I need support and I am afraid, really, really scared.....

Rssblade · March 2013

You really do need to see a Doctor now!, then you can begin on the path to fitness and weight loss, there are a lot of Folk in the same boat as you, and will give support all the way, now get your *kitten* in gear and make an appointment.

Susay2942 · March 2013

PLEASE take the first step and see a doctor! One small step at a time will soon turn into small accomplishments and it will make you realize how strong you really are. Fatigue can be related to depression or a mirage of other things. Some blood work and a general physical can be the starting point. Call and make an appointment TOMORROW! You can do it!!! Add me as a friend if you wish and I will support you all the way.

I STRONGLY AGREE! I was in the same situation a year ago.... it took several doctors to finally get diagnosed and treated properly for thyroid disease. My hormones were all out of whack due to the thyroid and I was miserable. My heart goes out to you...please see a docotr and if you still feel this way find another. Not all docotrs are the same and many doctors refuse to let go of old ideas and treatments. Please feel free to add me as a friend if you like...

MelanieAnneWoods · March 2013

Take it one day at a time but first GO SEE YOUR DOCTOR. Start slowly, stick with it and you will see results.

Good luck, you can do this, if not for yourself then do it for your kids. :flowerforyou:

kimgall90 · March 2013

Hi, I'm new to all this too and desperate to lose weight. For my own confidence and to be a happier healthier partner and parent to my family. Add me and we can help each other

DeborahBatewell · March 2013

Hi! I'm Debbie. You can do this. My motto is "Believe it and you can achieve it". Remember this is journey to health and each journey begins with one step. I'm proud of you because, you've taken that first step by joining MFP and asking for help. Feel free to add me if you'd like. Best of luck to you. :flowerforyou:

Teliooo · March 2013

Feel free to add me. I had over 100 to lose a few years ago but never looked at it like that. I just wanted to lose weight, didn't think about how much at first. Then I hit 100 and realised it can be done pretty easily, if you are willing. If you have kids, this should be your ultimate reason. I remember not even being able to walk to my university at the beginning, as my ankles, and knees hurt so much but you have to push trough it.

x

Teliooo · March 2013

Also, have you ever had your Vitamin D level tested? I thought my anger and sadness was due to depression, found out I was severely deficient in Vitamin D. Started on a course of a high dose. My energy levels hit sky high, along with my weight loss and general happiness.

mindyjo74 · March 2013

Thanks for sharing!! You obviously know what you need to do now is the time to step up and do it for your self and your kids!!! Going to the doctor would be a great first step that can help lead you in the right direction!! You def need to have your thyroid and blood sugar checked as well as your blood pressure. All of which can be affecting the way you feel!! I recommend focusing your goals on getting healthy then worry about the weight later it will fall into place....trust me!! I wish you strength,health and happiness!!!

vivvy2012 · March 2013

I'm so sorry that you are not doing well, but if nothing else please take the time to go see a Doctor ASAP, and talk to them about what your plans are,and just take baby step, first you crawling, pulling yourself up but holding on to things or someone (MFP) and before you know it your step become big steps, and off to running you go. Believe me I all all people know that its not easy, Am have a disability and have been in this wheelchair since the age of thirteen am in my fiftys now with very limited motion, and yes I can get very depress about what i can't do. But I can tell you that I've been on MFP sense Jan 11, 2012 so far I have lost 10 lbs and I couldn't be any happier about it, I feel great and feel as it I could do just about anything wheelchair and all it will not stop me. MFP is just great and so easy it has become my best friend, so please don't me scared, I could be your friend cheering you on because YOU can do this.:flowerforyou:

gcamp1101 · March 2013

I totally understand your feelings....I feel the same way, take it one day at a time! One day at a time.

BlueInkDot · March 2013

Ireland5:

I am in a place in my journey where I would like to help people directly. Emotionally, spiritually and physically. I have learned a lot over the past year and would love to directly help you through this. I promise there is a brighter tomorrow for you.

Please send me a message if you would like to get started.

