Looking for some fellow "40 something" support

I am trying to find some fellow 40 somethings that are sharing some of the same struggles that I am going through. Last year I lost 25 pounds and felt fabulous. So what did I do....yep, I gained back 30. How in the heck does someone work as hard as I did last year to lose that weight and then allow themselves to gain it back and then some? So frustrating!! So the first of this year I told myself that it was time to get back on the fitness/diet train and unfortunatley it isn't working as well this time. I have struggled to lose 9 1/2 pounds since the first of February and it just doesn't want to seem to budge. I am a member of WW, but just can't seem to stick with all the calculating. I do eat fairly well most of the time. I am trying to cut back on carbs which is really hard for me. I exercise at least 1 1/2 hours everyday, by walking 1/2 hour at lunch and then alternate going to the gym and working out at home everyother day. I have lost 5 pounds in the last month and a half and that was in one week. Last year the weight didn't fall off, but I was at least motivated by losing from 1/2 to 1 1/2 pounds each week that I was able to stick with it. I am so frustrated that I am ready to throw in the towel. So I am looking for support and suggestions from those going through what I am experiiencing and those that broke the plateau.


I am starting to panic because we leave for vacation on June 8th and I hoped to be down another 16 pounds by then. That goal is so far out of reach at this point that I am trying to not just give up completely.

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  • calimoma
    calimoma Posts: 64
    hello! i am right there with you! i lack consistancy and have been trying to lose for a while. i just keep ttying to remind myself that its whats best for me, my health, and what a great example i am to my son. yes i cheat too, try not to too much but its a part of life!!
    you have to move on when those roadblocks try to get you down. with me, its a mind thing. i have to remember....i am in control for whats best in my life. would love to be friends!! add me!! good luck, you got this!!!!!
  • kopoba11
    kopoba11 Posts: 12
    If you have been loggin your data for the past 2 months. Post break down of %carbs, fat%, protein%.
    Your answer may be in a type of foods you eat. 300 calories of pasta is not equal to 300 calories of chicken breasts when it comes to weight loss.
  • forwesgar13
    forwesgar13 Posts: 56 Member
    I'm 40 mom of 3 and just found out I'm gonna be a grandma .... wow still getting used to that ! I hit my goal weight but I think I'm gonna go a few more pounds. Still lifting and toning . Trying to get back to the grind and eating cleaner I've been on the rd the last few months so getting back to basics . To break my plateau when I first started and was walking I walked with a weight jacket. Then I worked out 5 days a week and intensified what I was doing. My body had gotten used to what I was doing. Add me if you like !
  • Snowflake1968
    Snowflake1968 Posts: 6,957 Member
    I'm there with you too. I lost 29 pounds last summer, and then one thing led to another and I have gained it all but 5 pounds back. Like you I am finding it very hard to stay motivated and disciplined this time, but I am wanting to be down 50 pounds by Sept 13th, - My 45th and my Grandson's 2nd! I started this week AGAIN determined to excercise for at least 45 minutes a day, so far I have made it one day. I don't have an answer for you, but I'll join you in the challenge!
  • Cordy_in_CT
    Cordy_in_CT Posts: 134 Member
    I'm almost 44, and lost about 38 pounds on this wonderful website - in 2011. I'm now up about 5 pounds, and trying to lose that, plus those last 10 - 15 pounds!!!! I'm realizing the journey is never "over." But ladies - as long as we never stop starting. I heard that in a WW meeting years ago, and it has stuck with me. "Never Stop Starting."
    With that being said, I'm also learning that each day is a baby step toward my goal weight. I keep telling myself (like an alcoholic) "For today, I'll stay within my daily calories" - that way it seems more manageable. Just for today. Not next week, or next year, or 5 years from now..... just today.
    All of the new smaller clothes that I bought are helping me to stay motivated and not let the 5 pounds turn into any more, because then I will have NO CLOTHES to wear!!! And I'm not starting over again in the wardrobe department!
    We can do this ladies, together, with logging, and exercise, and with each others support. Add me if you'd like. I'd love if you'd drop me a note too! :flowerforyou:
  • LB30
    LB30 Posts: 109 Member
    I'm in this boat, as well. Over the last five years I have gone from 163 (lbs.) to 135, up to 140, then 147, back down to 140, then 137, back up to 142, and up again to 145--steady for a bit, then up to 150! I lost the original weight on WW using the old plan. The new plan does not work for me. Or, more truthfully, I just don't like the new plan. I still love WW, but it was time for a clean slate for me. So far I've been doing okay, I was 148 when I started using MFP last month. Last week, I was 146.6. It isn't much, but it is better than I was. Tomorrow is my weekly weigh in date, so we'll see.

