Is it a good idea to meet an ex for dinner?

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  • PaigeAnderson100
    PaigeAnderson100 Posts: 301 Member
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    I guess I don't understand the whole "aggressive" statement. Is he SEXUALLY aggressive or just plain mean in general?
    I usually say that an ex is an ex for a reason and to just stay away. If you focus solely on your future and you can see him IN your life and actually good for you, than go for It. If you look into your future and see him sabotaging everything that you have going for you- than, no do not meet up with him in a "more than friends" type of way...
    If you honestly are just looking for a friend to go to dinner with, than why care? If he's just a friend- than it shouldn't matter about the past at all, it shouldn't even be brought up but, the two of you need to come to some sort of agreement that this really is just FRIENDS HAVING DINNER and it's nothing more.

    Good luck and have fun but, I think you've scared all of us with the "aggressive" comment! ;)
  • cmriverside
    cmriverside Posts: 34,080 Member
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    Must not be a big worry for the OP...she's let this go for eight hours.
  • djforrest84
    djforrest84 Posts: 2 Member
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    Aggressive how? Physically? Emotionally? In regards to sex?
  • lilpoindexter
    lilpoindexter Posts: 1,122 Member
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    Bring some jimmie hats....just in case.
  • Susanthecatwhisperer
    Susanthecatwhisperer Posts: 141 Member
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    As soon as I saw the word aggressive, my gut is to say NO. If you do feel like you want to go anyway, do it in a group. Stay safe.
  • ChrisinGA
    ChrisinGA Posts: 116 Member
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    is just dinner right1 he paying? I say go out to dinner and talk catch up on things you haven't caught up on in other ways.
    if he seems aggressive them excuse yourself. I would meet him there at the place to eat Don't let him pick you up, if he picks you up its a date. otherwise its two friends meeting for a dinner.
  • ThisGirl2013
    ThisGirl2013 Posts: 220 Member
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    It doesn't sound to me like you want to go. If you do want to go, it doesn't sound like you want to be anything more than just friends. Either, don't go - or make it VERY clear that this is a friendship only thing for you and if he is interested, you want to be CLEAR and you don't want to lead him on and if he still wants to get together, you will go (if you WANT to).
    You "dated" for under a month though, that is not even a real relationship.
    Anyway. I don't know why you are considering it, so I guess, in the end - that's on you what you want to do.
  • BookwormAirhead
    BookwormAirhead Posts: 1 Member
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    You dated for 3 weeks, you say he's aggressive AND that he's the nicest man you ever dated? Heck, I wouldn't want to meet the unpleasant ones!

    Timing is important, but whether you ended your relationship one day or 3 years before you met if he was the right person the timing doesn't actually matter. Just like all those deal-breakers and must-haves fade away when you meet the right one.

    Seriously, I wouldn't go.

    If he'd been the right man back then he'd now be taking you out for your anniversary...he wasn't and he isn't.
  • yum2leal
    yum2leal Posts: 24 Member
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    Generally it's not good to meet an ex for dinner due to the following reasons: 1) you two might just forget the reason why you broke up in the first place and fall for the sake of a "romantic idea" and not really falling in love; OR 2) regardless of where you end the night, one of you might think it is getting into something deeper while the other one will think it's just one of those nights.
  • sPaRkLiNgLYFE
    sPaRkLiNgLYFE Posts: 609
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    its been 2 years, you should go out with him
  • dakitten2
    dakitten2 Posts: 888 Member
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    The OP has DEACTIVATED their account. So I'll keep my opinion to myself now.
  • MissingPixies
    MissingPixies Posts: 316 Member
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    The OP has DEACTIVATED their account.

    I was just about to say that.
  • WeatherGirl8
    WeatherGirl8 Posts: 91 Member
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    Oh hey. Deactivated. Alright then.
  • ChrisinGA
    ChrisinGA Posts: 116 Member
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    The OP has DEACTIVATED their account. So I'll keep my opinion to myself now.

    interesting
  • Hleaver
    Hleaver Posts: 15 Member
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    are you kidding really. Ask yourself one simple question. Should I invite my husband to go with me. If the answer is no you are not happy in your relationship and you are destined to become single again. If the answer is yes then go for it and have a great time...Howard
  • TrishLG
    TrishLG Posts: 173 Member
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    Well, billieljamie, you be careful. We often look back with rose colored glasses. We practice selective forgetting, remembering only the good. However, guys' mothers jumping in is a bad signal. Beware!

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