What is the root of your weight issue?

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  • mimikate68
    mimikate68 Posts: 20
    I could use some support from people who like me have similar root issues. I am doing it out of complete revenge to control something my parents and siblings could never do.. Hopefull I can motivate someone else along the way. I am very competive and offer weekly challenges.
  • Charlixoxo
    Charlixoxo Posts: 94 Member
    I used to be painfully shy, and I would get the odd remark that I was fat.

    I used to come home from school feeling really low, and I used to love sitting infront of the tv and eating. It made me feel safe and comforted.

    I think this has led to comfort eating now when stressful situations arise :(
  • alowry25
    alowry25 Posts: 19 Member
    I have been struggling to lose weight for the past few years after I had my gallbladder removed :o( Use to I could go on a diet and lose weight with NO problems but now the scale does not budge. I go to the gym 4-5 times a week, work out for an hour and I am the same. Some people said they notice a difference, maybe I am toning but still not satisfied with what I see (what normal woman is??) and my clothes fit the same. My eating habits are good. I eat fruits, lean meat, veggies and still...the...same.. blah.. Good luck to all!!
  • kimmynw1
    kimmynw1 Posts: 97 Member
    I learned at a young age if I sat by myself and kept eating I wouldn't have to think about "bad" things. Started when I was about 11 or 12 and continued on through my adult years. I still want to sit and mindlessly eat when I am stressed out but trying to turn to walking instead. I too have control issues. Tell me I can't or shouldn't do something I am gonna do it :angry: :grumble: Which has not helped me over the years!
    I am working on being a new me!
  • rugileisrunning
    rugileisrunning Posts: 1
    Feeding my emotions..
  • OperationBikiniFine
    OperationBikiniFine Posts: 10 Member
    THEN:
    It was the day Momma told me she had cancer. That was 25 years ago. I buried all my feelings and ate-all the while taking ballet, tap, jazz, modern, and African dance. I lost that weight.

    After Then:

    I stopped dancing in college, kept eating, started working desk jobs, and didn't pick up any physical activity.

    After After Then:
    Daddy got sick, and I kept eating.

    Now:
    Lack of Self-discipline and follow through aka LAZINESS. I KNOW what to do and I do it....then at the 3 week mark, I lose motivation. I KNOW it's not always easy....I KNOW that I should just get up and do it REGARDLESS of whether I feel like it or not. Hmmm....perhaps I'm scared of successfully completing this goal...after all, I'd have to move onto another one. *scratches chin*
  • NewLIFEstyle4ME
    NewLIFEstyle4ME Posts: 4,440 Member
    I didn't start putting on weight until my mid to late 30's early 40's--before then, I was always skinny/underweight (which I HATED as much as I hate being fat--I HATED being skinny)--before having children, I couldn't gain weight to save my life, no matter how much junk I ate ) When I started having children late in life--I started gaining weight and it was fabulous (I LOVED being a size 7/8 instead of a size 2...NOTE: a size 7/8 then is probably a size 0 now (vanity sizing being what it is) :laugh: ) and I was thrilled to no longer be as skinny as a stick--then it/I got outta control, that's when I started being FAT & Flabby. My personal reasons are:

    Laziness
    Gluttony
    feeling sorry for myself
    false sense of entitlement ( these kids are driving me crazy, I'm going to go out and stuff my face with unhealthy yummy stuff because..."you *deserve* a break today, so get out and get away at (fill in a fast food joint) type of mentally.

    The bottom-line is I got fat because I let myself go...that's the bad news, the good news is I've got a new attitude about my eating, drinking and thinking, so slim and trim is where I'm headed and will stay for these rest of my life. My children no longer being babies, toddlers and pre-schoolers and helping out more with the cooking and cleaning is a HUGE help too!
  • shellylb52
    shellylb52 Posts: 157 Member
    Snacking out of boredom and a sedentary job :frown:
  • Hexahedra
    Hexahedra Posts: 894 Member
    I was skinny but toned in HS because I had tons of physical activities. In college I ate up to bulk up, but wasn't very successful because I still got really fast metabolism. Fast forward to today: I have a desk job and did nothing in the way of exercise, so I gained enough weight to put me in the 'overweight' BMI range. Basically my problem is lack of exercise, so now I'm attacking it with a vengeance by going 3-5 times a week to the gym.
  • bcattoes
    bcattoes Posts: 17,299 Member
    I can relate to many of you. I do think my biggest issue is portion control . . . always has been. I eat VERY healthy but just too much.

    This was an issue for me at one time too. Now I just eat very light throughout the day but have one really big meal. A meal that may include wine or beer, seconds, and/or dessert. It's usually 1/2 my daily calories or more.

    I suppose I could work to control my love of big meals, and spread my calories more evenly throughout the day. But I'm happier eating this way.
  • ThatSoundsHard
    ThatSoundsHard Posts: 475 Member
    I like chocolate, junk food and wine. And I'm lazy.
  • Desterknee
    Desterknee Posts: 1,056 Member
    Laziness, denial, emotional/bored eating, self hatred.
  • Sherae12
    Sherae12 Posts: 89 Member
    When I was 12 my life started changing drastically and I didn't adjust well. It went from just a small indulgence (to get my mind off things) to full blown binge sessions and before you know it I was wearing double digits.

