr routine, to just release a little and enjoy some adult time.0
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I never used to drink until I found Satan. Now I drink all the time, and jaywalk too.... Kidding, I kid...:flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:
This cracked me up....sorry!
Me too!0 -
I raised three ,if I had five I'd be a lusch!I agree with almost everyother person on here. I have children and they leave every other weekend to go with their other parents (5 children btw) So occasionally I like to have a few drinks, because they taste delicious. Same reason I enjoy certain things I eat. When I have a social gathering (with adults) for instance like I'm having tonight (sort of a poker night) it's kind of nice to let loose a little and have some adult fun for a change. I posted a thread earlier also on low calorie drinks, not because I'm wanting to get drunk but because I'm on a diet and don't see why it's a problem to enjoy a couple of alcoholic drinks. The relaxation factor is a HUGE one and to be honest wether we want to get drunk or not, it does happen. Just nice for someone like myself who is constantly on the go always putting my kids first, running around like a chicken with my head cut off, always on routine routinr routine, to just release a little and enjoy some adult time.0 -
I actually love the taste of beer,I also love that buzz you get after about 13 of them:drinker:
Everything is better after a few cold ones,sports ,conversations ,weddings ,birthdays ,beaches , golf ,lawn mowing ,swimming ,sex ,etc ,etc
LOL
I agree..especially the lawn mowing!! I come from a country full of binge drinkers..there is something cultural as well as social about drinking. When I worked in investment banking it was damn near compulsory to get totally drunk every day. Now I drink every so often to relax and, like you say, because it tastes good!
This is very well said, I love an ice cold beer, or a whiskey and coke....but I'm on a diet so I have to skip those for a little while. When I drink beer it's not at all because I want to get drunk, although beer buzz's are fun I just absolutly love the taste of an ice cold beer on a hot day, same way I love Hot chocolate or coffee on a cold day
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Personally, I love the taste of a glass of Reisling wine. The taste is my favorite part about it, but the relaxing aspect can be nice too. Sometimes it's like taking a big breath and just letting it out.
As for getting drunk, that isn't something I do often. However, occasionally it's nice to have your inhibitions lowered within a group of friends and do things you might not normally do - like sing playing Rock Band, dance at a club or just open up with friends and talk about things.
Each person is different, but some people enjoy just letting loose, relaxing or savoring the taste of a good alcoholic beverage.
I think this sums it up perfectly - at least for me.0 -
A number of psychological effects accompany alcohol because of its psychoactive properties. Initially, the user experiences feelings of sociability and elation. A feeling of mild euphoria, relaxation, and increased self-confidence may be experienced. Many report that alcohol helps to alleviate tension and stress.
This is why people have been drinking since it was first invented in 6000 BC. Notice where it says Initially? That means a few drinks because if you drink too much you lose the initial effects of alcohol and get into more negative side effects. Most of the people who drink are looking for the initial effects and not looking to get drunk even if they say they are going to get drunk this weekend. It's just a figure of speech that you take too literal.0 -
Personally, I love the taste of a glass of Reisling wine. The taste is my favorite part about it, but the relaxing aspect can be nice too. Sometimes it's like taking a big breath and just letting it out.
As for getting drunk, that isn't something I do often. However, occasionally it's nice to have your inhibitions lowered within a group of friends and do things you might not normally do - like sing playing Rock Band, dance at a club or just open up with friends and talk about things.
Each person is different, but some people enjoy just letting loose, relaxing or savoring the taste of a good alcoholic beverage.
I think this sums it up perfectly - at least for me.
