What should you ask someone before share housing wt them?

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  • Ascolti_la_musica
    Ascolti_la_musica Posts: 676 Member
    you think mental illness can't affect you physically? Look at symptoms of depression... Plus it's not something you choose a lot of the time it can be a chemical imbalance..just like if you have a physical illness it can lead to a mental one depending on how much distress you are under

    This is a load of crap peddled by drug companies. No study has ever confirmed any "chemical imbalance."

    I do not have schizophrenia because my brain produces more/less of any particular chemical than a "normal" person. Your depression is likewise not caused by a lack or abundance of any "chemical" compared to a "normal" person. Depression and ADHD are both indicative of a weak mind- NOT a "chemical imbalance." I've been "too depressed to get out of bed." Then I chose to put on my big girl panties and deal with it. You need to do the same.

    I hate it when I see this garbage being thrown around by people who accept whatever they are told without question. Do a little research, people! It's NOT that hard! Question everything.

    As for the roommate thing, I'd let them know I have schizophrenia, how severe it can sometimes get, and what (if anything) they would have to do if they ever found me in a delusional or psychotic state. I'd ask if they believed in Santa Claus, Jesus, the Easter Bunny and/or Dracula. If so, they are more delusional than me, and I wouldn't want to live with them. I'd also rule out drugs, smoking, partying, etc. Make sure you could afford the place on your own for 3 months if you absolutely had to, in case they skip out and leave you with all the bills.
  • quirkytizzy
    quirkytizzy Posts: 4,052 Member
    This is a load of crap peddled by drug companies. No study has ever confirmed any "chemical imbalance."

    I do not have schizophrenia because my brain produces more/less of any particular chemical than a "normal" person. Your depression is likewise not caused by a lack or abundance of any "chemical" compared to a "normal" person. Depression and ADHD are both indicative of a weak mind- NOT a "chemical imbalance." I've been "too depressed to get out of bed." Then I chose to put on my big girl panties and deal with it. You need to do the same.

    I hate it when I see this garbage being thrown around by people who accept whatever they are told without question. Do a little research, people! It's NOT that hard! Question everything.

    As for the roommate thing, I'd let them know I have schizophrenia, how severe it can sometimes get, and what (if anything) they would have to do if they ever found me in a delusional or psychotic state. I'd ask if they believed in Santa Claus, Jesus, the Easter Bunny and/or Dracula. If so, they are more delusional than me, and I wouldn't want to live with them. I'd also rule out drugs, smoking, partying, etc. Make sure you could afford the place on your own for 3 months if you absolutely had to, in case they skip out and leave you with all the bills.

    I'm confused. Are you saying your schizophrenia is produced by your weak mind? Or that your schizophrenia is real but other disorders are caused by a weak mind? I'd disagree with you on either count, but it seems odd to me that someone would choose to call themselves weak-minded.
  • Cp731
    Cp731 Posts: 3,195 Member
    If its a guy, he better not mind my nekkedness, and my constant dancing and playing loud music..
  • BorderlineAngel
    BorderlineAngel Posts: 214
    You should disclose it.
    Your history has proven you are a good bit of maintenance, which is fine. But you need any possible roomate to know that.
    judgmental. You dont know the first thing about me in real life. Don't be so effin rude.
  • quirkytizzy
    quirkytizzy Posts: 4,052 Member
    You should disclose it.
    Your history has proven you are a good bit of maintenance, which is fine. But you need any possible roomate to know that.
    judgmental. You dont know the first thing about me in real life. Don't be so effin rude.

    We know some about you, from what you've disclosed publicly on the forums. That you're struggling with cutting, for one. That is most certainly an issue that could be problematic for roomates, as it is a symptom that could require intervention. (Either through a cut too deep or as a warning of an impending crisis.)
  • katellanova
    katellanova Posts: 204 Member
    Do you enjoy watching porn?
  • BorderlineAngel
    BorderlineAngel Posts: 214
    You should disclose it.
    Your history has proven you are a good bit of maintenance, which is fine. But you need any possible roomate to know that.
    judgmental. You dont know the first thing about me in real life. Don't be so effin rude.

    We know some about you, from what you've disclosed publicly on the forums. That you're struggling with cutting, for one. That is most certainly an issue that could be problematic for roomates, as it is a symptom that could require intervention. (Either through a cut too deep or as a warning of an impending crisis.)
    I haven't cut in more than a week. And it is very hard to cut too deep when you only cut your legs ..
  • quirkytizzy
    quirkytizzy Posts: 4,052 Member
    I haven't cut in more than a week. And it is very hard to cut too deep when you only cut your legs ..

    A week is good. It does not prove that you have curtailed the behavior long enough for it not to be a concern. Leg cuts can be deep enough to hit muscle, tendon, etc. The fact that you felt the need to defend the behavior even in that shows that it is still a behavior you are struggling with.