    Last week I started cutting carbs. I don't know if it will budge the scale (again, we'll see) but I am a carb junkie. The calories add up fast and I was always hungry. I have been staying away from my typical frozen pasta meals for lunch, pasta and potatoes at dinner, and empty carb snacks. I still eat my low calorie whole wheat toast for breakfast, but instead of eating 3-4 slices, I eat only 2 and have some kielbasa, too. (I know, weird.) It keeps me full until my mid-morning snack. I try to keep lunch to protein and maybe some vegetables if I had time to prepare them. Same with dinner. I added almonds in as a snack during the day, too. I have not been hungry in over a week. One disclaimer: I love craft beer which is high carb/calorie. If I can still lose .5 lbs a week and keep my beer, I'm in! If not, I guess my beer has to go. :sad:

    It seems the older I get, the harder it is. It came off so easy 5 years ago. It took only 5 months to lose those 30 lbs. Now, it takes almost a month to lose 1-2. (Yep, beer, I'm sure!) Getting older has many benefits, but this isn't one of them.

    I know I didn't offer any solutions or helpful tips, but I just wanted to say you're not alone. Hang in there. We'll get there. :flowerforyou:
  • tigerlinly
    tigerlinly Posts: 219 Member
    i know how u feel the more i try to lose the more i gain was hoping to be way down by this weekend (my 30 year class reunion) but i'm not if anything i gained
  • rheskin
    rheskin Posts: 1
    I'm in! I'm 42 and down about 10 lbs since August. I have another 15 to go and no firm timeline, but want to get there sooner rather than later. Exercise only wasn't cutting it and I started really tracking my food last month with much success..

    Last week's vacation added another 2 lbs I need to re-lose. (Sigh.)

    I got down to this weight right before I hit 40, kept it up for a while, felt great, then got lazy again. I have an incredibly supportive group of women in my bootcamp class, but could use all the help I can get with the food. I've never been one for cooking (thank god I married a man that likes it), but with working full-time, kids and their school and sports, and, well, just life, it is hard to stay on track. I just logged lunch thinking I picked something on the healthy side from the menu... only to find it was 1000 calories. It's soooo easy to out-eat my workout.

    I'm in for the support.
  • cristeberga
    cristeberga Posts: 251 Member
    Hi!

    I am 41 years old and although I am at my goal weight, I am still trying to work on building muscles and lowering BF%. It has been about 3 months and no change in those numbers for me either. Consistency and patience are key in our journey, so stick with it, be patient, and you will get there.

