You're beautiful

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  • fayeonherway
    fayeonherway Posts: 204
    My husband does not agree. Hence the dirty looks when he sees me getting dressed or undressed. It's difficult to rise above the rotten feelings that stem from that.

    I've read several of your posts in regards to your husband and his attitude toward you. It makes me sad and angry. But mostly sad.

    I'm just gonna give you a flower. :flowerforyou:
  • Qarol
    Qarol Posts: 6,171 Member
    That's really lovely.
  • ShannonS2714
    ShannonS2714 Posts: 135 Member
    OP, your post is both wonderful and troubling at the same time. It saddens me that enough people would consider themselves ugly that they'd need such a quote. I'm as female as the next lady and usually my own worst critic, but I don't think I've ever considered myself ugly. I'm just less than perfect. And, being the anal perfectionist that I am, it took me a while to be okay with that. I mostly am okay with it now though. Mostly.

    I don't think that I've ever used the word ugly to describe myself....but I know that I have hated myself for a very long time and if I found any beauty in myself, that wouldn't be possible...right? So, I think a lot more of us consider ourselves ugly even if we don't use the word...

    I get that, but it still saddens me that people would hate themselves. Everybody's beautiful, in their own way. :flowerforyou:

    I agree...but it's hard to see it in ourselves, sometimes.
  • nolachick
    nolachick Posts: 3,278 Member
    "It doesn't make sense to call ourselves ugly because we don't really see ourselves. We don't watch ourselves sleeping in bed, curled up and silent. With chests rising and falling with our own rhythm. We don't see ourselves reading a book, eyes fluttering and glowing. You don't see yourself looking at someone with care inside your heart. There's no mirror in your way when you're laughing and smiling and happiness is leaking out of you. You would know exactly how bright and beautiful you are if you saw yourself in the moments where you are truly beautiful." Author Unknown

    this is awesome. thnx for posting :flowerforyou:
  • GSmith0904
    GSmith0904 Posts: 25
    Beautiful quote! More of us women need to think like this :)
  • ShannonS2714
    ShannonS2714 Posts: 135 Member
    Beautiful quote! More of us women need to think like this :)

    I agree.

    Beauty comes from within to start. If you're ugly inside, you'll always be ugly outside...no matter what you look like.
  • ShannonS2714
    ShannonS2714 Posts: 135 Member
    My husband does not agree. Hence the dirty looks when he sees me getting dressed or undressed. It's difficult to rise above the rotten feelings that stem from that.

    Next time he does that, just smile sweetly, tell him that YOU know you're beautiful... and kick him in the f&*^ jaw.

    Violence is always the answer, always.

    I like you.

    LOL! Why did this make me think of the "Lockhorns"? LOL!

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    :laugh:
  • tazminacat
    tazminacat Posts: 26
    My husband does not agree. Hence the dirty looks when he sees me getting dressed or undressed. It's difficult to rise above the rotten feelings that stem from that.

    Next time he does that, just smile sweetly, tell him that YOU know you're beautiful... and kick him in the f&*^ jaw.

    Violence is always the answer, always.

    Agreed... but I also believe beer helps with the answer...
  • tazminacat
    tazminacat Posts: 26
    I've never considered myself ugly, despite how much my brother told me I was. But it's apparent I'm not fully happy with my appearance as I spend at least 10 mins a day putting on make up. I don't load it on to make me look fake or "dolled up" but I don't like being seen without it. If someone tells me I look pretty with make up on, I smile and drink in the good feelings, if someone tells me I look pretty without make up.. I shrug and tell them "I could look better." Sad to think of, but there it is. =^.^=
  • ShannonS2714
    ShannonS2714 Posts: 135 Member
    I've never considered myself ugly, despite how much my brother told me I was. But it's apparent I'm not fully happy with my appearance as I spend at least 10 mins a day putting on make up. I don't load it on to make me look fake or "dolled up" but I don't like being seen without it. If someone tells me I look pretty with make up on, I smile and drink in the good feelings, if someone tells me I look pretty without make up.. I shrug and tell them "I could look better." Sad to think of, but there it is. =^.^=

    (((HUGS))) It's weird that we can't take compliments. Anytime I get one, I always believe it's a lie. Always.
  • matt2442
    matt2442 Posts: 1,259 Member
    Thank you but I knew all this already
  • ShannonS2714
    ShannonS2714 Posts: 135 Member
    Thank you but I knew all this already

    Good...you're a step ahead.
  • sbbhbm
    sbbhbm Posts: 1,312 Member
    My husband does not agree. Hence the dirty looks when he sees me getting dressed or undressed. It's difficult to rise above the rotten feelings that stem from that.