Ah I couldn't have said this better if I wanted to! Exactly how I feel! Thanks for saying it for me lol! 0 -
I never used to drink until I found Satan. Now I drink all the time, and jaywalk too.... Kidding, I kid...:flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou:
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I am not a "drink to get drunk" person. I know at the weight I am, I can have 2 drinks, comfortably. When I was 15 lbs fatter, I could have 3 drinks. After that, dizzy & uncomfortable. I do like the taste of beer, wine, and many various cocktails; martinis in particular. I have never understood people who claim that they only drink beer or wine, but not hard alcohol. They are all the same. I love bourbon, gin & vodka drinks. They are delicious. Not so crazy about rum, and can get sick of margaritas/tequila pretty quickly. Drinking is a social lubricant. When drank in moderation, it can stimulate conversation and get people to reveal more of themselves than when they are sober and more guarded. The key is MODERATION. All cultures in society have drinks that are custom. My parents are fundamentalist Christians. They can be pretty judgmental about drinking. They make assumptions about a person based on whether or not they drink. This is not fair. I don't HAVE to drink. I CHOOSE to drink. I have a 20 year marriage and 4 well-adjusted kids. If my drinking interfered with any of that, I could, and would, stop.
I agree with everything here. This pretty much summarizes me (except the marriage and kids part!) and my views on the subject. However, depending on what it is, I could probably have a few more than 3 before getting "buzzed". And sometimes I do have "a few too many". But I am a big kid and slap myself on the wrist the next morning (or afternoon!) when I wake up feeling like crap. I know it is not conducive to my weight loss regimen, but it is a decision I am willing to live with, but only once in a while. Do I need booze to have fun? No. But in situations that might otherwise be stressful or uncomfortable, that is how I choose to relax. I have enough stress in my life that I welcome a little break from that occasionally.0 -
As someone with a history of alcohol abuse (my husband worked for a brewery for almost a decade and I have to say that free beer tastes better than anything) I can confirm that if you are a "regular" drinker that getting drunk feels good. You don't get the nausia or "spinning head" issues or hangovers as much because your body gets used to the amount of alcohol you are drinking . . . and as with many things it takes more and more to get that "drunk" feeling as time goes on. All gatherings with friends always circled around drinking, it was completely a social activity for us for years.
We gave it up cold turkey 4 years ago and no longer have many friends because they actually became quite annoying (ha ha, we were never than annoying were we?). We will have a drink or two at the most now, just in the last year or so, but have never again gone back to the levels that we once consumed.
Alcohol is an addiction, just like cigarettes or drugs. Many people can not explain to you why they drink, just as many people cannot explain why they overate so much to become obese . . . addiction is addiction it doesn't matter what the "drug".0 -
Personally, I love the taste of a glass of Reisling wine. The taste is my favorite part about it, but the relaxing aspect can be nice too. Sometimes it's like taking a big breath and just letting it out.
As for getting drunk, that isn't something I do often. However, occasionally it's nice to have your inhibitions lowered within a group of friends and do things you might not normally do - like sing playing Rock Band, dance at a club or just open up with friends and talk about things.
Each person is different, but some people enjoy just letting loose, relaxing or savoring the taste of a good alcoholic beverage.
And this is great too....especially the middle part!!0 -
Indeed - without alcohol there would be no karaoke
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I used to drink a lot, because I loved the taste and the sugariness more than feeling drunk - hence why I am on MFP...all those empty calories. As someone else said, though, a good red wine with a steak is a wonder; the flavours just go so well together.
