Okay, I HAVE HAD IT!! (help please)

I'm not great at supporting others, but I do want to recommend that you work on whatever leads you to binge eating and the binge eating even before you work on working out or "eating right". Often, trying to go too hard or changing a bunch of things at once can actually trigger binge eating and make the situation worse.

I highly recommned the book "the Beck Diet Solution". It is not a diet book, it teaches a cognitive behavioral therapy approach to weight loss. It has 6 weeks worth of daily exercises to help you work through some issues. It does not tackle the root emotional issues that may be causing your binge eating, but it teaches you to respond in a healthy way to urges to eat or over eat.

I've worked through the book a few times in the last year and I think that many of the exercises have helped me lost the weight I have lost, and, more imporantly, not gain it all back and then some when I hit rough patches. I still occasionally struggle with the urges to binge and eat for emotional reasons, but I have still managed to get back on track and not beat myself up when they have happened.

If you do decide to get the book, I strongly urge you to do everything with an open mind and be brutally honest with yourself. That's the only way to get anywhere. I think I owned the book for at least 3 years before I really put the effort in to doing all the exercises no matter how stupid they seemed. I wasn't successful at losing and maintaining a loss during those 3 years...wonder of wonder, now that I've worked through the CBT exercises, I've seen a lot of success.

MFP is an awesome place to come for support and advice. For all the struggles you are going through, guaranteed you'll find someone on here that has had a similar struggle. But, having said that, none of us can reach through our screen and take that pizza off your plate. YOU are the only person that can control what you eat and how much you exercise. You have to do this for YOU. Plan ahead, pre-log your meals, don't wait until you're starving to eat. If you get home without a meal planned and you're starving and there's a hot pizza right there - it would take super power strength to resist it. That's why it's on you to plan ahead and be mindful of what you're doing.

Also, throughout this process, my husband regularly eats candy, giant portions, etc. in front of me - stuff I don't have room for in my calorie budget. I don't get mad at him for it and I don't feel that he isn't being supportive. Just because I'm limiting my caloric intake doesn't mean he has to. Just because I'm avoiding certain foods, doesn't mean he has to. Why should I force what I'm doing on him? That would be rather selfish of me.

I am in the same boat as you. I am a binge eater and my husband is a pizza junkie and snack food junkie too. It makes it so hard to make it worse he is skinny! Ugh.