which numbers are important? calorie wise

Your food total, not your net or remaining. I do TDEE - 25% (which already includes my exercise cals) so I don't eat back my exercise cals unless I burn more then my TDEE - 25%. It took awhile to get ignore the net and remaining but it works.

Which numbers do i pay attention to in my log if i dont want to eat back my calories?

I pay attention to my total calories, but also, I need to keep my protein grams up, and my carbs down. I also make sure I have my fiber...I have a strong family history of colon cancer. I also try to keep my sugar low. My dietitian says it's important also to watch sodium...but I don't usually go over on that. So, in other words, it's a game to keep all the numbers within limits. It takes a while, but you will get the hang of it. Good Luck

Well how did you figure out your TDEE? Did u times your BMR by your activity level? And how how weight do you want to lose?

For example, My BMR is 1671. I exercise 5-6 days a week at an hr minimum and weight lift 3 times a week. I'm burning 700-900 cals per workout. So with my active workouts, I did my BMR of 1671 x 1.725 (for 5-6 days a week) which is 2882 for my TDEE. I still have 54lbs to lose so I can do my TDEE - 25% (read up on TDEE and road map on here, if you don't have much to lose you might only do TDEE -15%, read up on it). 25% off of my TDEE of 2882 is 720.5 so I subtract that from TDEE which equals 2161.5 which is my calorie goal for the day. I don't eat back my exercise cals unless I burn more than the 720.5 in a workout. Easy and works. I customize my goals that way and have protein at 30%, carbs 40% and fat 30%. Again check out the road map post on here. It's very helpful and breaks it up even more for you.