Life should be about enjoying the small pleasures, like a glass of wine, or a beer, or a double G&T, or a run, or a piece of cake of an evening. As with anything, it's about knowing when to stop.0 -
I actually love the taste of beer,I also love that buzz you get after about 13 of them:drinker:
Everything is better after a few cold ones,sports ,conversations ,weddings ,birthdays ,beaches , golf ,lawn mowing ,swimming ,sex ,etc ,etc
The more I drink, the better looking I become! :drinker:0 -
I actually love the taste of beer,I also love that buzz you get after about 13 of them:drinker:
Everything is better after a few cold ones,sports ,conversations ,weddings ,birthdays ,beaches , golf ,lawn mowing ,swimming ,sex ,etc ,etc
hahahahahaha! Love it
I've actually just poured myself a lovely glass of wine....the first of the week and it is going to go down a treat! :drinker:0 -
Cheers,yall have a great weekend how ever you do it,I'm outta here!:drinker:0
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I actually love the taste of beer,I also love that buzz you get after about 13 of them:drinker:
Everything is better after a few cold ones,sports ,conversations ,weddings ,birthdays ,beaches , golf ,lawn mowing ,swimming ,sex ,etc ,etc
The more I drink, the better looking I become! :drinker:
Is that so? Hmm, maybe I should start drinking then and see if that works for me too. :laugh: naaaahhh :bigsmile:0 -
Well- I had a few too many last night, but I sure was dissappointed when I had to enter them into my food diary!
I think a couple of beers, or a glass of wine after work are the ticket for me. All I can say is -"It just feels good!." And once in awhile it IS fun to really let loose, but as said before, not condusive to the diet! I think it's best to stick to one or two.
Cheers!:drinker:0 -
Maybe you just didnt try enough times.
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It's a flavor thing for me too. I don't really drink to unwind and I don't drink often at all (maybe once a month, if that) but when I do drink it's because I really have a craving for the salty, sour, sweetness of a margarita, or a nice fruity spicy red wine, or if I'm celebrating at a restaurant for a special occasion I may want to try their signature cocktail just like anyone else would like to try their signature dessert. Dessert isn't my thing, a cappuccino isn't my thing, a fruity cocktail? So refreshing.
I will say though once a year when I get together with old friends that I never see back home, it's nice to let my hair down, catch a buzz, and sing some ridiculous karaoke. I never get drunk enough to where I can't wake up at 8am the next day or can't remember what I did the previous night. Everything in moderation.0 -
MommaRed>>> I am also a Christian, and see nothing wrong with drinking a beer or a glass of wine. The Bible actually does not say to not drink, it simply states do not drink to excess. The apostle Paul exhorted Timothy to take a little wine for the stomach. There have been many days when I have wanted to come home and open a beer to destress from a hard day at work or when I go out with friends, but most of the medicine that I am taking for my headaches cannot be taken with any kind of alcohol, so until the doctor takes me off it, I am pretty much a teetotaler. Every person is different, but that is my personal belief on the matter.0
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Valqis, just to clarify, I don't sit in judgment of anyone even other Christians who chose to drink. It's just that the church I belong to (an independent fundamental Baptist church) doesn't condone drinking and that's fine with me because I just don't have the desire to drink anyway. I do know Christians who do have an occasional drink and that's their perogative. My kids do. Well my son doesn't now that he moved back in with me because I don't allow alcohol in my home. I'm a self-professed teetotaler by choice. My son thinks I made that word up. :laugh: Thanks for your post and for everyone else who posted. I'm glad this didn't turn ugly.
The way I see it if someone doesn't try to pressure me TO drink, I won't try to pressure them to NOT to drink. :bigsmile: I hope everyone has a happy and safe holiday. :flowerforyou:0 -
3 pages of answers and I only glanced at the first few.
I agree with you. I don't "get" it. Sure, I had a time in my life where I drank almost every weekend (early 20's) - but it only lasted a few months. It was a social thing and it was usually my girl friends who'd drag me out and buy. I never really enjoyed the feeling of drinking too much and definitely not the dry mouth, nausea and headache the next day! I rarely drink now, and when I do it's usually because my boyfriend is having one and makes or buys me one too when I'm with him.(and I often don't finish it because it makes me sleepy and I just don't enjoy it much - plus the calories are high!)
