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Am I being punked?

MeIShouldB
MeIShouldB Posts: 578 Member
edited January 18 in Chit-Chat
So I posted a little something about this on my status yesterday. I have a sister that is 4 years older than me. I have always been the fat sister, and she has never had a problem letting me know that ALL MY LIFE. Ever since I started losing weight, she seems uncomfortable with it, and seems to be trying to challenge me. Sometimes she goes and walks the mountain, but since my balance is bad (due to a brain condition) I don't mess with that. She will say things like come on, if you're really working out you should be able to do this. Recently she got a membership to a gym, and has been trying to push me to go with her. I hadn't gone 1) because I don't like gyms and 2) because she is not really an encouraging person. So yesterday I finally went. I usually do 30-40 minutes of cardio and then some weights. I have lost 24 LBS, so clearly my method is working. After I had done what I intended to do, she kept pushing me to do more. It seems like somebody told her that in order to get a good workout, she has to do every machine in the gym . I tried to tell her that's not true, but since I'm the little sister she never believes I know what I'm talking about (even though I have lost the weight AND I am a Health Science major). Then when we finally left we met up with my dad and she told him I gave up LOL. Does anyone have someone around them that acts like they need you to prove to them that you can do it even though you have clearly lost the weight?

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  • msaestein1
    msaestein1 Posts: 264 Member
    Yes. For sure. I have a sister who tries to compete with me for education. I am a history professor. She is a nurse. She always had good grades in high school, but she didn't go straight to college. She is 5 years older than me and was livid when I finished my education before her and at a younger age. She practically killed herself to finish nursing school to 'catch up'. I have more degrees than her, so she is annoyed. She is constantly competing to see who is the smartest. She knows more than me about everything, including my own profession. For example, she took a year of Latin in high school; I have a graduate certificate in it, but she knows more than me.... Just ignore her. She is jealous and feels threatened that you are taking her 'place' in the family. My sister was the 'smart' one until I graduated from college. Your sister is trying to take her 'place' back in the family. Keep up the good work and ignore her. You will always have someone who tries to compete with you or who is jealous. Don't let it discourage you. I avoid any situations with my sister that can be a competition for education. I just play dumb about everything. I advise you to keep your progress, your methods and workouts to yourself. Don't talk about nutrition or working out with her.
  • MeIShouldB
    MeIShouldB Posts: 578 Member
    Yes. For sure. I have a sister who tries to compete with me for education. I am a history professor. She is a nurse. She always had good grades in high school, but she didn't go straight to college. She is 5 years older than me and was livid when I finished my education before her and at a younger age. She practically killed herself to finish nursing school to 'catch up'. I have more degrees than her, so she is annoyed. She is constantly competing to see who is the smartest. She knows more than me about everything, including my own profession. For example, she took a year of Latin in high school; I have a graduate certificate in it, but she knows more than me.... Just ignore her. She is jealous and feels threatened that you are taking her 'place' in the family. My sister was the 'smart' one until I graduated from college. Your sister is trying to take her 'place' back in the family. Keep up the good work and ignore her. You will always have someone who tries to compete with you or who is jealous. Don't let it discourage you. I avoid any situations with my sister that can be a competition for education. I just play dumb about everything. I advise you to keep your progress, your methods and workouts to yourself. Don't talk about nutrition or working out with her.

    Thanks.
  • pain_is_weakness
    pain_is_weakness Posts: 798 Member
    Yes I do have a few people around me like that. Sorry you are dealing with that but just remember the more upset or challenging they are being, the mor eintimidated they are. She must be very insecure to feel a need to be the "best".
  • n2thenight24
    n2thenight24 Posts: 1,651 Member
    I have a sister that has made it her ultimate goal in life to screw every guy I date. Does that count?
  • Lone_Wolf70
    Lone_Wolf70 Posts: 2,820 Member
    she is a "one upper"...just flex and say "do you u lift bro?"
  • catrinaHwechanged
    catrinaHwechanged Posts: 4,907 Member
    I have a sister that has made it her ultimate goal in life to screw every guy I date. Does that count?

    haha...I don't know if it counts, but I laughed reading this. :)
  • supermel_69
    supermel_69 Posts: 15
    You know I always said I wanted a sister but maybe I'm really lucky to only have a brother. That sounds awful to have your family not support you. But there are always people who want to bring you down. Like the others said just ignore her and keep your workout/nutrition to yourself. She'll get the hint eventually.
  • MeIShouldB
    MeIShouldB Posts: 578 Member
    I have a sister that has made it her ultimate goal in life to screw every guy I date. Does that count?

    o yea that counts
  • MeIShouldB
    MeIShouldB Posts: 578 Member
    she is a "one upper"...just flex and say "do you u lift bro?"

    LOL love it
  • smiley245
    smiley245 Posts: 420 Member
    Yep, seems like you and I have similar sisters.
    Everything is a compition or she has to somehow put me down to make herself look/feel better. Sadly, to keep my sanity I avoid her as much as possible. When I do see her I steer away from many topics.
    Wednesday my mom said wow, your weight loss is showing (down 17lbs) my sister added yeah but you'll always be bigger than me...:grumble:

    I have 2 kids, she has none. Apparently I am punishing her because I have kids, and my parents buy them things( games, toys, clothing...what have you). So I am getting a bigger piece of the pie....She irks me to no end.

    You are doing an awesome job, I agree with the other poster, don't discuss anything that starts this kind of thing with her. And realise, the issue is with her, not you :)
  • MeIShouldB
    MeIShouldB Posts: 578 Member
    Yep, seems like you and I have similar sisters.
    Everything is a compition or she has to somehow put me down to make herself look/feel better. Sadly, to keep my sanity I avoid her as much as possible. When I do see her I steer away from many topics.
    Wednesday my mom said wow, your weight loss is showing (down 17lbs) my sister added yeah but you'll always be bigger than me...:grumble:

    I have 2 kids, she has none. Apparently I am punishing her because I have kids, and my parents buy them things( games, toys, clothing...what have you). So I am getting a bigger piece of the pie....She irks me to no end.

    You are doing an awesome job, I agree with the other poster, don't discuss anything that starts this kind of thing with her. And realise, the issue is with her, not you :)

    Sounds familiar. When I left for college she proceeded to text me about how my parents are spending money on my schooling so they won't be trying to pay for things for her. She's 28 and dropped out of Jr college FOREVER ago. My parents have been trying to get her to go back ever since, saying they will pay for it. But it's been years and she never went back. I was like dont be mad at me cuz I'm doing what I'm supposed to do and therefore EARNING that financial help and you waited too long and missed your shot. Needless to say, she has asked me NOTHING about college, my grades, or anything like that since. I doubt she even knows what my major is. She got jealous when I got on the Merit List for having a 3.7 GPA.
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