I give up

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  • deedeeFP
    deedeeFP Posts: 28
    5 pounds in 4 weeks is FANTASTIC! You sound stressed today, everyone has a bad day. Forget the last 2 weeks and just think about today. I've been struggling wtih weight loss as well, feel free to add me as a friend..
  • Greciankoukla
    Greciankoukla Posts: 33 Member
    You do care because here you are complaining about it. You DO DEF care but it is obvious you feel defeated and have let your problems get the best of you and your weight issues control you and win. You are in charge of you, your life, and your problems. Most of your problems have come about because of certain choices you made. Now unless it was someone physically hurting you or something like that, that is not your fault. But most of our problems and issues are because if what choices we have made and paths we have taken.

    You definitely should keep going to your therapist but do not depend on her or expect her to be a miracle worker. She is more like a guide to you a counselor in some cases. She is there to make you see things and hopefully be more clear minded. But really, there is not a single person out there who can make things better for you.

    So you screwed up, start over, tomorrow is always a new, fresh day. If you have been logging in your food go back and look at what is going on. Or maybe have someone else here look at it.

    Last note, if you are not happy with your therapist, find another. But do not walk in expecting the world from them.
  • lovetobethin86
    lovetobethin86 Posts: 202 Member
    I would LOVE to lose 5 pounds in 4 weeks!! That would take me months!!
  • 1HungryPumpkin
    1HungryPumpkin Posts: 57 Member
    All I'm going to say is that if you just do one thing for yourself, exercise. Just go out the door and go for a walk and get some sunshine. It will not only help your body, but aide your mental health as well.

    Good luck to you!
  • Greciankoukla
    Greciankoukla Posts: 33 Member
    Are you really giving something up after you only do it for 1 month? Not in my book. Especially if 2 of those weeks you ate bad and didn't exercise. So did you really ever start. Find a pity forum....we are committed people here. Achieve goals, reach success, and put in a hell of a lot of hard work to do it. That's reality. Why even post an I give up forum, when you didn't even start. The majority of people on here are hard azz workers trying to reach a common goal....be healthy.

    It is also a place for support and encouragement. This isnt the site for you if you are going to talk down to people. Also 4 weeks then my 2 weeks.

    I am not being mean or trying too. But honestly you need the truth to be said and not to come here for validation to just live an unhealthy lifestyle, and for people to tell you that you are pretty. Be strong and do it. Get a handle on your life, and do it the RIGHT way. Don't half *kitten* it. And 5 pounds a month is just fine. The months add up. Your expectations seem like maybe they were too high. Good Luck
  • giving up after 4 weeks?? maybe your expectations were unrealistic, but hey if you're happy being fat then i'm happy for you. :flowerforyou:
  • danibu98
    danibu98 Posts: 281 Member
    The timing may just not be right....The desire has to come from within yourself and you have to want it more than you've ever wanted anything...You have to have patience and discipline to eat the right foods everyday, limit the "bad" stuff to special occassions and be dedicated to exercising and moving...

    If outside forces are telling you need to lose weight and that was your reason, it's not going to work, it only works if the desire comes from within.

    5 pounds in 4 weeks is outstanding, that's 1.25 pounds a week!!!

    The ultimate decision is yours, you can keep going as honestly you barely have even started or give up, go back to bad habits and be content with you body the way it is/getting bigger.

    The timing may indeed not be right. You can look at my join date- I didn't get serious until january 2013 on here, and lost some weight in late november/ December half-a**ed logging as well.

    Something finally just clicked for me. I am averaging just over a pound a week. I have days where I am incredibly impatient and frustrated (like today) but I am not giving up!
  • Angellaree
    Angellaree Posts: 71 Member
    I am happier being fat and being able to eat whatever I want.

    I made that exact choice a few years ago. Dieting was too hard and progress was too slow.

    You know why? Because I was MAKING it too hard and setting my expectations too high. I was eating too little, which made it unsustainable and unsatisfying.

    THIS time around, I was never hungry or dissatisfied. I ate foods I loved, but in portions that allowed me to have a calorie deficit. Because that's all you need. A deficit. It doesn't have to be a huge deficit, just a deficit. Well... not ALL you need. You need time and patience, too.

    So you lost five pounds in a month. That's pretty normal. Where do you want to be in 12 months? The same place you are now, or down 60 pounds?


    This! Exactly this.