Support from bf

I need to vent. My bf and I both need to lose weight and its hard because Imactually trying and hes not. Tonight he was having whoppers and I wanted them so bad but I went to subway. Then I was cranky that he was eating that and I wasnt. Why cant he eat more healthy to help me stay on track?

When it comes to junk I dont have much will power. I know I did make the right decision going to subway I just wish he was on board with me.

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  • megsmom2
    megsmom2 Posts: 2,362 Member
    WWell..ok....but don't tell us...tell HIM. nicely.
  • Tell him how you feel. He should be on board with you and your wt loss goals
  • Sweettart
    Sweettart Posts: 1,331 Member
    I have and he says hes happy being fat. He supports me losing weight he says but loves junk and most times I dont have the will power. I am getting more will power which is good
  • concordancia
    concordancia Posts: 5,320 Member
    You can't let his choices affect your choices. My partner eats more than twice as much as me to maintain a 145 lbs.

    You seem to be confusing support with being a lap dog who does what you want.
  • matt2442
    matt2442 Posts: 1,259 Member
    Subway is better than Burger King anyways so i say you win that one
  • britexmom
    britexmom Posts: 145
    I have and he says hes happy being fat. He supports me losing weight he says but loves junk and most times I dont have the will power. I am getting more will power which is good

    This is so my dh too....I totally get how you feel. Las t week after dinner my dh ate a pb&j sandwhich, then some little Debbie snacks and finished off with a huge bowl of ice cream....so disgusting and he doesn't care at all what he looks like....oh and I have told him, both nicely and not so nicely but he just doesn't care.
    I am doing this for me and I just have to ignore what he eats and the fact that he never works out.....he is an adult and I can't force him but I refuse to join him in his bad habits.
  • Sweettart
    Sweettart Posts: 1,331 Member
    I tell him the main reason I want him to lose weight is so hes around longer. I dont want him dying of a heart attack at 50.
  • labellecanuck
    labellecanuck Posts: 105 Member
    Keep doing your thing and when he sees how much success you're having, he'll want to join you. Even if he doesn't, at least you're being successful. There will always be temptations so if you can continue to resist them from your husband, you'll really be a force to be reckoned with.
  • Sweettart
    Sweettart Posts: 1,331 Member
    I am just going to keep on doing what im doing for me and I hope hes in with me!
  • FrenchMob
    FrenchMob Posts: 1,167 Member
    Just break up.
  • Cr01502
    Cr01502 Posts: 3,614 Member
    Subway is better than Burger King anyways so i say you win that one

    This.

    And break up with your boyfriend.

    He clearly has bad taste in food.
  • CorvusCorax77
    CorvusCorax77 Posts: 2,536 Member
    I need to vent. My bf and I both need to lose weight and its hard because Imactually trying and hes not. Tonight he was having whoppers and I wanted them so bad but I went to subway. Then I was cranky that he was eating that and I wasnt. Why cant he eat more healthy to help me stay on track?

    When it comes to junk I dont have much will power. I know I did make the right decision going to subway I just wish he was on board with me.

    You can't make other people do what you want them to. I'm sorry, but you'll just end up pushing him away.

    I'm a vegetarian who was watching what i ate, and i was dating a man who ate nothing but steaks and pounded pepsis like no one's business. you know what i did? WHen i went grocery shopping, i bought him a t-bone and a 12 pack of pepsis, and I got my veggie burgers and vegetables and I cooked for both of us.

    You have to let your partner make their own decisions. And you make your own decisions.

    You can inspire people with your example, ya know. And that is way more powerful than whining at them is.
  • Elf_Princess1210
    Elf_Princess1210 Posts: 895 Member
    Is there any junk food that he likes that you don't? If you keep the stuff you don't like in the house, then you won't be tempted to eat it and he gets to keep his crappy food. It works with my husband.
  • lizziebeth1028
    lizziebeth1028 Posts: 3,602 Member
    I need to vent. My bf and I both need to lose weight and its hard because Imactually trying and hes not. Tonight he was having whoppers and I wanted them so bad but I went to subway. Then I was cranky that he was eating that and I wasnt. Why cant he eat more healthy to help me stay on track?

    When it comes to junk I dont have much will power. I know I did make the right decision going to subway I just wish he was on board with me.

    I feel your pain! My boyfriend has no interest in healthy eating or exercise. It's hard to stay on track when they're on a different track lol. But unfortunately you can't change them. He has to want to do it on your own. I've learned to just go ahead and do my thing, find the motivation within yourself and don't let anyone sway you from your goals!
  • Bikini27
    Bikini27 Posts: 1,290 Member
    You can't let his choices affect your choices. My partner eats more than twice as much as me to maintain a 145 lbs.

    You seem to be confusing support with being a lap dog who does what you want.

    That was harsh, though an honest opinion.

    He's going to make his own choices. It's up to you to make yours. If that drives a wedge between you it may be that literal fork in the road where you have decide who's more important to you: You or Him.
  • 1ConcreteGirl
    1ConcreteGirl Posts: 3,677 Member
    I need to vent. My bf and I both need to lose weight and its hard because Imactually trying and hes not. Tonight he was having whoppers and I wanted them so bad but I went to subway. Then I was cranky that he was eating that and I wasnt. Why cant he eat more healthy to help me stay on track?