Love,
Mary

Mexicanbigfoot · March 2013

Ireland, I am in the same boat as you (minus the kids) so I feel like I maybe able to give you some helpful advice. I am morbidly obese, after going through several emotional traumas and several suicide attempts, my highest weight was 374 pounds. I was getting very bad headaches and I avoided the doctor like the plague. My blood pressure was high (almost stroke level when I finally did go in) and when they told me I had to get my life under control or I was going to die, I was very scared. I was also resistant to change. I took the medicine they gave me for my blood pressure (I'm also asthmatic since childhood) but didn't go in for follow ups like I was supposed to. I got to the point where I could not hardly function in my life. I was in so my physical and emotional pain and I just felt bad all the time. I decided that, for me, dying at 30 was way scarier than going to the doctor even though I knew they were going to tell me things I didn't want to hear. I found MFP on my phone and started using it religiously. I lost almost 40 pounds. Then I hit another emotional wall, stopped going to the doctor and taking care of myself (I thought I knew best) and got to the point where I was contemplating suicide. Again. I decided that I had too much to live for. I called the doctor, I called a mental health facility. Last summer, I spent 6 weeks inpatient, therapy 8 hours a day. It was the hardest thing I've ever done, facing my issues and talking about things that I had never told anyone. After that, I started outpatient 3 days a week, 3 hours a day. Then I started with a counselor once a week, then once every 2 weeks. I read books and learned about my disorder. I learned that it's ok to be scared and that there are people out there who care about me. I go to the doctor every 6 months now for checkups. I still have a long way to go, but I'm going to get there. If you need support feel free to add me. "The journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step" good luck with your journey! Sam

ireland5 · March 2013

Okay people,

I woke up this morning feeling supported, sorely lacking in my life for some time. I am spending some time navigating around the site, trying to figure out how it works. Walked in to a bakery this morning and just got some coffee and the cupcakes, cookies etc, just looked like bad news.

I will figure out this site, see a DOC, as I hear all of you about that, not thrilled, but I will go.

Filling up my water and getting to work. My next week will be busy, so I am adding the app to my phone, and will make the doctor appointment and check in when I do, have some audience for that now, so thanks!

I promise to reply and be reciprocal, I feel less alone now and am proud of each of you for your honesty, humanity and outreach.

Ireland

Gordo1981 · March 2013

I am not that healthy myself. I would recommend going to see a doctor though. I felt tired ALL the time too and lacked a lot of energy to do anything.......so I got my blood work done.......and was shocked everything was normal except my iron and Vitamin D. The doctor said that the reason I am lacking so much energy is because I am majorly lacking vitamin D.

Anyways I wish you and all of all the best! You can do it! Let's be happier together ^____^

Ummm have they ruled out an iron deficiency anemia?

scruffykaz · March 2013

Totally understand where you are coming from. I was at that point myself a couple of years back. I hated how I look in clothes, hated how I looked out of clothes, had really high blood pressure and socialised as little as I could.

Well done on making the decision to change. You are in the right place. I've sent you a friend request

AnitaHeady · March 2013

Hi, you know sometimes you just need a place to vent, and others to care and understand. This IS the place. I will say if at all possible please see a doctor. Only because YOU need to know things like: Are you diabetc, do you have sleep apnea, and you need to get your bp checked and monitored. I can just say that sleep apnea kept me suffereing, as well as pcos and diabetes and more. Please take care of you, and feel free to add me as a friend. I need to loose about 70 pounds, I did post 100 pounds on my page, but re-thinking this. : ) I care, please friend me and I will try to support you and goodness knows I need lots of supprt as well.

RooBug88 · March 2013

To the OP: I also have over 100lbs to lose, but I know it CAN be done. It took me 24 years to get to this point, so I don't expect an overnight fix for this. Realistically, I'm looking at over a year's worth of work to get to where I want to be. But I'm not worried about that. It's not about how fast you can get the weight off (because the faster it comes off, the more likely it is that it will just get put right back on), but rather, it's about making permanent life changes to be a healthier, happier person overall. I, too, had a seriously devastating loss this past year and it made me realize that I don't want to let my life continue to spin out of my control. I suppose my advice to you is this: don't think about the numbers on the scale or the time it will take to reach your goals. Think about the tiny life changes that will add up to a whole new start for you. Start small: focus on changing your diet first and add the physical exercise when you feel comfortable. As one of my friends here once told me: weight loss happens in the kitchen, fitness happens in the gym. I wish you the best of luck and remember, we're all here to help you! Feel free to add me as a friend, I am online daily and will be glad to walk this journey right beside you.

Weighinginwithmy02 · March 2013

I have been in that place, so scared, so tired, so desperate but unable to move, mentally and physically. I sought out professional help and it was the ONLY way out for me. I needed somebody to listen to me. I needed some guidance. I needed ONE WAY to thinking and looking at things and not 50 people on a website telling me 100 different things that worked for them. I needed somebody to give me a plan and I vowed to follow that plan faithfully no matter what I thought of it. If they would have told me to eat 40 eggs a day for 40 days, I would have done it. Granted, they didn't do that, but without their help I never would have gotten myself out of that self destructive pattern without professional help.