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Stenobun
Stenobun Posts: 166 Member
in Motivation and Support
This weekend I went to my niece's birthday party. It was the first time I'd seen some of my family for several months, and I've lost a lot of weight since then, something like 25 pounds. Pretty much everyone was really impressed and complimentary about how well I'm doing. The only person who didn't say anything was my sister, which is pretty much what I was expecting, as we don't have a very good relationship. Then this morning I saw this cartoon she posted of me on Facebook, for everyone to see. And I SO don't look like this. I've been pissed off about it all morning. What the hell is wrong with people?

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/photos/change_big_picture/8072231
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  • newdaydawning79
    newdaydawning79 Posts: 1,503 Member
    Some people are so miserable that they just have to try to bring others down. Don't let her get to you! <3
  • MorganLeighRN
    MorganLeighRN Posts: 411 Member
    Sounds like she is jealous. Let it go. I know that it is hard, but something my husband has taught me is that if it isn't trying to kill you, it isn't a big deal. Just let your sister be herself and keep on with your weight loss. Some people have to make others feel bad about themselves so they can feel good. Remember, you are doing this for you, not for her.

    Feel free to add me if you'd like!
  • geddyp
    geddyp Posts: 94 Member
    Don't let her bring you down! You did great with your loss :D
  • cmcollins001
    cmcollins001 Posts: 3,472 Member
    Acknowledge these things in a negative manner when people do them, it gives them fuel and satisfaction...Ignore them or laugh with them and you take all the fuel and joy out of it.

    Learn to laugh at yourself and nobody else will get joy out of it. Works for me.
  • mthr2
    mthr2 Posts: 158 Member
    Buy your niece a puppy. That'll teach her.
  • futurestarz
    futurestarz Posts: 510
    what.a.jerk. ugh!!!!!
  • Tonya0605
    Tonya0605 Posts: 111 Member
    one word: Jealous
  • Stenobun
    Stenobun Posts: 166 Member

    Learn to laugh at yourself and nobody else will get joy out of it. Works for me.

    This is sound advice, and I definitely understand what you're saying. But I've been laughing at myself all my life, trying to deflate the pain out of fat jokes. I finally feel like I don't HAVE to laugh at myself because I've worked hard not to be the butt of the joke. But I hear you; I can't control her actions, just my reactions. Thanks for the input.
  • Stenobun
    Stenobun Posts: 166 Member
    Buy your niece a puppy. That'll teach her.

    LOL! Best EVER!
  • catrinaHwechanged
    catrinaHwechanged Posts: 4,907 Member
    Buy your niece a puppy. That'll teach her.

    Haha!! That or something very noisy or messy....bonus points if you can find something that is both!
  • sarahg148
    sarahg148 Posts: 701 Member
    Wow! Just....wow.

    If I were you...I would print out the cartoon...blow it up BIG time...and put it on your wall to keep you going!!!!! And send her a thank you note...saying, "Thanks for the inspiration, sis! Love ya!" But that's just me. smh...
  • jrodx2
    jrodx2 Posts: 203 Member
    Don't you dare let someone like that bring you down! I know it hurts because it's your sister but shame on her and her childish antics. You're making a positive change in your life and if she can't handle it, too bad for her! Just keep smiling at the fact that you're ten steps ahead of her! :D
  • Pamko57
    Pamko57 Posts: 182
    Acknowledge these things in a negative manner when people do them, it gives them fuel and satisfaction...Ignore them or laugh with them and you take all the fuel and joy out of it.

    Learn to laugh at yourself and nobody else will get joy out of it. Works for me.

    What a juvenile, jerky and hurtful thing to do. All my life, I've longed for a sister. Seriously, from the time my brother was born when I was 4, I knew I wanted a sister, but I'm an only daughter. (Really my parents' only child. I only have half siblings.) So when I hear of sisters not being supportive, I'm just amazed.

    That said, I posted about the psychology of those who don't acknowledge weight loss, or other accomplishments. Having lost large amounts of weight twice in my life, I find it interesting that a hand full don't. Not always heavier people. Not always people who don't like you. I'm interested in knowing why. I don't know that's it 100 percent jealousy, although maybe it is.

    At any rate, I agree with ignore or laugh. I'm always the first one laughing at myself, and it's very freeing to be able to do so. I spent about 40 years being sensitive as all get out. The ability to laugh at yourself exhibits deep reserves of self-confidence. (Which I'm not sure I have, but fake it 'til you make, right?)

    I think it would make your sister crazy if you just rise above.

    And congrats from me for your hard work.
  • EmGetsFit
    EmGetsFit Posts: 151 Member
    Wow. Your sister is just an insecure, jealous be-yotch, I think. Be proud of your success & keep on keepin' on! <3
  • Stenobun
    Stenobun Posts: 166 Member
    Thanks for the kind words, everyone. On the plus side, I was so angry this morning I ran an extra long interval at the gym this morning.
  • LittleMissRainey
    LittleMissRainey Posts: 440 Member
    Wow, she sounds delightful.

