needed to vent
zahid222
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Hi! I 've been trying to loose weight for the past three months.My husband has always verbally encouraged me. He is tall and slender does not need to loose weight . Icook for the family and try to make extra vegetables for my self and I minimize the regular food. So I make two kinds of veggies, Grilled chicken , lentils and rice. My husband eats all the brocoli does not touch the chicken and eats some of the rest of the food. When I come to eat I see no brocoli. For some reason it makes me very sad not angry but sad . He knows veggies are my main food and he didn't care.Is it wrong for me to feel bad?
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No it's not wrong but next time I would make 10 pounds of broccoli and see what happens! Hang in there!0
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Make more broccoli / less chicken. Weird that he doesn't want chicken, but whatev.0
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Have you tried to talk to him about this?0
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When you cook you should make your plate first and then what is left he can have....0
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Easily fixed..... make MORE Broccoli! :drinker:
And maybe fix him a steak or something!
Good luck....
PS if you gets emotional over this then maybe you need to talk to someone closer to you for an opinion? :flowerforyou:0 -
I think you should just fix your plate first! Of course, making extra would probably work too, but I understand why you were sad.0
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Put aside enough broccoli for you to eat, then serve dinner. When he eats all of the broccoli, simply go get what you put aside and bring it to your plate. Keep smiling. No need to say anything. He'll get the hint or not, but either way you still get to eat your veggies without feeling sad or fighting.0
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When you cook you should make your plate first and then what is left he can have....
^^^^THIS. That's what my b/f and I do. He waits till I weigh out my portion and then he can help himself to what is left.0 -
So what does he say when you ask him to leave you some broccoli and if there is a way he prefers his chicken?0
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Thanks everybody for the support , I will make more veggies and and keep some for myself.0
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Definitely make more of the veggies you are going to eat. Tonight I grilled chicken and, before we ate, I said, the smaller pieces of chicken are for me.0
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Well since you did the cooking, why don't you load your plate up first and leave it in the kitchen. Bring the other plate for the family out to the dining room. So that by the time you are done with all the dishes, then you can take your now loaded up plate to eat. So you make sure you have all the food you will need to eat. And yeah, if it bothers you, talk to him about it. Guys are sometimes clueless about stuff and they see food and will eat everything they like without thinking about you.0
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Thanks!0
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When you cook you should make your plate first and then what is left he can have.
This. Also, what do you mean by "when I come to eat"? Do you not eat together? As in, you serve him first, and you get the scraps later? Sounds pretty messed up.0 -
He's going to be more gassy than you. Count your blessings. LOL!:laugh:0
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He's going to be more gassy than you. Count your blessings. LOL!:laugh:
But she has to live with him, so I don't think this is a good thing! :laugh:0 -
I usually have to make my hubby lunch when I cook dinner so I always make his lunch for the next day first...then the kids can have at it...make your plate first or just say please don't take all the broccoli dear...0
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He's going to be more gassy than you. Count your blessings. LOL!:laugh:
But she has to live with him, so I don't think this is a good thing! :laugh:
well, darn! Then, it's just a lose lose, huh? :sad:0 -
I don't think you are wrong to feel t hat way. It is what you feel. I think you are sad because you want him to be more supportive of your eating vegetables in order to lose weight. Him not leaving the broccoli for you is kind of like him saying, "I don't care" or acknowledge what you are doing.
Another way to look at his behavior might be that he liked the broccoli. It might have been some damned good broccoli!
I know others are saying make your plate first or prepare more vegetables so there will be enough for everyone, and that is certainly the solution. If his eating the vegetables you prepare for you is a pattern, then it might be time for you to look at the reasons for your feelings. Sometimes it is easier for us to change how we feel about a person's behavior than it is to change another person's behavior.0 -
Did you talk to him about it? I'm pretty sure I would have said "I didn't get any broccoli yet." He might not have realized that you hadn't fixed your plate, or he might just not have been thinking about it. Communication is important. Otherwise he might not even realize that he did anything to upset you.0
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