Made fun by friends, and wanting to lose some lbs

Sorry your friends call you fat, if mine did that I'd probably find some new ones to be honest

Sure, I have asked some of my more knowledgeable friends to join in and see if they can explain better but I can at least help with the basics.

The main thing is, to eat a bit less than what you burn daily. So if you burn 2,000 calories a day, you eat, for example, 1750 calories. Do this along with workout (and eat back the calories you worked out) and you will lose weight in no time.

You changed your pic so I assume it was because I asked for the pic. Can you upload a pic that shows why you think you're fat though? This is asked to kinda "judge" what % fat you might be at. Check out this thread for that:
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/826435-bodyfat-estimation-thread

As females, or even males really, its kinda hard to "bulk up" and look liek those really beefy body builders however, what us mortals can do is to reduce out body fat % which is really simple. You workout and do some strength training. But most importantly, you HAVE to eat properly. Don't starve because all thats doing is killing your metabolism which is something you do NOT want. Heres a friend of mine that eats at 2,000 calories all the times and as you can see, she's very fit.
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/toughtulip

Another friend of mine recently made a success thread about losing lots of fat by working out and eating right:
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/929824-its-been-over-a-year-since-my-hot-affair-began

I urge you to join this group where you will be met with no nonsense and will be greeted with science backed methods to workout and eat right. You will be losing lots of weight without any pills, or any specific workout machines. You just have to eat a little bit less than what you burn typically and move around as much as possible

H!

Your weight loss goal is a little on the low side. As taunto has mentioned, looking at body fat% is a much better way to go and doing some strength training can really help with keeping to a healthy weight but looking 'tight and firm'. I understand that you may have a small frame and that there is cultural pressure to be very slim, but if you are 'firm', you should feel much more comfortable to wear tight clothes.

Your goal weight is in the underweight category per the BMI. Now, the BMI is not that good for individuals as it uses a sample population as its base, and you may not fall in the parameters for that with your frame, but it is an indicator that your goal weight may be too low. This is why using body fat % is a much better assessment, as it a better indicator of how lean you are.

ETA: I checked out your blog and I am not trying to be mean here or anything, but if the meal plan you have on it is what you are eating, that is just not enough for an active young woman. Please do not sacrifice your health trying to lose weight too quickly. You really do not have to eat that little to lose body fat.

They don't sound like friends.

This

All the previous things said + the fact that Asian culture is a little bit different... people sometimes LOL@thestereotypes... but there is a lot of pressure to be the best Asian we can be.

wow if your friends called you fat 116 , i wonder what they would call me - ELEPHANT ? hahha

I weigh 165 but my BF is still higher than I want it to be. I need to cut down to 150 and and start going back up. Probably going to try to hit 175-180 over the course of a year and a half and see... Weight isn't a good measure of health or physique.

I wish I was heavier and a lower body fat %.

H!

Your weight loss goal is a little on the low side. As taunto has mentioned, looking at body fat% is a much better way to go and doing some strength training can really help with keeping to a healthy weight but looking 'tight and firm'. I understand that you may have a small frame and that there is cultural pressure to be very slim, but if you are 'firm', you should feel much more comfortable to wear tight clothes.

Your goal weight is in the underweight category per the BMI. Now, the BMI is not that good for individuals as it uses a sample population as its base, and you may not fall in the parameters for that with your frame, but it is an indicator that your goal weight may be too low. This is why using body fat % is a much better assessment, as it a better indicator of how lean you are.

ETA: I checked out your blog and I am not trying to be mean here or anything, but if the meal plan you have on it is what you are eating, that is just not enough for an active young woman. Please do not sacrifice your health trying to lose weight too quickly. You really do not have to eat that little to lose body fat.

Thank you very much for your concern.. I love to be criticized.. so according to you, what meal plan and workout should I do ??

40%/40%/20%
Carbs / Protein / Fats
I don't know your BMR but you could just eat at maintenance and see how you feel. I'd start doing 2 days a week compound lifts and maybe 2 other days you could just add some sort of fun cardio you enjoy, dancing, rollerblading, ninja fighting.. etc.

I think if you put on some lean muscle mass and even stayed the same weight you could still get the physique you're looking for without having to cut your calories down.