Feeling like yourself after weight loss..

I recently lost about 35 pounds, from 175-140lbs. I'm 5'6", but fairly muscular with big butt/thighs, went from 30% BF to 22%. My husband has been deployed for the last 6 months, and when he left I was still carrying major baby weight, but we've been together for 8 years and I've never been smaller than 155ish (size 8) in that time, and he has always loved my body at every size (he is a very good man). Now I am a size 4, my face is thin, my boobs are smaller from weight loss and breastfeeding, I have stretchmarks from pregnancy, but also abs now actually. I went shopping for the first time since meeting my goal weight and I was still shopping in the 8s and Larges and couldn't really wrap my head around the smaller sizes. The styles I wore all my life (and loved, because I have always been a proud curvy girl) are not really flattering on me anymore so I am feeling lost in that department. Then I had three people I know really well, but hadn't seen in a few months not even recognize me at all when I ran into them. I facetimed with my dad for the first time in a month and he said I looked really different.

Don't get me wrong, I am happy that I am healthier now and excited (as most women would be) to wear smaller sizes and all that jazz. I wanted to be a good example for my daughter and that is my goal moving forward as well, but I am sort of having a crisis of not feeling like myself. When I look in the mirror I look exactly the same as I always have, but it is kind of alarming to have everyone around me reacting strangely or treating me differently all of a sudden and so I am constantly thinking "Do I look weird or something? Am I not able to see what I really look like?". On top of that, I lost most of this weight while at home for 2 months over the holidays (because I had someone to watch my daughter and could actually go to the gym every day) so when I came back I was as small as or smaller than my girlfriends and whether they are actually treating me differently or not, it FEELS like something is different. My oldest friend back home is doing the Optifast program so she has lost dramatic weight as well, but she feels MORE like herself and I feel so much less so.

I'm sure that it will pass, but I can't help but feel worried that my husband is going to get off the bus from Afghanistan and not recognize me. Or that he won't like the woman he is coming home to because he was always a T&A kind of guy. I'm just desperate to feel like myself again! Does anyone have any experience with this? I don't feel comfortable talking to close family or friends about this because it seems sort of socially unacceptable to whine about being uncomfortable with being thinner, if that makes sense.