Emotional breakdown- will it end?

I'm so sorry..all I can say is that you need to give yourself time to heal and recover. Even if its you that done the breaking up, it still hurts even if it was for all the right reasons.
Give yourself time, beat the hell out if that pillow, it'll help and try to eat small meals of your favourite food.

Sending you hugs xx

Grief is a one day at a time thing. There is no magic bullet. You put one foot in front of the other, take care of what absolutely has to be done and allow yourself time to heal. You can do it, I know because you already are by making yourself eat and exercise. Thirty years ago I broke off my engagement with my college boyfriend 6 weeks before the wedding. It was ugly, so I know a little about where you are. There is the other side of the wall of grief, and you will get there one step at a time.

it will pass. they usually say it takes about half the time youve dated someone to get over it... but everyone is different. keep going to the gym which will inadvertently make you feel better. things happen for a reason...so dont sweat it!

There is NOTHING wrong with you. You have taken a severe emotional blow, and it hurts. Unlike the commercials say, it's OKAY to be sad, it's OKAY to be angry, it's even OKAY to be depressed.

Like Brett says, this will, in time, pass. Take care of yourself. Do the day-to-day maintenance to keep your health. Just like any physical injury, it will take time to recover from an emotional wound.

Yes, it does get better. Spend some time grieving, cultivating your friendships, organizing a peaceful living space. It wouldn't hurt to see a therapist, even for a few sessions, to allow yourself to verbalize your feelings to an objective listener and examine your past, present and future.

I've been through some very stressful times and I, too, could not eat. You almost have to force yourself to do so so that you can push through. I know it's hard. Are you able to go to counseling? I don't know your situation, but we have free Employee Assistance through work, which is free & confidential counseling.

I'm really sorry and hope that you start perking up a little.

It definitely takes time.

There is a life after him, and I am hoping that you will someday look back on this and smile knowing you're better off.

Big hugs.

so who cheated on who?

^^never been loved.

I'm sorry this is a rough time for you. *Hugs* But sounds like you are doing everything right. Just need a little time. I agree-- this too shall pass.

It will end. But its ok to feel sad, to grieve too, its part of the process. Acknowledge those feelings. I was the same about a year ago, had no appetite, it came back eventually. I personally took the time to just figure out what I wanted and who I wanted to be. It takes time, but everyday that passes is a step in the right direction and eventually you'll look back and realise that somewhere in that time you overcame it.

I got a lot of suport from family and rebuilt my life. One of the best things that came out of my experience was realising how amazing they are and how lucky I am to have them. Seek out support, you'd be surprised how many people will help if you just ask.

Focus on doing things you used to enjoy, taking time to relax and de-stress, work out if you can (it really helps) and have fun!

I'm in the mental health field so maybe this is a bit out there for you but I found that learning mindfulness (the mindful way through depression is really good) really helped me cope with a lot of things. Deep breathing also helped when things just got way too much.

Good luck

Everyone has offered great advise but I just wanted to second what someone said about seeing a counselor if possible. I was very much against doing so and thought it reflected badly on me but finally got to the point with a family situation where I felt like I had no other option. I only went about 4-5 times but just to have an unbiased 3rd party tell me what I was doing was right and that I was still a good person helped a ton!!! If at all possible, I would suggest it to anyone going through a very stressful time.

so who cheated on who?

^^never been loved.

I asked the question because you don't handle guilt and anger the same way. Someone has to be the realist.

There are different and more acceptable ways of asking that question than the way you did. Plus, it is the OPs business and the fact that she didn't disclose the reason in her post would indicate that she doesn't want to. Have some decorum.

OP, I have no great advice, other than there are many, many people that have or will go through the same thing. They all get through it and so will you. Cheesy I know, but time really is the best healer.

By three methods we may learn wisdom: First, by reflection, which is noblest; Second, by imitation, which is easiest; and third by experience, which is the bitterest.
~Confucius