The Former Morbidly Obese

I need help. Thank you in advance. HOW do you turn your life around?


  • icimani
    icimani Posts: 1,454 Member
    I'm still in the morbidly obese category, even after losing over 100 pounds - that gives you some idea of how much i had to lose. I hope I'm allowed to answer?

    Start eating healthier - smaller portions of better quality food.

    Move more - everything counts when you have a lot to lose. Walk farther to the grocery store, start playing Wii, walk around your house a few times each day.

    A little bit at a time.

    You've already lost 6 pounds - you're on your way! Feel free to add me as a friend.
  • PosterGuy1
    PosterGuy1 Posts: 163 Member
    I need help. Thank you in advance. HOW do you turn your life around?

    II began this journey on 1/1 and I weighed 420.2 pounds. I now weigh 359.6 pounds. I have been eating a lot healthier. Feel free to look at my diary and friend me.
  • thecakelocker
    thecakelocker Posts: 408 Member
    Cutting calories to a reasonable deficit (TDEE-20%), adding in healthy snacks to reduce snack urges, taking up an exercise routine, and really most importantly loving myself and forgiving myself for being so fat. :smile: Coming to terms with my weight and self and letting go of the comfort/guilt I attached to food was hard but so worth it.
  • Graelwyn75
    Graelwyn75 Posts: 4,404 Member
    Determination, constantly visualising and reminding yourself of how you wish to be, focus on why you became so obese in the first place(whether emotional or other) and rectifying that(because if it is due to emotional issues, it will be very hard to lose weight without dealing with those issues as well), small changes, forgetting the word 'diet' and focussing instead on 'health' and changing your entire lifestyle gradually, learning to cook can help so you can create healthier versions of the foods you like, moving as much as you can, and building up that movement as your fitness improves, never losing hope, accepting you will not be 'perfect' and will have 'bad eating days' and that this is not an excuse to give up and revert, finding hobbies and activities to replace eating if you tend to eat through boredom or emotional factors, reaching out for and accepting support from others on mfp, whether they are where you are or have been where you are. Fill a scrapbook with motivational quotes, and reasons you want to do this, and remind yourself whenever you feel like giving up. And don't feed into the massive industry that is quite happy to take our money regardless of the effects their foods might have on our wellbeing.
  • PosterPens
    PosterPens Posts: 172 Member
    you have to really, really want it. then you have to really, really commit to it. take each day as it comes, as it does gets easier along as you start shedding the weight. find foods you like and incorporate those into your day, staying within your calorie goal.

    if youre having portion problems, weight watchers is a good place to start. thats where i started, i totally forgot how to eat and what a normal portion was. still eat the foods i love, and dropping the pounds.
  • TesselCat
    TesselCat Posts: 74
    Just take it one step at a time and learn to forgive yourself for past and future mistakes.
  • dnlg18652
    dnlg18652 Posts: 27
    Wow that is awesome!
  • Gr8ChangesAhead
    Gr8ChangesAhead Posts: 836 Member
    One good choice at a time. One step at a time. One day at a time. You only have the future to look forward to :)
  • pwittek10
    pwittek10 Posts: 723 Member
    You can do it!
    I did and I am 60 years old,
    my only regret was I did not do it in my 30"s
    Do it for yourself and you will find yourself.
  • msmollygp
    msmollygp Posts: 22 Member
    I decided to make the choice to eat healthy and work out. Even though it hurt (I had foot surgery and a bad back) to exercise at first, it was the little steps I took to change my life that made the difference. I make the CHOICE to work out and eat healthy and it shows. You can do this, but realize that it takes time, dedication, and perseverance!
  • dogo187
    dogo187 Posts: 376
    one day, one meal, one workout, one choice at a time....

    and as some one already have to really, really, really want it...

    once you stop make excuses and get really honest with yourself, and stop fooling yourself into believing that "you can just go on a diet when you are ready"...

    one piece of advice that i can give you is never, never, quit! if you have a bad day/week/month then you have to just pull up your big girl panties and get right back to living a healthful lifestyle....