    I feel you sweety. I don't just get the dirty looks. Mine frequently reminds me that I'm "disgusting" and "repulsive". Put another way to me last week "You know what your problem is? Your actually deluded enough to believe you're attractive."
  • ShannonS2714
    ShannonS2714 Posts: 135 Member
    My husband does not agree. Hence the dirty looks when he sees me getting dressed or undressed. It's difficult to rise above the rotten feelings that stem from that.

    I feel you sweety. I don't just get the dirty looks. Mine frequently reminds me that I'm "disgusting" and "repulsive". Put another way to me last week "You know what your problem is? Your actually deluded enough to believe you're attractive."

    Oh, honey...no. This is NOT ok. You are beautiful, he's just a blind @ss. (((HUGS)))
  • sbbhbm
    sbbhbm Posts: 1,312 Member
    My husband does not agree. Hence the dirty looks when he sees me getting dressed or undressed. It's difficult to rise above the rotten feelings that stem from that.

    I feel you sweety. I don't just get the dirty looks. Mine frequently reminds me that I'm "disgusting" and "repulsive". Put another way to me last week "You know what your problem is? Your actually deluded enough to believe you're attractive."

    Oh, honey...no. This is NOT ok. You are beautiful, he's just a blind @ss. (((HUGS)))

    Yes, he is. I like myself just fine (hence his "believe you're attractive" comment) - as far as I'm concerned he's the one with the problem. He can either get over it or get out. I used to let him get to me, but I have so many wonderful supportive friends here on MFP that appreciate me for who I am that they drown out his insults.
  • assblaster69
    assblaster69 Posts: 47 Member
    i wont live in a lie, i was a fat *kitten*
  • Sweet_Gurl_Next_Door
    Sweet_Gurl_Next_Door Posts: 735 Member
    my precious daughter tells me I am beautiful to her she loves her momma. my neighbor who became my friendship matchmaker introducing me to a guy she knows my age the pastor's son at her church told me I am beautiful too. hopes we can hang out more. it boosted my confidence. most of the guys only tell me how ugly I am
  • Hearts_2015
    Hearts_2015 Posts: 12,032 Member
    "It doesn't make sense to call ourselves ugly because we don't really see ourselves. We don't watch ourselves sleeping in bed, curled up and silent. With chests rising and falling with our own rhythm. We don't see ourselves reading a book, eyes fluttering and glowing. You don't see yourself looking at someone with care inside your heart. There's no mirror in your way when you're laughing and smiling and happiness is leaking out of you. You would know exactly how bright and beautiful you are if you saw yourself in the moments where you are truly beautiful." Author Unknown
    :heart: a very nice reminder, thanks for sharing that, it's so very true!
  • ShannonS2714
    ShannonS2714 Posts: 135 Member
    My husband does not agree. Hence the dirty looks when he sees me getting dressed or undressed. It's difficult to rise above the rotten feelings that stem from that.

    I feel you sweety. I don't just get the dirty looks. Mine frequently reminds me that I'm "disgusting" and "repulsive". Put another way to me last week "You know what your problem is? Your actually deluded enough to believe you're attractive."

    Oh, honey...no. This is NOT ok. You are beautiful, he's just a blind @ss. (((HUGS)))

    Yes, he is. I like myself just fine (hence his "believe you're attractive" comment) - as far as I'm concerned he's the one with the problem. He can either get over it or get out. I used to let him get to me, but I have so many wonderful supportive friends here on MFP that appreciate me for who I am that they drown out his insults.

    Good!! :flowerforyou:
  • ShannonS2714
    ShannonS2714 Posts: 135 Member
    i wont live in a lie, i was a fat *kitten*

    Hell, I AM a fat *kitten* (b!tch, I guess LOL)...but, I'm working on it...
  • ShannonS2714
    ShannonS2714 Posts: 135 Member
    my precious daughter tells me I am beautiful to her she loves her momma. my neighbor who became my friendship matchmaker introducing me to a guy she knows my age the pastor's son at her church told me I am beautiful too. hopes we can hang out more. it boosted my confidence. most of the guys only tell me how ugly I am

    I won't ever understand why anyone would choose to tear someone else down for any reason.

