Am I in the wrong? WARNING: RANT/VENT

I just need some feedback on this from others outside the family circle. Ok so my sister and her new fiancee were over for dinner the other day and they told informed me that they were leaving to go snowmobiling on her boyfriends sled. I was a little leary just because for 1 my sister told me how she really isn't into it and he's been trying to get her to go now for a while and now she was finally giving in and 2 I hardly know this guy and don't trust him AT ALL. I told him to be careful and reiterated the point that she is my only sister. He told me " don't worry man, I'm a very cautious and responsible driver".

So today I was talking with my uncle when he informed me that apparently Chad (my sisters fiancee) hasn't showed up for work in two days (He works for my uncle's metal fabricating buisness) because of a snowmobile accident a couple days ago....well this was news to me! Wouldn't you know it happened to be the night he took my sister out for a joy ride. I know accidents happen and everything, we're only human, but something seemed fishy, it's not like my sister to not inform me of things like this. I called her and she was very vague of the entire incident and I got the feeling he was right there....which turned out to be the case. I asked how fast they were going and how it happened and she just said they weren't going fast at all but hit a snow drift and flew off....

Well I did a little digging and talked to a mutual friend who happenend to be with them. He told me that he was going about 90 and wasn't keeping up with them. They were about 50 yards ahead when the side of the sled hit lifted up and when it did the sled just lifted in the air and both them and the sled went flying in the air. 911 was called and they both spent the night in the hospital. Chad broke his leg and his wrist and my sister broke her collar bone and her face was all beat up from banging her helmet against the ice while they tumbled across it. The first I heard about this was two days later from my uncle, neither one of them said a word to anyone else. I might also add this is Chads first sled and his first winter driving one...not exactly the kind of experience that would make one feel comfortable going 90 while sitting passenger.

I called my sister and told her I was coming over to see her, by the time I got there Chad was already gone...aparently he had some errands that he just had to run at 9pm. Needles to say my blood was boiling after I saw the condition my sister was in her face was a mess completely black and blue. I waited for about an hour before I left for him to come back before deciding he wasn't coming as long as I was there.

When I got home I txted chad after he ignored many of my calls. I told him how flat out: " this is my only sister and I could care less how you ride by yourself but you're a ****ing idiot for driving like that with my sister on the back, next time use your head" he responded: " ok I'll just let your make my life decisions for me" I told him what balls he has to say *kitten* like that over a txt and he simply said "yeah ok"....I ended it telling him to save the sarcasm for when we're face to face.

Some background on the two of them (it plays a big part in my anxiety about their relationship): I know the guy because he went to highschool with me. He's 3 years older then her. He is extremely shy and awkward and never talks to anyone, even know., so is my sister. My sister is only 19 and this is only her 2nd boyfriend ever. She moved back to the states just to start dating him after txting back and forth while she was abroad. 3 months after they started dating he proposed to her and she naively accepted now they are set to get married in May this year. In the time since they've been together I can count on two hands how many times I've actually interacted with him. He is an absolute stranger to me and the rest of my family.

I know for a fact that he has very poor rationing skills. My friend Freddy was at a party that he was hosting back in Highschool and apparently p!ssed him off, well Chad wanted him to leave and rather then approaching him and telling him so he decided to grab his 9mm and point it at his head while telling him to get the fuk of his property! ( this is not a joke or an exaggeration at all!) There was another incident that I witnessed similar to that when they were visiting at my house. They both showed up because my sister had just bought a bow because she wanted to get into hunting and they wanted to shoot it in my back yard. Well while they were in the kitchen getting ready to shoot it a friend of mine that I didn't want to talk to showed up at the door. I reacted " ****, lets go in the living room I don't want him to see I'm here or he'll never leave" Chad said don't worry I'll take care of it....So the mother fuker grabs the bow off the counter and throws and arrow in it and starts walking towards the door! I thought he was kidding at first but he made it clear he wasn't at all. I made him put the bow down while I handled it.

So ya there's my rant. Am I overreacting to him being so irresponsible with my little sister and getting her hurt? Mainly am I in the wrong with how I responded to his sarcastic little comments when I confronted him about it all? I mean not once did he express how sorry he was for landing her in the hospital! I'm seriously afraid I might loose it infront of him the next time I see the little *kitten* . I am so worried because she's due to marry him in a few months and the more I learn about him the less I like him! Might I add my sister has Aspergers syndrome...a high functioning form of autism. She is extremely naive and doesn't know how to properly react in situations like this!

Well I talked to Chad