How do I change my thinking?

Stop being weak. Be Awesome instead!! If that doesn't do it, try a rubber band around your wrist and flick it when you think of **** you don't want to.

yoga & mediation. the mind is a powerful tool.

Do it by actions.

The thinking follows.

I had cheese fries this weekend!! and I have lost 3lbs this week alone (I weighed in today). The thing is not to take it away completely but just learn to plan for it and eat in moderation.

Fake it till you make it!

well good to hear that your done with the personal trainer by august because if i was your personal trainer, and i didnt see results, i would quit you myself - no joke.

i'm not a personal trainer, but really, you're not benefiting from the person and he's just pocketing your money.

aside from that - i think you'll need to get real with yourself and whether or not the person you are with is supporting you. if the person isn't helping, you may need to change that as well. yea it's offensive/hard but if you dont want to hear these kinds of things and all you want is a pity party... you're at the wrong site.

Well I have had much the same problem for a long time... I just LOVE FOOD! Being Latino we eat a lot of fried food and flour based baked good like bread, cakes and tortillas... Not to mention the TONS of other food I like!!

BUT I will say that what I have found works for me is a change of lifestyle... Diets DONT WORK... You have to change your eating as a whole... HOWEVER, since its sooo hard... what I've done is FORCE MYSELF by ONLY BUYING WHATS HEALTHY and in small quantities.... I only buy enough food for the portioned meals that I'm making for Lunch and Dinner... plus whats needed for my morning shake....

This eliminates the possibility of my wanting a muffin or a candy or some chorizo or whatever... because even if I want it... Its not in the house and I cant get it without an effort of going all the way to the store for a fix.. and I can manage to guilt trip myself out of it...

Then on the weekends I eat whatever I want for at least one meal a day Friday - Sunday.... This helps to keep me sane!!!

It really works!!

I was "trying" to lose weight for a few months before coming onto MFP and logging religiously. That's when the actual weight loss started, before that it was just super frustrating: I was trying to be "careful" but with no real framework and so many calories would sneak in. And I'd succumb to cravings all the time. I let myself pig out for a few weeks to get it out of my system, gained a few more pounds (but under 5), and finally hit a point where I could resolve to be serious. Now that I'm starting to see some weight go, I don't even want to binge anymore, it feels too good to see my body coming back to the way I want it. But I think I needed to let myself say screw it for a bit and go on a bit of a bender before I could really tighten the reins again.

I have the same issue with my partner too - we LOVE to eat together, and when we're traveling it's a delicious disaster. But now I make sure that I'm in charge of the shopping and the cooking, so that I can make meals that are lean but still delicious, and he can add in cheese, oil, sour cream, etc. as he wants to the final product. And I try to keep eating out to a minimum, because it's just too easy to not know what you're actually eating and eat too much of it.

Make sure you're eating a balanced diet. I've found that getting pleanty of all the right stuff (fruits, veggies, protien, fiber) has really helped to curb my cravings. If there's any thing you feel you can't live without, incorporate it in to your diet on a regular basis but in a healthier. For me, that's pasta. Instead of having loads of white pasta covered in fatty sauces and sausages all the time I have whole grain pasta (one serving) cooked with lots of veggies, a little olive oil and sometimes a turkey sausage mixed in. Eating a healthier version of my favorite at least once a week keeps me from going crazy. All that said, there is nothing wrong with indulging on occasion. If you really want the chili cheese fries split an order with your boyfriend and work the rest of the day's meals around it, so it still works with your goals.

The thing about indulgence in fatty and fast foods is that the more you eat, the more you want. Its the same with sugar. A vicious cycle. It truly has to be a once in awhile thing or something that you balance out with exercise and moderation the rest of the week if you choose to indulge.

For me, the best advice I ever got was "fake it til you make it." If I get out of work out mode, I force myself to go to the gym for three days in a row even if I have a bad attitude about it. After the three days I am back into it and start looking forward to it again. Same with the food. A couple of days of clean eating and all my water and vitamins and I have the resolve not to want the other stuff. A few WEEKS into it, fast food doesn't even sound good.

Other than getting a self-help book to help me rewire my brain, anybody have tricks that keep them from thinking about fatty foods?

First of all, fat doesn't make you fat...I eat "fatty foods" all of the time and I've lost 25 Lbs thus far. Over consumption of calories makes you fat...in that respect, eating a lot of fatty foods can be difficult because fatty foods are also high in calories...but that doesn't mean you can't have any, ever.

Don't think in terms of "dieting" (verb)...think in terms of diet and what makes up that diet (noun). I am currently eating at a calorie restriction to lose weight...but I have pizza on occasion...chili cheese fries on occasion...and nice juicy burger on occasion, etc. The key word here is occasion. I don't have pizza 5 days per week...I may have it once on the weekend...and some chili cheese fries at some point the next week, etc. But 80-90% of my foods are made up of lean proteins, fruits, veg, and whole grains.

When you completely deprive yourself of the things you enjoy, you are doomed to fail. You just have to maintain your calories and just make better overall decisions most of the time...not 100% of the time.

Learn to cook! Prepare your own healthier versions of your favorite foods when possible.

Don't avoid fat. Just try to eat more unsaturated fats. Fat is delicious

Exercise to earn your favorite not so healthy foods and have them occasionally.

Personally, depriving myself most of the time works well for me. Sometimes I'll crave something like hot wings, french fries or baby back ribs for weeks before giving in and eating them. And when I do, they taste so much more decadent and delicious that when I used to eat them more often.

Try thinking about all the nasty that is fast food, aka they found horse meat at fast food chains overseas, really? you want that in your body everyday.. If you want your body to feel good, you have to eat good.. Good luck!