Just needing to vent...

...I take full responsibility for my actions, but I have some really bad habits that I need to break because my life depends on it.

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For this I applaud you, You have the answer now.

"“The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.” Carl Rogers"
Here is good info:
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/654536-in-place-of-a-road-map-2-0-revised-7-2-12

I can totally relate---in fact I felt that way most of my life. The problem is that, with that kind of mindset/attitude, "I'm going to start tomorrow," usually means, "I'm going to try and reach my unreasonable goals/expectations of myself tomorrow, torture myself for a few days and then give up and hate myself all over again."

So, my advice is: TOMORROW, pick one food/meal that you would feel "great" about having eaten instead of your usual fare. Do it, and skip the one you would feel bad about. Try to do this 4 times this week. Same with exercise: pick one day that you can fit a workout in, (there are tons of websites like nerdfitness that the members here love--just do a search on "at home workouts,"). Try to get another workout in at another time this week. Sure, 4 "healthy meals" (or skipping of "unhealthy meals,) and 2 workouts may not seem like much, but if you can achieve this mid-range goal, next Sunday, you will feel a lot better about yourself. If you can keep it up for a month, you'll feel tons better and then you can add more.

A famous phrase/mantra on here: "You didn't get this way, (physically or emotionally,) overnight and you can't undo it overnight either." It will take a lot of steps forward and almost as many back. Just keep one step ahead, set realistic goals and be patient/kind with yourself---THAT will lead to a lifetime change instead of just another cog in a self-destructive cycle.

Good luck!

Vent away, i can relate,don't beat yourself up.Lets make tomorrow a new beginning....you can do this:)

We all started from somewhere!! Before i tried to get healthier, i smoked cigs, drank beer, smoked weed and munched out, like a lot alotttttt.... I used to eat until it hurt.. and then id try to eat some more. I used to eat everything chocolate, sooo much fast food, no protein, and i just had terrible habits... Its taken about a year, but i have broke most of my "bad habits".

I think, you should first focus on your exersize... Usually when people go for a run early in the morning, they want to eat healthier the rest of the day and yeaahh.. So just RELAX!! If you want it bad enough, you WILL get there! It just takes a loooong time to break bad habits and live a healthier life... Dont be too strict with yourself because then youll probably quit... Just slowly limit your junk foods... Like only 1 a day, then 5 a week, then 3 and so on...

I was struggling for a long time too. Started by trying to exercise more regularly and half-heartedly counting calories, but kept eating over. After "keepin' on keepin' on", the past week or two I have started eating better and wanting to stay in my calories. Keep at it! FInd something you'll stick with! I've been doing piloxing and zumba

Thanks for venting. Sounds like my story, you're telling there. One thing my wife and I are doing is cancelling cable TV. My fattening food consumption correlates with my sitting in front of the TV in the evening.

The other thing I'm doing is making time in my schedule for regular exercise at work, each day, at lunch. I have a friend I work out with most days. If no workout buddy on a particular day, I can use my iPhone, tap into our company WiFi and go to YouTube and watch good music videos. The other thing I can do is also work on my e-mails or attend WebEx meetings, if I only need to listen in.

Being an old bald guy with a new hip, I really want to keep in good shape so that I can take care of myself. I work out each week so that I'll be in good shape for Saturday morning hockey, with my pals. That's one of my main motivators for working out during the week.

Hope some of this was helpful to you or anyone else.

Start now, don't wait until tomorrow. Log your food you ate today. Log the food you'll eat tomorrow and do that for a week or two. Then, look back at what you've eaten and start making changes so you can be healthier.

Now get off the computer and go for a walk!

You don't totally have to give up junk. I type this while I'm eating a cup of Breyer's mint chocolate chip ice cream. It fits in my calories and nutrition for the day

You CAN do it, you just have to start and now's a good a time as any.

I can totally relate!! I've lost a bunch of weight but it's literally taken me YEARS to do it because I stick to it for a week, and then get bored, then get pissed off at myself and binge, then pissed off at myself and give up. Then I decide I can do it again, try for another week, ect. ect. ect. Today is a brilliant example. We didn't have any plans, so I was going to go to the gym. My hubby's not feeling well, so he didn't want to go. I used that as an excuse to sit on my as$ all day, and now I'm feeling crappy again.