    Let's just say....Now that I've turned 20 it's time to kick the habbit
  • jstcallmecoco
    jstcallmecoco Posts: 43
    I would say poor time management and my undeniable sweet tooth.
  • wikitbikit
    wikitbikit Posts: 518 Member
    I like to eat calorie-dense foods and sit on my butt. That's the root of it, but...

    I've always been chubby-- I've always preferred to sit and read instead of go outside to play.

    My dad used to drink nightly and when he'd go to the party store to buy his beer, he'd usually buy me a candy of some sort as well. I'd either go with him and pick out my own, or he would bring one home and hide it for me to find. It's pretty much the only positive interaction I remember with my dad, and in relationships I still tend to equate being brought goodie-type food with a sign of love. At least I recognize it now, even if I haven't completely got control of it. :)

    I actually eat pretty well now for the most part, but I still don't like moving my carcass around.
  • holothuroidea
    holothuroidea Posts: 772 Member
    I was always very thin (I'm petite and have a small frame). When I was a kid I was allowed to eat whatever I wanted in whatever quantities I wanted. I was never required to clean my plate or eat my vegetables (I always ate them anyway! Vegggiiieees <3 ). I always had a healthy relationship with food and a moderately active lifestyle just from being young and having fun.

    Then the crap hit the fan. I graduated college (a year early from cramming 26 credits into my semesters to save money because I paid for it myself by working my *kitten* off), got married, had two kids and bought a house all in the space of 4 years. I married a very lovely man who would run and buy fast food and ice cream/candy at any hint of me being overwhelmed. So, I developed sedentary habits from being pregnant and breastfeeding for 4 years straight, and stress eating habits from being constantly overwhelmed and learning from my husband's eating patterns.

    So the short answer is overeating and not moving enough, but those are the reasons behind why I developed those habits.
  • _AllieCat_
    _AllieCat_ Posts: 515 Member
    I ate more than I was burning off.
  • ApexLeader
    ApexLeader Posts: 580 Member
    oreos and milk is just too good
  • JenniferLynx
    JenniferLynx Posts: 8 Member
    Grew up with an obese family that associates celebration with good food....I never learned portion control...or really any self control. Throw on some self esteem issues, teenage angst, and an internalized sense of failure and BOOM 230lbs
  • Therealobi1
    Therealobi1 Posts: 3,262 Member
    just having too much of what i fancied all the time
    no exercise at all
    i didnt start off this way at all, so all self inflicted.
  • Anthonydaman
    Anthonydaman Posts: 854 Member
    Eating sugar after dinner, it kills me
  • CorvusCorax77
    CorvusCorax77 Posts: 2,536 Member
    food is yummies and I want to stuff it in my mouth a lot.

    laziness has never realy been an issue for me...except when i'm depressed I guess.
  • HealthyinAZ
    HealthyinAZ Posts: 408 Member
    Obese family - and extreme physical abuse growing up. Nothing says overweight like feeling you aren't worth the effort and work to be healthy.
  • FitSuga
    FitSuga Posts: 259 Member
    I didn't have any problems until I became a mom. I was fine with the first two but when I got pregnant with twins is when the weight really started giving me problems. I was on bed rest, ended up losing one of our babies so it just led to weight gain and all that.
  • llmcconnell
    llmcconnell Posts: 344 Member
    SAD: Standard American Diet< I blame it mostly on you (and my lack of self-control towards food and not exercising), but mostly my diet. I eat when I'm not hungry and sometimes because good memories are connected to bad food (junk/fast food), I think it tastes delicious, when in fact it is actually really nasty. I've also kind of gotten used to my body, since I've been this way for about 7 years now but I've always kind of had body image issues but now the pendulum swings in the opposite direction where I think I look good but my mirror lies, the camera is a much better at disclosing the truth... It's as much a mental challenge as it is a physical one.
  • jesslauraa28
    jesslauraa28 Posts: 1
    overall love of crappy food!
  • irisia99
    irisia99 Posts: 58 Member
    I just really, really like food.

    ME TOO! I like all kinds of food and I like to eat lots of it! All the time. When I'm not hungry. I just like to taste. And chew.
  • Inshape13
    Inshape13 Posts: 680 Member
    I gained alot of weight due to binge eating which got out of control after I was raped as a teen and was in a domestic violence relationship for years....fear of leaving him and constant threats. He threatend me when I got thin and he thought that I would leave and be with someone else. Eventually I just had enough and took my chances and left.(first attempt at leaving was a nightmare, but then I got out of the situation some years later) I guess that food problems came from fear then and I still struggle when I feel not heard or not being in control of situations. It is a work in progress, but I will get there. Best wishes to everyone who is losing weight and changing for the better.
  • olDave
    olDave Posts: 557 Member
    I enjoy food.:smile:
  • jbutterflye
    jbutterflye Posts: 1,914 Member
    My parents and I immigrated to the US when I was about 9 and I left all my family and loving grandparents behind. My parents divorced shortly afterward and my mother became verbally and emotionally abusive, father had been a source of terror and after the divorce was largely absent from my life. I'm an only child and had no one else to turn to, so I turned to food for comfort. As I grew older my mother became competitive with me, similar to the Snow White story, resenting my youth, and the abuse worsened into my teenage years. Eating for comfort became a habit and a vicious cycle of shame. Also I was too sedentary as a kid, preferring to escape into my room with a good book.

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