Am I Alone in This??

Oh hun, don't get down on yourself! You've done something most of us only hope to accomplish!! Keep in mind how far you've come, and don't be so hard on yourself.

Maybe you just need some time to adjust to the changes that are going on in your body. You should give yourself some time to adjust to it. Try not to be too hard on yourself you have accomplished quite a bit! :flowerforyou: Great job by the way!

You're not alone. Your mind will catch up. :flowerforyou: Try looking at before/during pictures of yourself, that'll help you realize how far you've actually come, even if you're not where you want to be YET, you've still come VERY far! Keep on keeping on chicky!

I am not sure if it because I didn't care about what I looked like and didn't pay attention to food or exercise before

When I was 260 I didn't feel bad about my appearance because I wasn't do anything to improve it. Now that I'm eating well and working out it's hard to be patient for the results.

I agree with you 100%. Excellent response!

I totally get where you are coming from. I agree with Preciousoohnana in everything she said. I think it's because at a heavier weight, I never focused on losing weight for an extended period of time where I wsa successful and so therefore, wasn't thinking about me and what I was putting in my mouth every day. Well, now that we are dieting or doing a lifestyle change, you take time out of each day to concentrate on YOU and it's a huge part of your life in making food decisions, etc. and so at least for me, it's something that I am having to be tuned in to ALL DAY LONG. Then comes in the guilt or remorse when you eat something wrong or have a bad day and so it's all these emotions and thoughts that are now constantly there and reminding you and so therefore, it's with you all the time.

You have done wonderfully and I agree with the others that your mind WILL catch up.

I have a friend who was bigger than me at my biggest (245lbs). She lost everything she wanted to lose. There was a time for me( I haven't asked her yet.) when I was not happy with the changes weight loss brought to my skin. I do know that I did get saggy and then tighten up as a cycle when I was doing the biggest part of my losing. My friend not only got lean and her skin did tighten up. She is a bodybuilder now. She used hemmorhoid cream on her jiggly stuff before she put on her workout clothes and used the yucky plastic shorts over them. She drank around a gallon of water throughout the day. Necessary when you work that hard and wear the plastic. She also had a friend that did microdermabrasion treatments on her tummy and thighs. Except for a few tell tale shadows from now tiny stretch marks, you can't tell she was ever big. You do have to go a little under weight to get it all off. But if you keep in touch with your doctor and a trainer, you can do the same thing. My gal pal had no surgery to fix this. Just good old fashioned determination. And really, if it makes you that unhappy, you earned some plastic surgery. Save up and go for it. I don't know you and I respect you enough to say that people around you will generally support that if you feel like you need it. Dont feel bad for not being where you really want to be. I bet you are dreaming better than you let on. If you want a super fit body, go get it. There is nothing wrong with beautiful and healthy.

I have lost 86lbs and physically I feel fantastic. I am so much healthier and I can run around with my kids. I have moved from a size 22 pants to a size 12. That is all great and I am so proud of all I have accomplished. BUT........

I am more self conscious than I have ever been before and I am more ashamed of my body than I was when I was at almost 300 lbs. I am so much harder on myself now, If I over eat or don't go to the gym, I feel guilty and feel like I need to punish myself. I am not sure if it because I didn't care about what I looked like and didn't pay attention to food or exercise before and now it is all I think about. I have to wonder why I feel so bad about myself right now, why my belly jiggle and my big arms are such an issue to me right now when they are so much smaller than they were. I really hope that my mind catches up with my body soon!

I am not sure if this is something that is normal on a weight loss journey or if I am alone in feeling like this.

OMG i feel the exact same way.... i thought maybe i was crazy for feeling like this....

I too understand how you are feeling. On top of that I also look in the mirror and sometimes I do not see the 64 pounds I have lost, just the 50 more I want to shed. I also fear that if I take any time off of exercising that I will instantly be 64 pounds heaver. I know in my head that is not true but I still feel that way, or if I gain 1/2 a pound I feel like I am back to my starting weight. So no dear you are not in this alone, we are changing in many ways and it is going to take work and time to get our attitudes adjusted!!
Hang in there, you look AMAZING!!! I hope I will look that good soon!!

I understand, girl As everyone has said, it really does take our minds time to connect with our new image! I'm just now starting to actually believe the number on the scale and my new body.

I also relate about being harder on ourselves! I never gave a crap about what I ate before, so now it's like I'm constantly critiquing myself, but I think that is one of the ways to make this change permanent, to always care. I wake up and as soon as I've gotten the kids settled, I begin thinking about maintaining. I really live and breathe it, to a point where it's becoming a natural habit, and I just hope that it will become a completely subconscious one!

Don't get too extreme on yourself, though, you've done an amazing job and should be so proud!