    That's okay. It took years before it become a non-issue for me. But the truth is that it is a behavior that unsettles other people and for good reason. It is indicative of someone who cannot properly care for themselves, and thus might need watching over to ensure their health and safety.
  • will010574
    will010574 Posts: 761 Member
    If its a guy, he better not mind my nekkedness, and my constant dancing and playing loud music..

    ^^^^ I like to have nekkid time as well....not so much the dancing around, but I do play music and like to be able to wander around the house with no clothes so if that bothers anyone we wouldnt be good roomies. Granted its been a long long time since Ive had a roomate
  • BorderlineAngel
    BorderlineAngel Posts: 214
    I haven't cut in more than a week. And it is very hard to cut too deep when you only cut your legs ..

    A week is good. It does not prove that you have curtailed the behavior long enough for it not to be a concern. Leg cuts can be deep enough to hit muscle, tendon, etc. The fact that you felt the need to defend the behavior even in that shows that it is still a behavior you are struggling with.

    That's okay. It took years before it become a non-issue for me. But the truth is that it is a behavior that unsettles other people and for good reason. It is indicative of someone who cannot properly care for themselves, and thus might need watching over to ensure their health and safety.
    Or just means they have different coping mechanisms to other people I've been trying to stop since I was 16
  • quirkytizzy
    quirkytizzy Posts: 4,052 Member
    ]Or just means they have different coping mechanisms to other people I've been trying to stop since I was 16

    "Different" is not the word. Dysfunctional is. You will not be able to quit until you start seeing it as abnormal, not simply different. It took me a decade to stop. It takes time. I do understand this. But you'll have to reclassify the behavior or else you'll never be able to bring yourself to see it as the truly destructive behavior as it is.
  • Ascolti_la_musica
    Ascolti_la_musica Posts: 676 Member
    Depression and ADHD are both indicative of a weak mind- NOT a "chemical imbalance." I've been "too depressed to get out of bed." Then I chose to put on my big girl panties and deal with it. You need to do the same.

    I'm confused. Are you saying your schizophrenia is produced by your weak mind? Or that your schizophrenia is real but other disorders are caused by a weak mind? I'd disagree with you on either count, but it seems odd to me that someone would choose to call themselves weak-minded.

    Is that clear enough for you?

    Schizophrenia is caused by "pre-natal viruses, and early brain damage which cause neurotransmitter problems in the brain." In layman terms, it's a kink in the wiring. Not some magical, mysterious chemicals.

    My mind is NOT weak. I manage my symptoms without drugs, and have done so for about ten years now. That takes a LOT of mental energy and focus. A person with depression can give in to it and stay in bed all day, or they can choose to get up and work through it. It's a lot easier to push through depression than it is to convince your brain that certain sights and sounds are real, while others are not. Ditto ADHD. You can focus on what you are doing, or you can let your mind wander uselessly into la la land.
  • cgarand
    cgarand Posts: 541 Member
    Why is there still such a stigma surrounding mental illness when it affects 25+%of the population? how is mental illness any different to physical illness?

    Well, I think because if someone has diabetes it doesn't really effect me if I'm sharing a home with them (except I may want to know where they keep the glucose if they become hypoglycemic) But, when someone has mental illness (depending on what is wrong) you may have to deal with dangerous behavior. At least my brother did when he woke up in the middle of the night to find his roomate stabbing his headboard and when he asked why they were doing that he was told they were getting up the nerve to stab him...
  • quirkytizzy
    quirkytizzy Posts: 4,052 Member


    Is that clear enough for you?

    Schizophrenia is caused by "pre-natal viruses, and early brain damage which cause neurotransmitter problems in the brain." In layman terms, it's a kink in the wiring. Not some magical, mysterious chemicals.

    My mind is NOT weak. I manage my symptoms without drugs, and have done so for about ten years now. That takes a LOT of mental energy and focus. A person with depression can give in to it and stay in bed all day, or they can choose to get up and work through it. It's a lot easier to push through depression than it is to convince your brain that certain sights and sounds are real, while others are not. Ditto ADHD. You can focus on what you are doing, or you can let your mind wander uselessly into la la land.

    I agree that disorders are caused by kinks in wiring, though I would disagree that chemicals are irrelevant. Focus is nesscary to use coping skills garnered in treatment. That I can agree with.

    I am also not here to play the Mental Health Olympics. One does not "win" by having a "more difficult disorder". This is not a contest.
  • NYactor1
    NYactor1 Posts: 9,642 Member
    If its a guy, he better not mind my nekkedness, and my constant dancing and playing loud music..

    Wanna move in?
  • jaipasbesoindevous
    jaipasbesoindevous Posts: 15 Member
    Why is there still such a stigma surrounding mental illness when it affects 25+%of the population? how is mental illness any different to physical illness?


