Goal setting - I don't *want* to be skinny!

I prefer some softness too, even a lot of softness. That said, we get the body types that we get, and some people are bony without trying. Some people can be very thin and still not look emaciated. I'd like to be skinnier in some places, and less skinny in others. (Oh the things I do for a flat tummy). The weight I'm at seems to be the best balance for me.

no ones judging skinny people

Actually, yeah. They are.

OP did it, even.

have various bones sticking out all over the place

Regardless. I would rather LOOK THIN than be able to do 100 push-ups or run a marathon (or whatever arbitrary fitness goal one determines to make their weight loss goals superior to anyone else's). For me it is about aesthetics. That's not shallow. That's my prerogative. Sticking your nose in the air at that is like asking, "Why don't you want to be a kindergarten teacher in an inner city school to help troubled youth?!" when my career path is engineering. Because I don't. And that's my choice. Why the judgment on my personal values???

Yep. Another thread started with a skinny people suck statement. Good times!

I think that's silly. The OP stated what she wanted for *her* body. She never once said that others didn't look great or should have the same goals as her. Grab some self-esteem and stop inferring things that were never implied. She simply said that it seems to her that her goals were different than most of the other females on MFP. She did NOT say that other people's goals were wrong!

I disagree. The comment about various bones sticking out all over the place was a bit offensive. I'm 5'1" 116 lbs and don't have any bones protruding. I'm skinny AND healthy

That's wonderful for you. The OP wasn't talking about you. She was talking about herself!

Trying to work out a good goal weight, and I've come to the realisation that unlike seemingly most of the female population of MFP, I don't want to be super skinny, fit single-digit clothing and have various bones sticking out all over the place. I don't find that attractive.

In an attempt to explain what you desire for yourself, you insulted so many people with the above statement. Was that really necessary? I am small. I have prominent collar and hip bones, I was just built that way. I also have the unfortunate tendency for being small breasted, but I deal. I wear a size 4/6. And yet, I am not super skinny. I don't think I look so bad, but according to you, I must be hideous. I'm supportive of your goal to look & feel great, but it's hard to not feel insulted when my body type is attacked like that.

If you were insulted, that says more about you than the OP. My elbows are bony, and so are my fingers, yet I did not take offense.

Why isn't it ok for people to have different goals?

Trying to work out a good goal weight, and I've come to the realisation that unlike seemingly most of the female population of MFP, I don't want to be super skinny, fit single-digit clothing and have various bones sticking out all over the place. I don't find that attractive.

In an attempt to explain what you desire for yourself, you insulted so many people with the above statement. Was that really necessary? I am small. I have prominent collar and hip bones, I was just built that way. I also have the unfortunate tendency for being small breasted, but I deal. I wear a size 4/6. And yet, I am not super skinny. I don't think I look so bad, but according to you, I must be hideous. I'm supportive of your goal to look & feel great, but it's hard to not feel insulted when my body type is attacked like that.

If you were insulted, that says more about you than the OP. My elbows are bony, and so are my fingers, yet I did not take offense.

Why isn't it ok for people to have different goals?

I'm starting to like you more and more, hahah

if you want a "healthy weight" look at BMI chart and body fat % charts to calculate what you want . . . but don't judge or downgrade those of us who push beyond the upper limits of those charts, because that's what WE find attractive- just like you would take offense to someone writing "I don't want fat rolls or a muffin top hanging out" or "people who wear double digit jeans are unattractive" many people also take offense to the reverse- don't put others down to feel better about what you have decided is your goal . . . they've decided a goal and are working towards that you work towards yours . . . . oh and single digit jeans DOES NOT mean bones sticking out

I am not to sure what the proper weight is for me(I am 5'4, 33 years old) but my first goal is to get to 150 from my starting weight of 233. Right now I am around 224.

For myself I want to be healthy and feel good about myself, but I have no idea where that is weight wise. Currently I'm aiming for the middle of my healthy BMI but if I get to 170-160ish and like the way I look and feel, I'm done. I think I'll have a better idea as I get closer.

Edit: nvm, not worth discussing any longer

I don't want to be scrawny either! My sister has been dropping weight and has gone from a size 10 to a size 0. I think she is way too skinny, but I love her so I don't say anything. She thinks I'm too fat and doesn't pick on me about it . I want to be a size 12 because I feel good there and look good there. I'm a 14 right now.

I want to be healthy as well. My Mom is diabetic, several of my family members have high blood pressure and stints/arteriosclerosis. My motivation is pretty much to avoid diabetes and stroking out at 50. I've already got the warning signs of high blood pressure. My doc made it clear my last visit that the weight needs to come off and stay off. However, she is the first doc that actually acknowledged the fact that I'm 5'10" and have football player shoulders. She talked about the fact that the regular BMI/weight scale does not fit my build and is not realistic for me.

I've lost the weight before, but I don't keep it off. I fall right back into my bad eating habits once I get to where I want to be. I am really going to try to keep using My Fitness Pal even after I get to 175 #'s. I keep trying to convice myself that I love salads more than bread. Truly, most of my problems with weight stem from overeating/overly large portion sizes.