    i know some people who never fell off and lost weight quickly...but that just didnt work for me...its taken me two and a half years to lose almost 150lbs and its been HARD! but worth every single bit of the hard work that ive had to put in!
  • StheK
    StheK Posts: 443 Member
    As others have said, in small steps, one day at a time, learning to forgive yourself when you make mistakes. And, for me, finally being so tired of my current existence that if I didn't start changing SOMETHING, I couldn't much see the point of ANYTHING. But I'm here on this planet, still alive, so there's hope- and I'm going to make the most of it for as long as I can. I hope you find what motivates you to start making those small changes that add up- I think being here is a very good start.
  • TesselCat
    TesselCat Posts: 74
    and as some one already have to really, really, really want it...
    This is a really important thing, that I don't think can be said enough. Also, though, you have to really, really want it for -yourself.- If you try to do it for anyone else, you'll be a lot less motivated and less likely to follow through.
  • Jolene8992
    Jolene8992 Posts: 127 Member
    Theres no magic. You just do it. If you really have to ask, then your probably not ready. We all have to hit our own wall, where we decide to pull up our big girl panties and just do it.
  • Been there. I suggest you start slow. Don't focus on changing food choices right now. What you want to do is get out there and walk for about 30 minutes each day. If your knees can't handle that, I recommend an indoor swimming pool. Get your heart pumping! After a week gradually ease up on your food intake. Eliminate the junk food slowly. If you start feeling deprived you will lose the battle. Each week add a little more exercise and each week make healthier choices at the table. Keep it even. Within the first couple weeks you'll find that losing weight at this point is so easy. Once you get down to my size, it's when the real hard work begins. Best of luck!
  • Proyecto_AN
    Proyecto_AN Posts: 387
    i'm no longer morbidly obese, so you can do it. Feel free to add me, maybe we can learn from each other.
  • Duck_Puddle
    Duck_Puddle Posts: 3,224 Member
    Find your reason to want this, the reason that really means something to you. It doesn't have to be a good reason, it just needs to mean the world to you. You will need this reason often-it will carry you through the rough patches. My reason is in my profile, but is likely meaningless to you. But find something that means as much to you as my reason means for me.

    Find healthy food that you actually like to eat. You need to make changes you think you can stick to forever. If you hate celery, dot eat it. Find something you DO like that is reasonably healthy (or at least healthier). Eat that. Don't think you need to starve to lose weight-you don't. I eat all day long, and make room in my life for cookies and cake and pizza and bacon cheeseburgers. Not all the time, but the prospect of life without goodies is unfathomable. I don't eat anything that I don't like. Make sure you do the same.

    Move more. Don't go into the fitness forum and read about people doing HIIT and going for 10 mile runs. If you can manage walking at a slow pace for 5 minutes, that's awesome! That's 5 minutes you weren't moving before. Build up to 10 minutes or whatever. Point being to compare you to you. Progress on where you are. Don't compare yourself to anyone else. Only you know what you can do-and congratulate yourself for every accomplishment.

    Realize there is no "done". This will go forever. Whatever you do to lose weight is something you need to do for the rest of your life. Set goals based on behaviors you can control (what you eat, how much you exercise). Meet those goals and the weight will come off.

    Lastly, we are humans. We all mess up. We all have days where we make not the best food choices (go find the "how much is the most you've ever been over" thread for examples). What makes the difference is that a cookie puts you over by 200 calories. That's 200 calories. If you turn that into "I've failed, I suck, I blew it and might as well start over tomorrow", you'll be over by 3000 calories by the time you're done. Learn to accept that you ate a cookie and life will go on and you'll survive and keep going and like all those posting that they have been over by 4-10k calories in a day, you'll have success.

    Best wishes.
  • IsMollyReallyHungry
    IsMollyReallyHungry Posts: 15,354 Member
    and as some one already have to really, really, really want it...
    This is a really important thing, that I don't think can be said enough. Also, though, you have to really, really want it for -yourself.- If you try to do it for anyone else, you'll be a lot less motivated and less likely to follow through.
    and I would like to add using MFP for support and if you need additional support seeking it out. Asking for help because it is easier to do with support and knowing you are not alone.
  • bonjour24
    bonjour24 Posts: 1,119 Member
    You do have to really want it. You have to want it so much that when you think you want the cake, you remember that you want something else more. You have to want it so much that you find the extra hour that you didn't know existed, so that you can exercise to meet your goals.

    You have to want it enough to make those changes that you know already need to happen, and you stop finding excuses and start finding solutions and ways to make it happen.

    It does take some adjustment! And we all have good days and bad days. But there is never a point where you throw in the towel and choose to stop trying. You just pick it back up where you left off and keep on trucking.
  • gettinfit320
    gettinfit320 Posts: 32 Member
    I started to turn my life around by making small changes that I could live with for the rest of my life. Examples: Changed from soda to diet soda, then to water... Regular chips to baked chips, now....I only baked chips once in a while or pass on them all together. Slowly I stopped buying foods in a 'box' and switched to fresh salad and more vegetables...The boxed food extend shelf life....will shorten your life.

    I won't lie this took me a year, but my eating habits are so much I'm working on regular daily exercise...I still have a ways to go, but using this process I've lost 50 lbs and kept it off for several years. Last summer / fall I had gained about 20 lbs when a loved one died suddenly and I spiraled out of control....but I didn't go back to unhealthy foods during this time, only very bad portion control....AND too much restaurant food. But I'm back with MFP for the long haul...changing my life one day at a time. Remember, start by making small changes you can live with permanently.....then you will never be on a 'diet' it will just be how you live YOUR LIFE. All the best.....