    When it comes to junk I dont have much will power. I know I did make the right decision going to subway I just wish he was on board with me.

    Honestly, if you think other people need to help you stay on track, you'll be disapppointed.

    It's not his job to make you do something you want to do.
  • basslinewild
    basslinewild Posts: 294 Member
    I need to vent. My bf and I both need to lose weight and its hard because Imactually trying and hes not. Tonight he was having whoppers and I wanted them so bad but I went to subway. Then I was cranky that he was eating that and I wasnt. Why cant he eat more healthy to help me stay on track?

    When it comes to junk I dont have much will power. I know I did make the right decision going to subway I just wish he was on board with me.

    You can't make other people do what you want them to. I'm sorry, but you'll just end up pushing him away.

    I'm a vegetarian who was watching what i ate, and i was dating a man who ate nothing but steaks and pounded pepsis like no one's business. you know what i did? WHen i went grocery shopping, i bought him a t-bone and a 12 pack of pepsis, and I got my veggie burgers and vegetables and I cooked for both of us.

    You have to let your partner make their own decisions. And you make your own decisions.

    You can inspire people with your example, ya know. And that is way more powerful than whining at them is.
    ^ This. My bf is not on board with healthy eating or exercise at all. It was really hard for me to eat healthy while he's always eating fast food and cookies/ice cream but it gets easier! I would talk to him and tell him how you feel.
  • OspreyVista
    OspreyVista Posts: 464 Member
    I need to vent. My bf and I both need to lose weight and its hard because Imactually trying and hes not. Tonight he was having whoppers and I wanted them so bad but I went to subway. Then I was cranky that he was eating that and I wasnt. Why cant he eat more healthy to help me stay on track?

    When it comes to junk I dont have much will power. I know I did make the right decision going to subway I just wish he was on board with me.

    You can't make other people do what you want them to. I'm sorry, but you'll just end up pushing him away.

    I'm a vegetarian who was watching what i ate, and i was dating a man who ate nothing but steaks and pounded pepsis like no one's business. you know what i did? WHen i went grocery shopping, i bought him a t-bone and a 12 pack of pepsis, and I got my veggie burgers and vegetables and I cooked for both of us.

    You have to let your partner make their own decisions. And you make your own decisions.

    You can inspire people with your example, ya know. And that is way more powerful than whining at them is.

    ^ I totally agree. It is not his responsibility to not eat what he wants just so you don't eat it, and are not tempted. Your weight loss/fitness goals are your own, and not his. If he decides to join you and make his own fitness goals that match yours, that's great, but you can't force him into it because in the end it will make you both miserable if you try and your going to have issues in your relationship. It sounds like what you need to focus on is your will-power. I have an issue with my will-power as well, but I'm not going to tell my Fiance that he's not allowed to eat something just because I lack will-power. Why should he not get something he wants? For right now, just focus on you and hope that he can make his own fitness goals.
  • skinnyinnotime
    skinnyinnotime Posts: 4,078 Member
    You made the right choice in not having the whoppers.

    Keep making the right choices and you will feel amazing when you achieve what you've set out to do....all by yourself and be proud!

    Your boyfriend is free to make his choices.

    Good luck!!
  • LittleMissDover
    LittleMissDover Posts: 820 Member
    You can't make someone be ready to lose weight. If he doesn't want to do it the more you nag him the more he'll dig his heels in. Just do what you need to do and I'm afraid you just have to learn to ignore temptation when he's sat there with a massive take away pizza and you have a healthy tuna steak and salad (I speak from experience!) it gets easier.
  • mygrl4meee
    mygrl4meee Posts: 943 Member
    High five for having the will power not to eat BK. Its one of the places that I haven't said I will never go but in over a year maybe twice. You have to have power over your own choices. My husband eats things that I don't or have to in small portions. At times, it would be nice to smack him cause how dare he make brownies but its up to me to be strong.
  • olDave
    olDave Posts: 557 Member
    Holy cow! Doesn't anyone take responsibility for themselves anymore?
  • Nikki_WantsIt
    Nikki_WantsIt Posts: 204 Member
    Its all you, girl.. my hubby eats healthy but @ the same time he can eat w/e the hell he wants.. and he does that as well... its hard to watch him eat junk infront of me at times.. but i just tell myself.. ITS WORTH IT.. that junk will last 10 ninutes or however long it takes u to eat it.. but good health, a nice body, confidence... ect lasts sooo much longer!!
  • Chloeshade
    Chloeshade Posts: 15 Member
    My girlfriend and I are both overweight (she is actually on the obesity line), but she doesn't have any interest in losing weight. It's hard for me to understand why you might feel the need to drag your boyfriend into your personal fitness journey in any way other than encouragement and support, because it's his body, but it's great that you chose Subway over Burger King. My girlfriend doesn't make healthy choices either, but I'm okay with that and every day it gets a little bit easier to ignore the temptation of eating what she eats. I think it will get easier for you too. Best of luck! :)