How to lose weight without husband's support?

NEVER FAST!!!

To be honest. I would have a serious sit down talk with him. Tell him you will not eat anymore of his high fat food. So from now on cook for yourself and he can cook for his self. You do not have to eat what he fixes. Get up and fix your own. Say sorry but I can not eat that and follow through.

I fix what my husband wants but I also add what I can eat. He is happy and so am I. You have to take a stand.....just my 2 cents worth.

I won't add more to the comments on the husband...

Maybe try eating his choice at weekend but having lower calorie stuff in the week.

Look for an exercise video aimed at people with arthritis (there are some - they generally say "over 50") and once you get more flexible you may find you can walk or cycle (never run! It is bad for knees!)

And keep coming ehre for support - feel free to friend me!

When it comes to your health and wellness, your husband has to be a nonfactor. Take control of your own weightloss, you own it. You need to let him know, that until further notice, you will be cooking your own meals. You are a grown woman, you do not need his permission to do this. You know your body and what you can and cannot handle. As you age, your medical conditions will get worse, if you are obese and it will be harder and harder to get the weight off, do it now.

MFP is a great source of support, but you must be proactive in your own health. Best of luck to you and feel free to friend me.

Yeah, THIS^^^. I do what I want with my body. My husband wasn't supportive, either. But I ignored his complaints, and it essentially came down to he could either roll with me or get run over. I'm a stubborn lady. You gotta take care of YOU, especially with your health issues. Big hugs to you....I know this stuff is really stressful.

Sounds like your first weight loss goal should be kicking him to the curb. There is such a thing as tough love and sometimes we need to hear and do the things that push us outside of our comfort zone but come on. What a jerk!

wow lose a quick 160 lbs or so DUMP HIM ASAP it wont get anybetter and he wont change i have been there

I'm sorry that you're in this situation and I hope you can find a solution. The number of unsupportive significant others I see posted is just unbelievable to me.

I think that you need to express to him your concerns without blaming it on him or criticizing him. Maybe explain to him that you do love his food and you would love to eat it on occasion however with your body type and your metabolism it is hard for you to eat those kind of things. Maybe suggest that you do some research to see what ingredients to his meals you can replace with healthier ingredients. And tell him you are going on a walk. And just go. There is no need to allow yourself to feel like crap because of his insecurities.... and trust me him not supporting you is 100% about his insecurities.

Skip the "get some counseling" and tell ur hubby "I'm losing weight for myself, not for you, not for anyone else, I'm doing this all for myself." Then do your own cooking and if he has a problem with it, when he's out of the house running / working do your own cooking so when it's time for him to cook just tell "Thanks for cooking honey but I already ate!" What you need isn't counseling.....you need "Support and Encouragement" from your Friends on MFP to help you get thru this stage of your life. Hang in there and do this for yourself and no one else.......PERIOD.:flowerforyou:

Maybe ask him to make a weekly menu, create his recipes in MFP and then portion out an appropriate amount of what he's made for dinner. I would build in the dinner at the beginning of the day and eat accordingly for breakfast, lunch and snacks to afford the meals he is preparing. My husband isn't exactly on board with eating healthy either... but I have learned how to allow myself the meals he loves to make and still stay on target. Good luck to you... I know it is difficult to live this lifestyle without support... but remember, he doesn't have to eat the way you do and YOU truly have the right to eat the way you want. Sometimes, I just refuse to eat what he's made and eat cereal for dinner. He may not like it... but he sure LOVES the way I look now compared to two years ago.

It sounds like the food could be a challenge to change, on a number of levels. How about the exercise factor? Are there things you could do on your own, even if it has to be when he's not around, for now? Water-supported exercise is supportive for those with joint issues, whether that's swimming or aqua-aerobics or similar? Walking is also very good, especially if things are a bit fragile (I have a knee issue from an old injury, and used walking to lose 55lbs - I've only recently begun to add in strength and higher-impact exercise, and have promptly gained a couple of pounds, and lost several inches).

I'm not going to comment on your husband or relationship, but I would encourage you to identify the areas you can change without any stress or interference as a first step. The confidence you'll gain from doing so and the results from following through on those things should make it easier to tackle the bigger, harder things in due course.

NEVER fast!!! It doesn't matter what ANYONE says, it's bad for you. Always eat breakfast, it's boosts the metabolism. Fiber is awesome for you. Just make sure to drink tons of water. Trust me, this is what I do and I've met my weight loss goal and then some. Fasting will put your body into starvation mode. If you don't eat enough calories, you WILL NOT lose weight.

Dude, give it up, you sound like a broken record that no one listens to. I fast 3-5 times a week and it works fine for me. I've lost 33 lbs doing and and am still losing. Oh, and I rarely eat breakfast. So to say that it NEVER works or that it ALWAYS is bad for you is just laughable. Maybe it doesn't work for you, great, no one cares. Give your advice once and move on without coming off as obnoxious.

Ah..I know how tough RA can be...my mother in law has it too. I know that even the simplest tasks around the house can be quite a handful and throw in an unsupportive husband - that can be a lot to take. If you don't have trouble chopping things, power to you. Else, get pre-cut vegetables and meats and cook them. Either ways, if you share a household, both of you need to have a say on how things are done. You should not have to beg and plead with him to let you cook a meal reasonable enough to you. That just sucks.

When it comes to your health and wellness, your husband has to be a nonfactor. Take control of your own weightloss, you own it. You need to let him know, that until further notice, you will be cooking your own meals. You are a grown woman, you do not need his permission to do this. You know your body and what you can and cannot handle. As you age, your medical conditions will get worse, if you are obese and it will be harder and harder to get the weight off, do it now.

MFP is a great source of support, but you must be proactive in your own health. Best of luck to you and feel free to friend me.

All of the above - my other half is always bringing home inappropriate foods, chocolates, cakes etc. I leave him to it - he eats it all himself as I won't empower him to make choices for me!! I'm now 65 and only just beginning to take control - so you CAN do it too. Polite but firm - say no thank you!!!

Just curious but he's a Chef and he's fit. What kind of meals is he preparing?