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msciccone1 · June 2010

Good morning MFPers

I am an executive assistant to a VP and there are 5 of us total. Well I we are all a "little" on the heavy side, haha :blushing: I mean its no surprise since we sit all day. Well since I have lost 50.5 lbs. 2 of the 4 ladies keep rooting me on saying I am looking great and how they are so happy with my motivation. 1 doesn't really care for me and vice versa. However the last admin was really someone who chatted with me all the time is literally ignoring me at any cost now. We always talked and worked on projects together but now even when she sees me in the halls she will just say hi with a serious face and walk way; when we do projects with the other admins and of course we all start talking weight she just goes I have to go cause clearly we have enough people covering this thing. I don't get it...:frown: She has dogs as do I and we always found things to talk about but now its like she avoids me. I hate getting cold shoulders but I am also not one to be begging for friendship...hell no. Just thought I would put this out there to see if I need to say something.

Thanks! :flowerforyou:

Panda86 · June 2010

First of all, good for you for your success! Second- I can tell you what it is..... Drama. My advice is to just be nice to her. If she doesn't want to be nice back, that is on her, and not you. I wouldn't go making it into a big deal. Just stay focused on your goals, and hang out with people that make you feel good about yourself... Just a thought

LycraLegs · June 2010

Perhaps its jealousy because of the weightloss, perhaps she's just decided to not like you.
We cant please everyone all of the time. So dont let her deter you from doing what you have to do! At least she isnt being nasty or rude.
Keep being successful and if she comes round to wanting to be friendly again, great, if she doesn't, fine, it's her choice!
Girrrrl, you got bigger fish to fry!

You are doing great!

ritodcin03 · June 2010

Sorry you're getting snubbed! You are making amazing progress and you're an inspriation! I feel sorry for your co-worker. A few years ago, I purged myself of toxic people. None of them were bad, but the only purpose I served was to make them feel good about themselves. I was supposed to be the smart-funny one, not the hot-sexy one. When I started to bloom and get attention, they stopped calling. It hurts to be dumped, but focus on the positive people in your life. The universe has a funny way of responding. When you surround yourself with positive, supportive people, more tend to find you! Keep it up!!

aippolito1 · June 2010

She probably feels guilty and doesn't want to accept the fact that she's overweight and needs to drop a few. People get that way, y'know? Sorry she's being so crabby to you.

Elokyn · June 2010

Maybe she's feeling self conscious now. Maybe thinking that you're looking down on the people that aren't dieting,(NOT saying that you are!) or jealous because you're succeeding where she's possibly failed before? Some people are overly sensitive about weight, even when they're not doing anything for it. (I know I was)

It's no excuse, because it doesn't sound like you've given her any reason to think that way. Sorry, that doesn't help, just something to think about is all

I know there are people I have been around that I had to basically force myself into convo with them before they would talk to me and now one person I've done that to is my best friend in the world.

And I could be totally wrong, maybe something drastic happened in her home life or something? Sounds like she's being that way to everyone. IDK I'm just throwing ideas out there. Sorry you're having to go through this!!

lutzsher · June 2010

Hold your head high and be confident in your success. There are always going to be people who don't understand or try to sabotage you for their own selfish reasons. You don't have to like everyone, and there are going to be people who sometimes don't like you . . . life is just like that.
As I like to tell my adult daughter, just because someone is a complete b!itch to you doesn't mean that you have to lower yourself to their level!

Crickks · June 2010

Who is messing with my Chica!?!?!

This topic is on my "Mornin Sunshines" list........It definitely sounds like envy and jealousy because of the weight loss, it sounds like she liked you better at 50.5 lbs. People don’t get it, when you make changes in your life it’s for you, NOT them.. Chica, you cannot please everyone.. You first.. Also, when it comes to weight lose, people at first seem happy for you…then later, they're waiting to you to fall flat on your face, gain all your weight back and more… but you seem to keep going.. whatever her problem is it’s her problem not yours…She probably feels down/funny (really who cares?) because you’re doing it and she’s …just doing nothing. Also, who gave her the right to speak to you when "she" fell like opening her mouth just to say "hi?" I would just not speak to her except work related...

candican · June 2010

Only she knows why she's snubbing you and I wouldn't waste your time trying to figure it out or asking her about it. It is common that some people do that when they see others thrive around them. It may be that, it may be something else. I would just be nice to her and let her do what she wants.

msciccone1 · June 2010

Maybe she's feeling self conscious now. Maybe thinking that you're looking down on the people that aren't dieting,(NOT saying that you are!) or jealous because you're succeeding where she's possibly failed before? Some people are overly sensitive about weight, even when they're not doing anything for it. (I know I was)

It's no excuse, because it doesn't sound like you've given her any reason to think that way. Sorry, that doesn't help, just something to think about is all I know there are people I have been around that I had to basically force myself into convo with them before they would talk to me and now one person I've done that to is my best friend in the world.

And I could be totally wrong, maybe something drastic happened in her home life or something? Sounds like she's being that way to everyone. IDK I'm just throwing ideas out there. Sorry you're having to go through this!!

Yeah no I would NEVER look down on people who aren't doing anything regarding their weight because I was there for a decade and I don't do what I don't want done to me. In fact I actually tell them that I took on such a hard workout (aka Insanity) and if I could do it so could anyone else. It was all about wanting to change, etc. I also suggest MFP even if you don't want to work out just to get an idea of what we put into our bodies.

She also happens to talk to the other admins just fine which is why I asked.

Thanks for the questions though cause maybe others were thinking the same :flowerforyou:

msciccone1 · June 2010

Who is messing with my Chica!?!?!

This topic is on my "Mornin Sunshines" list........It definitely sounds like envy and jealousy because of the weight loss, it sounds like she liked you better at 50.5 lbs. People don’t get it, when you make changes in your life it’s for you, NOT them.. Chica, you cannot please everyone.. You first.. Also, when it comes to weight lose, people at first seem happy for you…then later, they're waiting to you to fall flat on your face, gain all your weight back and more… but you seem to keep going.. whatever her problem is it’s her problem not yours…She probably feels down/funny (really who cares?) because you’re doing it and she’s …just doing nothing. Also, who gave her the right to speak to you when "she" fell like opening her mouth just to say "hi?" I would just not speak to her except work related...

Awwww thanks chica

You are truly so sweet and you are right, I won't think about it twice anymore. Just moving on and surrounding myself with positive thoughts

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