Called fat by a stranger.

I work at a preschool, and some of the kids there make comments about my body. "Your belly looks funny" "your belly is big" and my personal favorite, "you have babies in your belly". The worst part is, they're too young to understand what they're really saying, and it is difficult to get them to stop. It doesn't bother me so much when it's just me and them, but when they say it in front of other teachers, I feel embarrassed and hurt.

I rejected a guy at a club once, and he randomly called me a fat b*tch. I guess he was mad I refused to dance with him. It really stung and ruined the rest of the night! How was I supposed to shake my stuff if I was feeling that unconfident!?

People are rude. People are mean. But most people aren't making a positive life change like we are. Just keep pushing forward and keep your head held high!

This happened to me too, except it wasn't face to face it was online. I use to frequent this singles chat room when I was single and the guy would come in using a different screen name to call me fat. Now when I sent him a photo of me previously, he thought I was beautiful until I would no longer chat with him, because he treated me like I was a cyber *kitten*.

At least they were twelve so you can excuse their lack of manners. Last weekend my mother-in-law asked me if I was jealous of my sister because she is so much skinnier than me. WTF?!?!?!?!?!?!

Kids will say anything... "You're fat, your nose is big, you're bald, etc." It's up to parents to correct them when they're young (3-6 years old) and teach them that there are certain things you don't point out because it hurts people's feelings.

Too many parents think it's funny and laugh when their 5 year olds say this, but all they're teaching them us that "This is funny, keep doing it." Well it's not funny when they're teenagers and still doing it to people, even strangers. It's disrespectful and teaches them to judge people by their looks! Being overweight doesn't give others permission to ridicule or harass that person!

Yes, just recently from a grown 'man'. He pulled up close behind me in his truck and since I was waiting for these idiots to move out of the handicapped parking space he got 'upset' and when I got out of the car he started yelling and calling me all kinda fat this and fat that and I just looked at him and said Happy New Year! and he just kept on...he was my age too. So sad that people have left their manners at home or that they were never taught any.

Hang in there because you are beautiful.

Kids are really, really rude. I taught middle/high school for 3 years after I graduated college and I was completely appalled by the things that 7th-9th graders can say, even to a teacher! I'm so sorry you had to go through that experience!

I remember telling myself, "I am not going to let some 12-year-old punk ruin my day today!" You're better than that!

I agree it hurts, but I wouldn't have responded to those kids like that. Usually the best bet is to pull the "what is your parent's phone number" card, or just ignore. I've never been called names by kids though, but I have had to do that with kids I've seen misbehaving in my neighborhood. Usually that gets them to straighten up.

*IF* I ever do get called a hurtful name in the future, my planned comeback is going to be along the lines of "I can change my size, can you change your attitude?" - or - if I'm feeling more snarky: "at least I'm not ugly inside like you are" depends on the situation. Hopefully that doesn't happen and I don't have to get mean. (I wouldn't respond that way to children though.)

I can only recall once being made fun as an adult, that was about 4 years ago when I was in the process of losing about 50 lbs. I was down to about 180 and was on my daily lunch break walk, and a couple of guys drove by and yelled at me, called me fat. It bothered me some, because honestly I'm used to guys going by and getting cat-calls, even when I was heavier (apparently I have a nice bottom???LOL!) But then I thought about it and figure if grown adults are going to behave that immature, then whatever they say or think about me really doesn't affect me because they are beneath me. And I went on to lose 20 more lbs and was very nicely shaped and happy for a couple years (until I had a job loss and depression and gained it back). But I'm back and more determined than ever.

As a kid, I got it all the time mostly from immature little boys, I remember one kid in particular made fun of me a lot in middle school (and I realize now I was never even fat or heavy in school, I just wasn't a stick..I got my curves early). But then I saw him a few years later in high school and he had grown up and turned into this big fat sloppy ugly manboy...I didn't say anything but he sure kept his mouth shut when he saw me! I love Karma.

That was very rude! But you cant let others' opinions get to you. The only opinion that matters is yours. I used to be bothered by things like that. I spent countless months being depressed and then I realized that life is too short to let others' opinions get to you like that. I was told just this week "I thought you were a dude" and I calmly asked "and why did you think that" he repiled "well you have really boxy big square shoulders, short hair, a square jaw and youre really tall" I just laughed and plainly told him i didnt care what his opinion was. You gotta love your body and flaunt whatcha got! I still get called fat to this day, but I do not, in any way, let that influence how I see myself. I don't think Im fat. Hence: Im not fat.
and as for the having children part.. .not ALL kids are like that. It all depends on how they're raised and who they spend their time with. keep on keepin on!

There is no excuse but, they were kids. I am sure you were a kid once. I wouldn't be so hurt, they were kids. It is not like your husband or friend called you fat. Relax and take a breath, When you are my age you will have been called a lot more.

People are rude and are going to be ****s, but just ignore the hecklers. The worst thing is you let them get you out of your routine next just keep going on

I have been called fat my whole life. People like the power they get from bringing others down. The fact is, I am fat (not as much as before but still fat). Yes. And when I decided it wasn't an insult but an observation, it no longer bothered me. I just keep walking. I don't give them the power and I just feel badly for them. What a sad life they must have to have to try and bring down strangers. I am the bigger person (both ways, haha). I am sorry they hurt you, never an excuse to be a horrible to another. Let it build you up, not bring you down.

Yep. It completely sucked.
But it's what motivates you so in the same breath I am grateful for it now because it opened my eyes.
It's completely ****ty for someone to do that but sometimes cruel strangers let you know things your friends/family should have the balls to tell you.

i did get called fat once in france because i didnt give some homeless guy money.

unluckily for him, my french is really good and i had no problems with reminding the guy of how much of a loser he was to resort to begging on the streets. i pretty much reduced the guy to tears and went about my business.

that's really the only time that's happened to me. it's very rare that people say out of pocket stuff to me in general, but when it happens i relish in the chance to unleash the verbal krakken :devil:

Dunno if that makes you any better?

My very favorite response to that kind of idiocy is to smile very sweetly, tilt my head a little and say, "Awe, your mother must be so proud!" I may even applaud if I'm in the mood.

Ignoring these kids is the best idea and remember they are kids, cursing back at them only affirms to them that cursing is okay. You're the adult, showing a better example is important, even if you're furious.

True dat. We're all accountable for our own actions. Don't demean yourself by stopping to their level.