    - 25% of the population does suffer from a mental illness. But those 25% contains some insignificant illnesses... light or severe depression, schizophrenia, maniac, psychopaths, etc.. You can't compare a pervert maniac with a chronical "under the weather" person. the 25% aren't all the same, some are OK to live with, some others aren't. (and yeah, I consider ppl with a severe Borderline Syndrom as a "not ok to live with" illness.)

    - a physical illness can also be a lot of pain for ppl around.

    - why do you tell everyone your problems then complains because ppl talk about it?
  • BorderlineAngel
    BorderlineAngel Posts: 214


    Is that clear enough for you?

    Schizophrenia is caused by "pre-natal viruses, and early brain damage which cause neurotransmitter problems in the brain." In layman terms, it's a kink in the wiring. Not some magical, mysterious chemicals.

    My mind is NOT weak. I manage my symptoms without drugs, and have done so for about ten years now. That takes a LOT of mental energy and focus. A person with depression can give in to it and stay in bed all day, or they can choose to get up and work through it. It's a lot easier to push through depression than it is to convince your brain that certain sights and sounds are real, while others are not. Ditto ADHD. You can focus on what you are doing, or you can let your mind wander uselessly into la la land.

    I agree that disorders are caused by kinks in wiring, though I would disagree that chemicals are irrelevant. Focus is nesscary to use coping skills garnered in treatment. That I can agree with.

    I am also not here to play the Mental Health Olympics. One does not "win" by having a "more difficult disorder". This is not a contest.
  • CarmenSRT
    CarmenSRT Posts: 843 Member
    Schizophrenia is caused by "pre-natal viruses, and early brain damage which cause neurotransmitter problems in the brain." In layman terms, it's a kink in the wiring. Not some magical, mysterious chemicals.

    "Neurotransmitter problems" ARE chemical problems. Neurotransmitters are chemicals that carry out various functions, in broad terms they act to deliver signals from cell to cell across spaces between cells. Did nobody ever explain that to you? That's why drugs are used to help disorders like yours, and depression, and ADD/ADHD. You don't have a special category of disorder, and not trying to find a drug(s) that silences your hallucinations doesn't make you a hero. It doesn't prove you're strong or special. It just makes your life far less rich and healthy than it could be. You deserve to live a life that doesn't involve not trying to provoke the disease.

    Whatever doctors you've had should have explained things to you properly long, long ago.
  • unsuspectingfish
    unsuspectingfish Posts: 1,176 Member
    You should disclose it.
    Your history has proven you are a good bit of maintenance, which is fine. But you need any possible roomate to know that.
    judgmental. You dont know the first thing about me in real life. Don't be so effin rude.

    We know some about you, from what you've disclosed publicly on the forums. That you're struggling with cutting, for one. That is most certainly an issue that could be problematic for roomates, as it is a symptom that could require intervention. (Either through a cut too deep or as a warning of an impending crisis.)

    Um, that is something I never, ever disclosed to any of my roommates, and we all got along just fine. I have also never required "intervention" for my cutting. I mean, I know not all cutters are the same, but most know how to cut in a way that is not life threatening.
  • unsuspectingfish
    unsuspectingfish Posts: 1,176 Member
    Schizophrenia is caused by "pre-natal viruses, and early brain damage which cause neurotransmitter problems in the brain." In layman terms, it's a kink in the wiring. Not some magical, mysterious chemicals.

    "Neurotransmitter problems" ARE chemical problems. Neurotransmitters are chemicals that carry out various functions, in broad terms they act to deliver signals from cell to cell across spaces between cells. Did nobody ever explain that to you? That's why drugs are used to help disorders like yours, and depression, and ADD/ADHD. You don't have a special category of disorder, and not trying to find a drug(s) that silences your hallucinations doesn't make you a hero. It doesn't prove you're strong or special. It just makes your life far less rich and healthy than it could be. You deserve to live a life that doesn't involve not trying to provoke the disease.

    Whatever doctors you've had should have explained things to you properly long, long ago.

    THIS.
  • htimpaired
    htimpaired Posts: 1,404 Member
    "Schizophrenia is caused by "pre-natal viruses, and early brain damage which cause neurotransmitter problems in the brain." In layman terms, it's a kink in the wiring. Not some magical, mysterious chemicals."

    Do you have the reference to the article you got your information from? Because as a professional in the mental health system I can tell you that you are sadly mistaken. There is nothing magical or mysterious about neurotransmitters, or possible changes in the physiology of the brain, but the truth is, and anyone doing research in psychiatry will tell you, there is no definite conclusion on what causes schizophrenia. To promote attitudes like the one above is to perpetuate the stigma that prevents people from getting the help they need.
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