    You've done brilliantly sweets, she's obviously annoyed you got so much positive attention. Sucks to be her!

    I agree with the puppy idea ;) Even just mention to your niece that her mum was thinking about it, she'll never hear the end of it!
  • Stenobun
    Stenobun Posts: 166 Member


    What a juvenile, jerky and hurtful thing to do. All my life, I've longed for a sister. Seriously, from the time my brother was born when I was 4, I knew I wanted a sister, but I'm an only daughter. (Really my parents' only child. I only have half siblings.) So when I hear of sisters not being supportive, I'm just amazed.

    Ready for some irony? She's my twin.
  • EmGetsFit
    EmGetsFit Posts: 151 Member
    Buy your niece a puppy. That'll teach her.

    Haha!! That or something very noisy or messy....bonus points if you can find something that is both!
    Puppy AND drum set.
  • tryinghard71
    tryinghard71 Posts: 593
    Thanks for the kind words, everyone. On the plus side, I was so angry this morning I ran an extra long interval at the gym this morning.

    ^^
    Now that is the best sweetest revenge ever! Good for you!
  • jessykab74
    jessykab74 Posts: 167 Member
    Wow! Just....wow.

    If I were you...I would print out the cartoon...blow it up BIG time...and put it on your wall to keep you going!!!!! And send her a thank you note...saying, "Thanks for the inspiration, sis! Love ya!" But that's just me. smh...

    HAHA i love this idea!!
  • tryinghard71
    tryinghard71 Posts: 593


    What a juvenile, jerky and hurtful thing to do. All my life, I've longed for a sister. Seriously, from the time my brother was born when I was 4, I knew I wanted a sister, but I'm an only daughter. (Really my parents' only child. I only have half siblings.) So when I hear of sisters not being supportive, I'm just amazed.

    Ready for some irony? She's my twin.


    Are you smaller than her now?
  • Gracerrr
    Gracerrr Posts: 141
    I would tear my sister a new one! I'm sorry you're related to such a biotch. :-(
  • MorganLeighRN
    MorganLeighRN Posts: 411 Member
    Buy your niece a puppy. That'll teach her.

    Haha!! That or something very noisy or messy....bonus points if you can find something that is both!
    Puppy AND drum set.

    And teach the puppy to poop every time she plays the drums!
  • MsFree09
    MsFree09 Posts: 44 Member


    What a juvenile, jerky and hurtful thing to do. All my life, I've longed for a sister. Seriously, from the time my brother was born when I was 4, I knew I wanted a sister, but I'm an only daughter. (Really my parents' only child. I only have half siblings.) So when I hear of sisters not being supportive, I'm just amazed.

    Ready for some irony? She's my twin.

    lol That explains everything! Sisters can be catty sometimes..trust me I have a younger one. But the fact that she's your twin, maybe she's always thought of herself as the better/prettier/funnier/whatever one. However, now that you're losing weight and maybe have some other positive things going on in your life, she's jealous.

    Just tell her how you feel. When my sister says something negative, I just ask her....and why do you feel like that? What possessed you to do/say something of that nature? Usually she won't have a concrete answer. After a few times of me doing that she just shuts up lol She's beginning to realize that she needs to think before she speaks. lol It works for me!
  • tryinghard71
    tryinghard71 Posts: 593
    Buy your niece a puppy. That'll teach her.

    Haha!! That or something very noisy or messy....bonus points if you can find something that is both!
    Puppy AND drum set.


    And teach the puppy to poop every time she plays the drums!

    :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
  • funhouse77
    funhouse77 Posts: 179 Member
    Jealous. Jealous. jealous. If she's overweight, she's jealous that your losing weight and she's not. If she's not overweight, she's jealous about the attention your getting and threatened that she won't be seen as the 'skinny one' for much longer.

    Lap it up, don't let her get you down, and carry on making her jealous!!!
  • Stenobun
    Stenobun Posts: 166 Member


    Are you smaller than her now?

    Yep. She outweighs me by about 50 pounds, maybe more.
  • tryinghard71
    tryinghard71 Posts: 593


    Are you smaller than her now?

    Yep. She outweighs me by about 50 pounds, maybe more.

    Well...there you go. I think you have your answer. Feel good about yourself and just think about how she is acting out because she does not feel good about herself.
  • penguinlally
    penguinlally Posts: 331 Member
    you are doing great
    try hard not to trip on her meanness too much - but it is so hard I know at our house my sister is referred to as "she who shall not be named"
  • SarahBeth0625
    SarahBeth0625 Posts: 685 Member
    Buy your niece a puppy. That'll teach her.

    Haha!! That or something very noisy or messy....bonus points if you can find something that is both!
    Puppy AND drum set.

    The Playskool Ball Popper toy. Loudest toy ever!! LOL!

    Big hugs, OP. I have had people not acknowledge things and be passive-aggressive and I have KNOWN they were referring to me and it stings. My sister, though, would never do something like that. HUGS to you!

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