    Feel free to add me. :drinker:
  • pilarter
    pilarter Posts: 49
    Hello, I am 43 and I have lost 15 pounds in 2 months, I have been gaining and losing weight for the last 13 years, and I have to say that I have been lighter but not thinner. I am 148 pounds now, 5´6´´ tall. I am close to my 139 pounds goal before I quit smoking again (I gain weight when I quit smoking as I am hungry all the time and need constant "reward" for being a good girl and not to smoke; but when I gain pounds all my weak will turns to dieting and I start to smoke again).
    When I say I have been lighter but not thinner, I mean that it is not all about weight. Measure yourself! I tried this morning a really tight dress that I bought when I was 14 pounds lighter and it fits like a glove today.
    I tried to check your diet but it is not open, befriend me if you feel like, but that piece of advice above about checking your macros is first step. Proteins will leave you saciated for hours, while carbs would do the same for minutes, and you will need to eat a lot more food along the day. I love my toast in the morning too, but it is the only bread I eat along the day. Drink lots of water, and green tea, snack on veggies (carrots with guacamole is my favourite lately) and protein. Forget about pasta and potato on a daily basis! Some almonds are great snacks too, plenty of goos fat. Dark chocolate for a bad craving for sweet will make the trick with not that many calories.
    Starving yourself is not the wayº to go. Keep your calorie income over your BMR and under yout TDEE (-20% TDEE is a good choice, and sustainable in the long term). Otherwise your metabolism would interpret lack of intake and would save energy "just in case".
    It gets more and more difficult to lose weight as we get older, that´s a fact, and it is due to our declining hormones. Nothing healthy you can do about your hormones, but workout would boost your metabolism. Combine cardio and lifting weights. I read here a lot of advice about lifting heavy weights, but I only use a pair of 5.5lbs dumbells making lots of reps for each muscle group and it works great for me. Add some resistance to your cardio, for instance walking with a moderately heavy backpack or increasing inclination on the treadmill. I exercise at home, I hate gyms, I do some belly dance with my dumbells on my hips, hanging from a belt, and this has been great for my abs, and funnier! Summarizing, challenge your body: it gets used to your routine and reduces the waste of calories.
    Exercising daily is not better than taking some rest days, so you let your muscle release the water that it retains from exercise...
    Take days one after the other. Allow yourself to a treat-meal once in a while, you deserve it after all the efforts you make, better if it fits your macros and calorie intake. But if it doesn´t: don´t surrender for a bad day. when day is over, thank your god if you have one for all the joy that the day brought to your life and wait for the new day and how awesome you are when you wake up and feel healthy.
    Keep in the path!
  • sbrownallison
    sbrownallison Posts: 314 Member
    Been there, done that. In this latest effort (started 13 months ago), I am down 48 lbs (30 was gone before I started MFP in November). I do 1200 cals/day (suggested by MFP for an older female) and have built up my exercise over the last year to a current 4 - 6 hours per week (cardio, step, treadmill, hand weights). The only food change I implemented a year ago when I started this latest effort was that I no longer eat bread. I'll occasionally eat a small serving of noodles but don't eat bread per se. This change has seemed to be a good one for me, as it is an easy rule to follow and prevents a lot of problems with food triggers. I found I had consistent weight loss (unlike other efforts in years past) of almost a pound a week; I never had a week without weight loss!. Now that I'm near goal, it's slowing down but I refuse to be discouraged. I have a good routine, am not bothered by hunger, and feel better and more fit than I have in years. Good luck on your journey!
  • margottsponer
    margottsponer Posts: 4 Member
    Please add me as a contact. I just turned 47, and lost 6.5 pounds my first 2 weeks with MFP. Nothing since then but I have found that through the contact of others and knowing they are having the same struggles as me that it actually motivates me to keep logging and keep working out. It's all about support and being in it with people who understand the issues and struggles. I can say that even though I've only "lost" 6.5 pounds, that I feel better and my clothes are starting to be a little loose. Best of luck - those danged 40's are tough on us but I have faith that together we can all overcome the weight issues!!!!
  • Hi,
    Im Susan, 46, from Australia, been on MFP for 6 months & have lost 25.7kgs or 57 pounds so far purely through changing what i eat. Im about halfway to achieving my desired weight. I firmly believe that the kitchen is for weightloss & gym is for fitness.

    No need to bust your a#*# in the gym, moderate exercise is all thats required, If you eat healthy & to deficit, you will lose weight.
    Im always happy to offer support & receive it :)

    Feel free to add me if you wish :)