Getting over an ex while losing weight?

I wish I had some advice for you, but I've had one bad relationship after another and I've not been able to get over them in a healthy way. I either stuff my face with sweets or don't eat for days. It's been pretty rough for me lately. I struggle to get up to 1200 calories most days. I just keep thinking "if I was thinner, this wouldn't have happened" or "skinny girls don't have these issues". I know it's not true, but half my brain still believes it...

Good luck! We're in this together!

I think this is the problem with losing weight for other reasons and other people instead of yourself.

Make a list of why you want to lose weight. This time, It can't/won't include anything to do with your ex.

I told my ex if you drink water and eat protein, it can ease headaches. He replied, "if you drink water and eat protein, you'll stop being fat." God. 3 weeks ago he was saying how much he loves me and doesn't want me to change. Now I'm that "fat girl he dated." He used to be my number one supporter and the one who believed in me when even I didn't. I know I shouldn't let this stop me, but it hurts. I'm eating ice cream and crying, at the moment. I just feel like a failure. I want to rub my weight loss in his face, but I don't want to use it as a weapon, you know? I've just lost my internal motivation. How can I keep my progress going without being upset or spiteful over my ex? We broke up weeks ago and it still hurts me..

I would say use it for fuel. You are in this, not to become this idol, but to simply be the best version of you, you can be.

Use him as motivation! Think of it this way: you deserve way better, if he is going to treat you like that! If you try really hard now, he will see you later on and realize what he missed out on So do it for the "wow girl you got hot!"

*kitten* him and keep losing the weight so you can be happy in your own skin. Losing weight helps you in so many more ways then just being able to move around easier. It's a process that you grow with. Do it for yourself....you will NOT regret it!!!:flowerforyou:

Haters ain't *kitten* son.

You just have to put your head down and drive on. Tomorrow is another day.

Be glad you did not settle down with someone so petty. He didn't appreciate you at your worst so he doesn't deserve you at your best.

Use it as motivation to be the best person you can be. You have a fresh start so keep working hard, treat yourself right and smile. Everything is ok.

^ And this too.

You need to sit down, by yourself, and find out your WHY. Why are you wanting to lose weight? Why are you wanting to make your body healthier? If you think about it and really ponder why, then you will discover that "getting skinny" isn't even the reason. There's something up under that reason. Something so personal that nobody can change it about you. It has nothing to do with other people, but all about you. Once you find out your why, it won't matter what happens in your life with guys, family issues, or whatever. You will have your motivation to keep going. Of course we all have setbacks, but that's perfectly normal! The road to success is NEVER a straight line. But you need to look deep within yourself and find out why you want to lose weight, and use that, and only that, as your motivator.

And don't bother with that guy anymore. Thinking about him will bring you down. Talking to him or about him to other people won't help. He's in the past. Your future is much different than your past. You control what your future and you control your present. You don't want to use that control bring bad things back into remembrance do you? Of course not. Forget him. You go ahead and do YOU for YOU.

Take a boxing class or something! The exercise will help with the weight loss, and give you an added boost of feeling powerful and good about yourself! Distracting yourself with a new hobby wouldn't hurt either.

You need to sit down, by yourself, and find out your WHY. Why are you wanting to lose weight? Why are you wanting to make your body healthier? If you think about it and really ponder why, then you will discover that "getting skinny" isn't even the reason. There's something up under that reason. Something so personal that nobody can change it about you. It has nothing to do with other people, but all about you. Once you find out your why, it won't matter what happens in your life with guys, family issues, or whatever. You will have your motivation to keep going. Of course we all have setbacks, but that's perfectly normal! The road to success is NEVER a straight line. But you need to look deep within yourself and find out why you want to lose weight, and use that, and only that, as your motivator.

And don't bother with that guy anymore. Thinking about him will bring you down. Talking to him or about him to other people won't help. He's in the past. Your future is much different than your past. You control what your future and you control your present. You don't want to use that control bring bad things back into remembrance do you? Of course not. Forget him. You go ahead and do YOU for YOU.

^ Great advice.

I'm sorry you're having such a hard time. Just know that it does get easier (getting over a loved one).

But PLEASE DO use this as a weapon. Looking good, feeling good, and being confident are some of the best ways to stick it to someone in a positive way. Plus, the better you feel, the less your breakup will hurt. Trust me, I've been there

i'm curious, what kind friendship would you want from him and what would you expect out of it?

well i'm certainly no Anne Landers and i'm trying to get my own crap together after a break up. I also don't know you or your situation, but i would offer that you might wanna get your head together again and prove to yourself that you can live your life happily without him before you go playin around with fire again. I'm sure you can find other supportive friends to help you out if you need it. Just a thought and i hope it helps....

Losing weight is something that you should want to do for yourself. Other people should not be in the equation.

You're learning the lesson as to why you can't and shouldn't rely on people, places or things in order to be happy--you're giving away your power to someone or something else. Doing that isn't fair to others who now have the extra burden of keeping YOU happy in addition to their own needs. If you take back responsibility for your own happiness and fall in love with someone who does the same, your happiness and well-being will be rewarding and not a burden to the one you love. Take back your power AND your responsibility for making your happiness come from within, and you'll never have to suffer at the actions of what someone else does or says again.