How to be healthy during a divorce

I put all that stress into my workouts. Far and away my best workouts were during the end of my marriage and early on in my divorce.

I am so sorry you are going through this. All I can say is that it takes the dreaded word TIME. Continue to exercise, it does help and you will eventually fall into a new normal routine for yourself. In the mean time at the very least make sure you are drinking enough fluids...and when you're exercising I would make sure its low impact since you aren't eating much or even just stretch each day until you feel strong enough to give it your all, even a brisk walk on the treadmill, enough to make you a little tired. Once the anger hits the exercising will get alot easier and will help.

The only piece of advice I can give you is T-I-M-E. In Time you will realize and have a moment where you say to yourself "Ok let's move on with my life."

Uhhh... I said screw the *kitten*. Knew I deserved better (and honestly better is even alone, rather than with an *kitten*)... and decided to take control of my life and be healthy and happy.

Because what better revenge is there anyway.

You need some pu lovin.

^this sounds like a great plan. I will second it!

*I have never been in your situation.. but have watched my aunt.. who I am very close with go through it.. her husband literally up and LEFT with another woman*

I say.. go have a wild YOU day! Drink.. eat the chocolate.. do what ever the hell makes you happy! Then switch gyms and take a friend with you!

Find a healthy food that makes you feel good.. and snack on that. Surround yourself with positive energy. You'll get through this! Another of MFP friends just had to break of an engagement.. I told her 'He had to get the hell out of the way for your Prince Charming!' =D

Maybe this song will help!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g5qe6fAbug0

:flowerforyou:

Boxing.

Running.

Basically I made the pain in my body louder than the pain in my heart.
And the exercise made me hungry.

Plus, I can't tell you how many times the killer workout triggered an emotional release, where I sat in my car and sobbed for an hour. Sometimes you have to let it out.

And then, time.

I agree 100% with just letting it all out!!!

I lost 20lbs when I got a divorce. If you see me, clearly I did not need to.

Try to eat, try to eat well. Try to keep moving. All you can **really** do is do the very best you can.
And if you have a bad day, get back on the wagon the next day.

Divorce is tough, so learn to be tougher. Sweat out that hurt and anger.

*hugs

how did you make yourself eat when you had too much anxiety to do so...how did you get to sleep....how did you exercise without crying? Two weeks in and I can't hold food down, can't fall asleep even with a sleep aid, and cry at the gym because that was one of "our" things. Ugh, help?

I recommend meditation. I've only been doing it a couple weeks and there are some major differences in how I think and respond to negative situations in my life. It taught my how to relax and to push out negative thoughts which is amazing. Make a list of all the good things going on in your life even things that might seem small. Post that list somewhere you can read it everyday. Write down a regimen of eating and working out and hold yourself accountable.

Read this article http://www.stress-management-4-women.com/stress-of-divorce.html

I loved my x husband so much!~ We were inseparable. Then I caught him cheating... I thought my life was over. I just wanted to get away from him as fast as possible. I thought about staying with him but I cant forgive cheating, in a way, it was a forced divorce because of his choices. I moved out within a week of finding out. I went from a size 14 to a size 5 in a couple of months. I had so many question? Why was I not good enough? Etc. I finally had to find myself. I have a 3.9 in college now, Im in an honors society, I work full time for an internship, I workout physically 5-6 times a week, I have 2 cats that are amazing pets, I now have great friends-not very many but quality is much better than quantity any day, .... Basically the best advice I can give you is to find yourself (who you are) without him... Who are you? What are your dreams? No go do them!

Eating was hard for me too. Exercise is what saved me, really. I had a newborn, my family was 3000 miles away, and I was put through absolute hell. I started off by walking every time it got to be too much. I'd strap my DD in to her baby carrier and off we'd go.

I actually lost most of my weight going through all of it...but have kept it off with hard work.

Try another gym.

Go for a run.

Find a friend to talk to.

Go to church.

BREATHE.

I didn't drink because I had just had a baby, but I also knew that it would all still suck regardless of how much alcohol was involved.

It will get better. I promise.

^This^ is good advice! My divorce has been final a year. Now, I could not be happier!! Once you are out of it, you may see that it was not healthy for you anyway; I did. Time, change your routine and make new memories. I wouldn't go back to where I was for all the tea (I am a tea addict) in the world!!!!

It happened to me too the firsts 4 months, I tried pills to sleep over the counter but didn't help. I went to the doctor to get prescribe medicine and that did it for me, i only took them for a month. I was better in my sleep and eating too. I lost like 15 pounds in that time, but didn't have energy and felt like crap. Go to the doctor and they cost like 30 dollars in the pharmacy. Hope your get in your feet soon

Honestly, from experience I think the best thing you could possibly do for your health is to seek counseling. I know it can be expensive if that is an issue (it was for me) but look for any avenue you can find to make it happen. I don't mean a doctor or medication, just a counselor. The other thing is that if you are religious, looking to your religion and/or church for comfort can be quite helpful. Regardless of your situation I think anyone who is going through a divorce would greatly benefit from a good counselor.

What you're going through, in my opinion and experience, isn't really abnormal. After my divorce 3 years ago I could not hold food down for the first 3 weeks, and there was absolutely nothing I could do to change that. It just kind of ran its course.

Another important thing is this: Surround yourself with friends and family. Stay away from negative people. Relax. Reach out and make sure you have a solid support system.

I also used exercise, after the initial shock wore off and I could actually eat. I started running to cope with stress and it made me feel powerful and in control. I ran outdoors in the park. No gym required. Plus the fresh air and sunlight don't hurt.

So I know that wasn't extremely coherent, but I guess my point is to get counseling if possible, spend as much time with friends and positive family as you can, wait until you're ready to work out, and time will help you heal.