There have been periods here and there where in my brain something has clicked and I have gone for MONTHS sticking to it and seen awesome results. I wish I could just figure out how to man that switch in my head!

read the book "the power of Habit" why we do the things we do in life and Business, it explains habits in detail and explains why we do what we do and How to break the bad habits
biggest thing is REPLACE BAD HABIT WITH GOOD the is the only way to succeed. I can sympathize with the way you feel BIG TIME it sucks, but you can only fail if you give up!, so if you fall don't stop restart everyday , remember what you feel like right now when you wrote this remember how bad you feel and the next time you grab something to eat that you shouldn't ,ask yourself, "Do I want to feel like I did that One day?" It is a step good luck keep fighting !!!

I do that regularly lately...most recently after polishing off a bag of Oreo Birthday cake cookies within two days.

It's hard but it can be done, I lost over 40 pds last year and I'm havingt to restart so I can relate. You can do it.

That is the greatest way I have heard it said. I have been down that road so many times. This is it now!! New lifestyle it has been a hard one.

How many times have you sat on your couch at the end of the day on a Sunday and thought to yourself, "Damn...another week down the drain" as you sit there eating something salty or sweet, hating yourself for your lack of willpower?

I have been telling myself for so long that I'm gonna lose weight, tone up, change my eating, drink more water, get more sleep, party less, etc, etc, etc...I'm so over the bullsh*t with myself.

I cannot live like this anymore. I can't spend every day thinking about how much I'd LOVE to be thinner and stronger. I need to make my dream a reality because it is completely possible!

Can anyone relate? I feel so alone and ugly and depressed and pitiful and ashamed...I take full responsibility for my actions, but I have some really bad habits that I need to break because my life depends on it.

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Wow, are you reading my thoughts This is exactly like I would have written this. We can do this.

I am having the same kind of evening but with a different kind of habit (school work that I told myself I'd do this weekend and didn't, again) and am feeling down about it. As a result, I don't feel like feeding myself tonight, and certainly not any of the healthy food that I have in the house (the cupcakes I baked this afternoon though... I could eat about 4 of them!).

Before reading your post I had just inhaled a honey bun, despite the fact that I finally found food to put in the oven. I was on MFP because even though I'd eaten it impulsively, I'd won the battle over whether or not to log it. At first I'd decided that I was in such a bad mood I didn't care. But I do care, even when I think I don't.

I logged that 230 calorie honey bun and I'm going to bed on time tonight (whether I'll sleep or not, though, is another matter). I'll see my personal trainer and my therapist tomorrow and I'll be one more step ahead. It's hard and sometimes it feel impossible, but at least today won't be a step backward.

The problem is that there are so many habits that need to be broken/undone/replaced that aren't inherently health related but that ultimately affect my health through their impact my mood, which then dictates how I treat myself.

I felt that way for a long time. Truthfully, starting to log my food and fitness here was a huge step in the right direction for me because it made me accountable to myself. It was like, "Fine, I can eat that but I need to workout again today" and changed my perspective. Sometimes you have to stop and evaluate what's stopping you from reaching your goals. The reality is, a surprising number of people have inner psychological reasons why they aren't losing weight. For me, it's fear of failure. I'm afraid to try my very hardest and not accomplish my goals. I'm a perfectionist. So losing weight has taught me how to accept that I'm not perfect and to belive in myself instead of fear. Another great tip I have, I learned from an online nutrition video by Brendan Brazier. He said that when you're starting to eat clean (though you can apply this to any area of your life) instead of focusing on all the bad things you should cut out, focus instead of adding in the good. If you keep piling in the good things, eventually they will crowd out the bad.

How many times have you sat on your couch at the end of the day on a Sunday and thought to yourself, "Damn...another week down the drain" as you sit there eating something salty or sweet, hating yourself for your lack of willpower?

I have been telling myself for so long that I'm gonna lose weight, tone up, change my eating, drink more water, get more sleep, party less, etc, etc, etc...I'm so over the bullsh*t with myself.

I cannot live like this anymore. I can't spend every day thinking about how much I'd LOVE to be thinner and stronger. I need to make my dream a reality because it is completely possible!

Can anyone relate? I feel so alone and ugly and depressed and pitiful and ashamed...I take full responsibility for my actions, but I have some really bad habits that I need to break because my life depends on it.

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Girlll!!!!! That's exactly how it started with me, only it was a Saturday morning. I then went upstairs put some shorts and a t-shirt on, my tennis shoes on, and ran down the street and back.... then the next day, I ran a mile around the block.... and then it just escalated from there because I kept feeling better and better about how I was progressing, and how my energy levels increased.

That was 7 months ago. I couldn't have been happier to make that choice, and thank myself every day for it! xoxoxo