Exboyfriend just dumped me :(

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  • redladywitch
    redladywitch Posts: 799 Member
    Did you log the 250 pound loss?
  • ladymiseryali
    ladymiseryali Posts: 2,555 Member

    I wish it was as easy at taking a tool and just scraping off the layers though......But then you would have to deal with all the blood and flesh on the floor afterwards.

    Tell me about it. I'd have some chiseled abs right about now...

    But then, the finished product is always more valuable when you endure the process it takes to make it.

    So true.
  • WaterBunnie
    WaterBunnie Posts: 1,371 Member
    Congratulations, you've now freed up space in your life for someone who'll be there for the long haul - whatever size you are - rather than just the periods you fall between his ideal BMI.

    Don't internalise it, get on with living YOUR life the way you want to and don't be defined by what someone else thinks of you!
  • jimmh559
    jimmh559 Posts: 15 Member
    And he broke up with me for being fat, after I had started to lose weight haha. Ahhhh it drives me crazy,

    Been there, I got set back 4 months (Gain 5lbs. and could not get them off) after I got broken up with for being overweight.

    Best advise I can give: Don't let this motivate you to loose weight, let this motivate you to find the right person to spend the rest of your life with.
  • keepingm0tivated
    keepingm0tivated Posts: 39
    You're better than him, okay? okay. It's his loss.
  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    Aw, I feel really bad for her. She's only nineteen and that was a mean reason to break up and her only two pics are kissing with "him". I remember those days and those feelings. And she said her reason on her profile was because he supported her in doing her weight loss. I'm not sure if he really did, or what but if your goal was to lose weight just know that your size is irrelevant to his love and vice versa. Confusing but let me tell you what I mean. I had a bf once tell me when I was thin 115 lbs. that if I ever gained weight he could not love me. I had a terrible health problem/injury and bedridden gained to 189 lbs. When he saw me again we had broken up before my injury, he said I never thought I could love you more, but I actually do. I love you more like this.

    The opposite is that when I was thin I had a boyfriend who always looked at much heavier women, until he started cheating on me with them. Then he married a skinny girl. CONFUSING? So my point is that a man will love you if he loves you not about the weight and they are just as confused about it as we are. Get it, so your only option is to get at a goal weight that makes you feel happy so you can share that happiness with whomever ends up being there to enjoy it with you. The happiness, not the goal weight. Understood? Have a nice evening trying to make sense of my post instead of trying to make sense of him. LOL.
  • Ascolti_la_musica
    Ascolti_la_musica Posts: 676 Member
    If someone breaks up with you for "Being fat" then he's obviously not the right choice! Won't it be nice to flip him off and tell him to go f**k himself when you're at the end of your weight loss goal? Haha what a loser he is!
    Just to let you know 99% of men care about the fiscall attractiveness of wemon. ergo if your ugly men would rather the hotter chick.

    One should not use words like "ergo" when one cannot spell more common words, like "physical."

    GTFO, douche.
  • Lupercalia
    Lupercalia Posts: 1,857 Member
    If someone breaks up with you for "Being fat" then he's obviously not the right choice! Won't it be nice to flip him off and tell him to go f**k himself when you're at the end of your weight loss goal? Haha what a loser he is!
    Just to let you know 99% of men care about the fiscall attractiveness of wemon. ergo if your ugly men would rather the hotter chick.

    One should not use words like "ergo" when one cannot spell more common words, like "physical."

    GTFO, douche.

    Hey, maybe he meant their bank accounts! LOL :laugh:
  • lythy77
    lythy77 Posts: 33 Member
    if he does not accept you at your worst then he does not deserve you at your best.
    onward's and upwards girl. chin up you deserve so much more. its his loss really.
  • Lupercalia
    Lupercalia Posts: 1,857 Member
    OP, It's probably difficult right now, but this guy did you a big favour. Be glad he's gone. More time to focus on you. Some of the happiest times of my life were when I was single and didn't have to consider anyone else's needs or wishes. Seriously! Use it to your advantage. :flowerforyou: :heart:
  • meshashesha2012
    meshashesha2012 Posts: 8,329 Member
    I feel like theres another side of the story I am not hearing...

    yep. he dumped her for being overweight once she started losing weight and was probably overweight when they met/started dating..

    something in this isnt adding up but i do love how so many people are quick to label the ex or current or whatever he is as a jerk :laugh:
  • babydiego87
    babydiego87 Posts: 905 Member
    wait i dont get it. if he's your ex how could he dump you?
    are you really this...?

