102 pounds lost. Still not enough.

notenoughspeed
notenoughspeed Posts: 290 Member
in Motivation and Support
I swear. Losing weight is great, but it doesn't mean **** in this world where we face fierce competition from much more attractive guys in the dating world. I'm not losing motivation. I still work out 5-6 days a week, and eat pretty healthy, but I had to let go of the one I was with, and now face the world alone for the first time in 6 years, not at my best. I know I just need to keep my head high and push through these rough times. I knew this was a 18 month to 2 year transformation when you have 170-190 pounds to lose.

I remember a time back in 1999-2000. I reached my goal of 185, things changed. It was like I joined the beautiful peoples club. The world looks at you different, in such a great way. Some people say it's confidence that makes a person more attractive. Confidence comes naturally when you see the way people treat you better when you reach a normal healthy weight. 205 and higher for me? Nada. Just trying to keep my head up through this arduous times. I'm sure there are some who understand this.

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  • MyProgressISYour1Proof
    MyProgressISYour1Proof Posts: 376 Member
    You know I understand for sure. It just seems to never be enough and I'm down a lil over 200. We just gotta be the est us we can be!
  • JessieJanie
    JessieJanie Posts: 428
    I'm sorry to hear about your break up! Just from a girls perspective, I'd much rather have an intelligent, funny guy with a few extra pounds, rather than a jerk with washboard abs. I think that's the case for most girls. I think you look great, keep up with the good work, and good luck!
  • drchimpanzee
    drchimpanzee Posts: 892 Member
    Wow and I thought I was the only one. 365 to 225ish here. My wife actually left me in part because of my weight when I was about 300 so my perspective with dating starts about then. Sure people who know me are amazed and happy for me but to women I approach I'm still just some chubby guy. Are they nicer than they were? Sure. Do they treat me nearly the same as the average guys? Not even close.
  • concordancia
    concordancia Posts: 5,320 Member
    The only thing I ever noticed was that I get more attention from creeps when I am thin or only overweight. They leave be the F alone when I am obese. Mostly. There are a few who think you are desperate because you are fat.

    People in general tend to be attracted to confidence. If you convince yourself that you need to lose weight to find someone, you are not going to exude confidence. If you believe that, I bet you are more likely to talk about what you are doing to become that, as well. Exchanging dieting stories too early leads to the friend zone. Unless your date happens to be another person who has lost 100 lbs., but unless a mutual friend has set you up, that just doesn't seem like something that is likely to come up until you are ready to show each other vacation pics.
  • notenoughspeed
    notenoughspeed Posts: 290 Member
    I'm not desperate at all. Personally, I'm okay with just continuing to work on me solo. I know my fullest potential, and it's pretty awesome. This isn't my first weight loss rodeo. :) Just still a long journey, this one being longer than the other two times I did this. At least now I have the tools to make this time the last time I ever have to make this journey.
  • zilliegirl
    zilliegirl Posts: 52 Member
    I was very small when I meet my husband and during our not so great marriage I put on 70 pounds,I left him. The weight is coming off and I feel my personality,confidence and peace coming back,however the thought of dateing scares the **** out of me lol

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