When do you see the skinny girl in the mirror?

I don't think I'll ever see the skinny person in the mirror. I know what size I wear, I buy that size and go to those sections, but I still look in a mirror and see fat (in general).

I don't see any difference in me at all. But my t shirt is hanging off me, my hoodie has room for someone else in there with me, my trackies, nearly too right just over a month ago, are getting loose.

I don't think I'll ever see anything different.

I think along with losing the weight that we have to work on how we view ourselves. I know I have always thought I was so big even at the times I had lost the weight. So I am saying our mental image of ourselves and "baggage" I have carried needs to be worked out also. Lot of issues outside of just losing the weight.

When I was younger, I always felt like fattest girl in the room, and I was a lot of the time too, so looking in the mirror, all i noticed were my flaws. Even when I was at my skinniest and fittest after landscaping for an entire summer, I still felt huge. Years later, after I regained the weight, I see photos of myself from that summer and see how good I looked, but never realized it.

Now, I think I look damn good, even though I'm far from my goal. I wear bigger sizes, but I make sure they fit well. Hell, I wear form-fitting miniskirts that hug my curves and I feel like a bombshell.

I think it's all about perception, and honestly, as cheesy as it is, telling yourself you look good will actually help you FEEL that way.

I don't think I'll ever see the skinny person in the mirror. I know what size I wear, I buy that size and go to those sections, but I still look in a mirror and see fat (in general).

^^^ THIS.
Not sure when it will change. I hope it does. I am now in a size 6 (size 4 in some things and size 8 in others), but I still "see" myself in the mirror as heavy, and observe the fat I can still see as unsightly. I am working toward being more toned and am making progress, but I still don't see a thin woman in the mirror.

aim to be the most fit person not the thinnest... plenty of people weighing half of what i do that can't do the things i can do physically...

then again i am not a woman so i dont really have image issues

I can completely relate. I've lost a little over 77lbs, and I still have a hard time seeing it in the mirror. I read somewhere that sometimes it can take the brain a little while to catch up. But it WILL catch up. I've done the same thing as far as buying clothes that are way too big because my brain is still thinking fat fat fat. My advice, take measurements frequently, and try to take stock of how you feel. Is it easier to move around, run around, etc.? These are changes I can instantly notice, like "Oh my god, I can climb a flight of stairs (hell I can run them) without feeling like I'm going to have a coronary." I started this whole thing wanting to look good, and somehow it morphed into wanting to feel good too. Try to be patient with your brain/eyes/self image. They will catch up to reality eventually.

I saw the skinny person in the mirror when I was at my highest weight ... thats why I got so big lol ... I only saw the fat person in pics

^This is my issue too!! I still think I am much smaller than I really am. Good to know someone else has the same problem.

I'm like this also. For along time we did not have a full length mirror in the house so I only saw myself from the shoulders up. When we first got a full length mirror I was shocked at how fat I looked. I still don't look at myself too much in that mirror. One of my goals is to feel comfortable with that.

ditto

Our minds try to protect our egos sometimes I think. I went into Express and asked for a skirt in a "comfortably smaller size" and the very nice guy says "For you? Honey, that aint gonna fit you, you look about half that size". I think almost subconsciously I'd rather start with a bigger size and get something smaller than try on something smaller and have it not fit lol. Crazy pants.

I'm also not trying to be "skinny" but I would like more muscular definition and visible abs.

Hey, I didn't see the fat then and I don't see the skinny now :huh:

I hope I never do. To me "skinny" means stick-like, no visible muscles, skinny-fat, unhealthy and unattractive.

I realize that is not how the rest of you define the word.

I think it's impossible to see ourselves as others do, I'm convinced I'll just never get there.

I'd be horrified if I looked into the mirror and saw a skinny girl.

I've just climbed back on the wagon, part 2 on it's way and I'm over half way to my goal - not a lot over half way, but over it I am. I've been yo-yoing since November over about 3 to 4 kgs so I've had a chance to adjust to how I look. And even tho I've been annoyed with this massive pause I think it's done me some good. I do see the me in the mirror now and yes it did take a while for reality to sink it. The one event that threw me totally was when I got my hair cut. It was a shortish style to start with but the hairs were just about all at the same length. Then all those hairs were layered and cropped around my ears and short at the back. I've gone even shorter now but thank goodness I didn't go straight to what I'm wearing now. I felt uneasy in the salon and when I got home I went straight to the bathroom mirror and just stared - I didn't know the person staring back at me. I was like that for two days and then I eventually accepted the straight lines outlining my face.

Give urselves a chance - maybe go on maintenance for a couple of weeks so ur head can catch up. Don't give up - it's honestly all worth it. By the way, people tell me that I've lost enuff, but they don't see what's under my teeshirt, I do. BUT I've got the extra skin thing happening as well so I've got to really watch things when I get close to goal - I don't want to go too far. I've lost 86lb thus far and have 77lb to go, I'm heading to 156lb or 71kg.