    OP even more reason to get in shape. what an *kitten*, when you get slim you can tell him to fark off IMO
  • TavistockToad
    TavistockToad Posts: 35,719 Member
    And he broke up with me for being fat, after I had started to lose weight haha. Ahhhh it drives me crazy,

    if he dumped you for that, he is a w*nker, and you are better off without him!
  • Tanja_CHH
    Tanja_CHH Posts: 216 Member
    Its not worth eating to feel better. I had some problems with my boyfriend and instantly went off my diet, a month later I had gained a STONE!! in a month!! And only just started getting back to healthy eating again.
  • babydiego87
    babydiego87 Posts: 905 Member
    I feel like theres another side of the story I am not hearing...

    yep. he dumped her for being overweight once she started losing weight and was probably overweight when they met/started dating..

    something in this isnt adding up but i do love how so many people are quick to label the ex or current or whatever he is as a jerk :laugh:
    thats rich, something not adding up, yet you couldnt work out what the op meant with her title :huh:
  • sPaRkLiNgLYFE
    sPaRkLiNgLYFE Posts: 609
    He'll be back, they always try to come back
  • Tatiyanya
    Tatiyanya Posts: 255 Member
    His arseholist ways did you a favour for reals. Use the hell out of it, hate his guts with furious power, cos he is /obviously/ a doucheball and motherlicker for breaking up using your weight as a reason WHILE YOU BLOODY LOOSING IT. It's obviously made up reason and he is just trying to blame you and get rid of guild/responsibility like that.
    Use the dislike and hurt to power you through extra hard workouts and let it motivate you .

    What jumpstarted my weightloss year ago was precisely your situation with only difference that i got propelled to break up by my chubbychaser ex cos I dared to go from 120 to 100kg O.o. Your ex *kitten* is even better as motivation tool. Heh, tool.

    I know its bad to call for hate and I should rather say "forgive him and build your inner peace on that foregiveness" but I say "F*** HIM , FEED ON YOUR HATE.

    >.>
    <.<

    Worked for me,ok?

    If you need any further form of really unhealthy emotionally support, I am at your command :wink:

    Edit:
    And they do always try to come back, and if weight was used as an argument while the girl already started the road to fit and healthy her...yep, he's a jerkward.
  • xampx
    xampx Posts: 323 Member
    DO NOT get back with him when you are super healthy and hot! He is obviously an unsupportive A-hole.

    Partners are meant to love you AS YOU ARE!
  • Nutella91
    Nutella91 Posts: 624 Member
    when i get hurt or jealous i usually lose weight, i can't eat... at least that's one good thing
  • styledsky
    styledsky Posts: 121 Member
    For what it's worth - being dumped sucks, we've all been there (more than once), and although it hurts like hell to hear it now, you're better off with someone who only lusted after the superficial exterior and didn't love the inner you. Chin up hon, you're going to be just fine.
  • dovetail22uk
    dovetail22uk Posts: 339 Member
    Eh! You're young and beautiful - it's his loss!

    You'll be his "one that got away" in the future and you'll be laughing :heart: :heart: :drinker:
  • chellebublz
    chellebublz Posts: 568 Member
    Really? People are ragging on her because "something doesn't add up"? I'm pretty sure it's not meant to add up for everyone else and she doesn't need to explain herself. Could be a billion reasons, but which ever reason, you are better off without him. Don't let it ruin your attempt at a healthier life. Do it for YOU and if he truly broke up with you for your weight, when it's gone it will be mighty fun to rub in his face xD
  • Change_is_Good_
    Change_is_Good_ Posts: 272 Member
    when i get hurt or jealous i usually lose weight, i can't eat... at least that's one good thing

    Jealous of this ^ I'm an emotional eater dagnabit

    Anyway OP, it feels like the end of the world now, you will probably want all the comfortfood you can get your hands on if you are anything like me. Also if you are like me you won't care at the time, but after you will feel 10 times worse.

    Break ups are horrible but as much as it feels like it, it is not the end of the world and you will find someone else.

    Chin up chicken it gets better promise
  • hendongirl
    hendongirl Posts: 156 Member
    so what you're saying is you just lost a whole bunch of man-shaped excess weight? looking good, girl. don't need him anyway xx power ahead and focus on the good to come x

    Yes this!!!! :)

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