When one of my children was here visiting not too long ago (she was 20 at the time) she pointed out to me that she wanted me to go out for her to her 21st birthday drinking with her.... because she thought it would be funny to get me drunk as she's NEVER seen me drunk!!! (No, I didn't go when the time came) I found that to be an unintended compliment- because no kid should EVER have to see a parent drunk. I was raised by an alcoholic, and her father/my ex husband was/is also an alcoholic - we split up when she was less than 2 years old and his drinking and other bad habits pretty much caused him to step out of all our lives for the most part and he was rarely around.... and the few times he was were, his visits often got cut short due to his drinking. I remember driving 3 hours to pick my kids up once when he had taken them camping for a weekend during the summer and they called me scared and had to wander in the dark to the check in office to get the camp clerk to give me directions to come get them because they didn't even know where they were (they were about 11 & 13 at the time) The next morning he called me and didn't know where they were- he didn't even remember my being there, feeding him, putting him to bed and telling him I was taking them home AT ALL!! I am proud that my children can tell people that they've never seen me drink. :bigsmile:
Anyway.... Enough rambling and back to the question. I am not anti-drinking, I believe people should live their lives as they feel. But I have never enjoyed a hangover, seen the bad effects of alcohol on so many people around me and really don't think it tastes THAT wonderful that I couldn't live without it, I'd definitely prefer to "waste" my calories on an extra dessert or something But I agree with you, I don't understand the attraction or need for it because everything seems perfectly fine in MY LIFE without it.
(Now I'm going to read the rest of the answers) 0 -
Indeed - without alcohol there would be no karaoke)
:laugh: So so true!! 0 -
Indeed - without alcohol there would be no karaoke)
:laugh: So so true!! 0 -
I'm a big drinker. I used to drink more, but now its only on weekends.
To be honest, I drink to get drunk. I don't see a point in having one or two beers. Sometimes I am happy with just getting a buzz, but I usually get drunk. I enjoy the feeling of being drunk. I admire people who don't need to drink to have a great time. Sometimes I can do this and when it happens I am very proud of myself the morning after. Every morning after I regret drinking the night before. I have a stuttering problem. When I socialize with other people, alcohol always helps my anxiety from that. Anxiety has always been an issue with me, so that and stuttering kind of fuel each others fire.
I used to drink every day pretty much. I would drink with people or alone. It was a bad habit to get into. Alcohol just made me feel good, but bad the next day. I am happy I got out of that habit of having it every day. I want to switch from drinking twice a week to once a week. I know its the alcohol that is keeping me from losing weight. When I drink, I eat bad, and I get hungover so I don't work out. Alcohol is the worst thing for you on a diet. People who can just have one or two drinks...or none at all...I hope to get there some day!
also...I don't agree that alcohol makes things better. Its good for BBQing or watching a game....but if its physical activity like sex or playing sports...its much better sober!0 -
I'd like to state my opinion on this without anyone getting upset with me.. I have a very strong view on alcohol. Coming from a family filled with problem drinkers, I see no need for it. My mother is drunk every day (and hides it around the house) and every party...including children's birthday parties there is always alcohol served. I just can not deal with drunk people.
Social drinkers are fine, but it's just not my thing.
I wish I felt this way about smokers before I started that habit! ... /sigh0 -
agreed!!0
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I would agree with a lot that's already been said - that drinking doesn't necessarily mean getting drunk and that even when it does, as long as it's not a regular activity, I don't really see anything wrong with it. I've had some stellar nights with a bunch of friends, a bunch of wine, and SingStar! LOL.
I'm a wine girl - I love it. If it weren't for wine, drinking would barely be on my radar (other than the aforementioned SingStar nights!), but I'm fascinated by the different qualities wine has and most nights I enjoy a glass or two. If it were possible to have wine maintain its characteristics without the alcohol, that would be fine by me, but alcohol content is one element that affects its different qualities....
To each his own - it would be a better world if we could all have mature discussions like this rather than getting all wound up and judgemental!0 -
I completely agree AnnieeR. I appreciate the comments from everyone that responded and it was without being judgmental without the personal attacks. Thank you all and have a great weekend. :flowerforyou:0
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