    Your daughter sounds amazing!! I'm glad you have good people in your life and I hope they drown out the jerks!
  • JessieJanie
    JessieJanie Posts: 428
    My husband does not agree. Hence the dirty looks when he sees me getting dressed or undressed. It's difficult to rise above the rotten feelings that stem from that.

    I feel you sweety. I don't just get the dirty looks. Mine frequently reminds me that I'm "disgusting" and "repulsive". Put another way to me last week "You know what your problem is? Your actually deluded enough to believe you're attractive."


    You're beautiful. And any one that tells you differently should be smacked in the face. With a car.
  • bearwith
    bearwith Posts: 525 Member
    We are alive - that is beautiful
  • ScreamingUnicorn
    ScreamingUnicorn Posts: 83 Member
    My husband does not agree. Hence the dirty looks when he sees me getting dressed or undressed. It's difficult to rise above the rotten feelings that stem from that.

    I feel you sweety. I don't just get the dirty looks. Mine frequently reminds me that I'm "disgusting" and "repulsive". Put another way to me last week "You know what your problem is? Your actually deluded enough to believe you're attractive."

    I'm confused as to how these men are considered husband material? I understand that relationships are more complicated than that, but degrade me, disrespect me and belittle me like that^^ and see if there aren't divorce papers stapled to your balls when you wake up.
  • ShannonS2714
    ShannonS2714 Posts: 135 Member
    My husband does not agree. Hence the dirty looks when he sees me getting dressed or undressed. It's difficult to rise above the rotten feelings that stem from that.

    I feel you sweety. I don't just get the dirty looks. Mine frequently reminds me that I'm "disgusting" and "repulsive". Put another way to me last week "You know what your problem is? Your actually deluded enough to believe you're attractive."

    I'm confused as to how these men are considered husband material? I understand that relationships are more complicated than that, but degrade me, disrespect me and belittle me like that^^ and see if there aren't divorce papers stapled to your balls when you wake up.

    I agree with you completely, but it IS more complicated than that. I was married to a man like this when I was young...it took a long time for me to get up and walk away....and there are many women that never do.
  • sbbhbm
    sbbhbm Posts: 1,312 Member
    My husband does not agree. Hence the dirty looks when he sees me getting dressed or undressed. It's difficult to rise above the rotten feelings that stem from that.

    I feel you sweety. I don't just get the dirty looks. Mine frequently reminds me that I'm "disgusting" and "repulsive". Put another way to me last week "You know what your problem is? Your actually deluded enough to believe you're attractive."

    I'm confused as to how these men are considered husband material? I understand that relationships are more complicated than that, but degrade me, disrespect me and belittle me like that^^ and see if there aren't divorce papers stapled to your balls when you wake up.

    It is complicated unfortunately, or I would've left four years ago when this crap started. He wasn't always like this, no way would I have married him had I known he was capable of being so cruel.
  • Sweet_Gurl_Next_Door
    Sweet_Gurl_Next_Door Posts: 735 Member
    I actually did leave a marriage like that It was easy for me to do. I felt I deserved better of course what happened to my friend was a real wake up call. she stayed with her abuser and was killed by him at age 29. I left my abuser and am still alive and well.
  • ScreamingUnicorn
    ScreamingUnicorn Posts: 83 Member
    My husband does not agree. Hence the dirty looks when he sees me getting dressed or undressed. It's difficult to rise above the rotten feelings that stem from that.

    I feel you sweety. I don't just get the dirty looks. Mine frequently reminds me that I'm "disgusting" and "repulsive". Put another way to me last week "You know what your problem is? Your actually deluded enough to believe you're attractive."

    I'm confused as to how these men are considered husband material? I understand that relationships are more complicated than that, but degrade me, disrespect me and belittle me like that^^ and see if there aren't divorce papers stapled to your balls when you wake up.

    It is complicated unfortunately, or I would've left four years ago when this crap started. He wasn't always like this, no way would I have married him had I known he was capable of being so cruel.

    I understand but life's too short to waste on such people. You deserve better than that and I think you should demand more from the person that is supposed to be your best friend and biggest support. For the record, I think you're lovely.
  • assblaster69
    assblaster69 Posts: 47 Member
    We are alive - that is beautiful
    Josef Fritzl sure is beautiful
  • assblaster69
    assblaster69 Posts: 47 Member
    i wont live in a lie, i was a fat *kitten*

    Hell, I AM a fat *kitten* (b!tch, I guess LOL)...but, I'm working on it...

    Then this thread is for you to make you feel better about yourself with some stupid story

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