baby shower for second baby (new hubby)

I agree with Laural007, diaper shower is a great idea. Also, if the new baby is a different gender from the 8 year old you definatly want to do new stuff.

I agree with PPPs... since there is such a difference in the age of children, she should have a shower.

It may just be where I am from, but my family, church family, friends, etc have thrown a baby shower for every child. No matter if the parent had one kid or five kids. Of course we don't go wild and out on gifts, usually $10-$20, unless it is some one real close to you.

I don't see why you couldn't throw some kind of shindig for her. And like Laura ^ said, you could do a diaper shower. I can give you link to really cute craft called a diaper cake.

If she thought she was done having kids, regardless of gender, she probably doesn't have anything at all.... I think a shower is an excellent idea. Heck, maybe even a couples baby shower?? (Since it's his first one, he may be interested in doing the couples thing and having his guy pals there, too?) Just an idea...

It may just be where I am from, but my family, church family, friends, etc have thrown a baby shower for every child. No matter if the parent had one kid or five kids. Of course we don't go wild and out on gifts, usually $10-$20, unless it is some one real close to you.

I don't see why you couldn't throw some kind of shindig for her. And like Laura ^ said, you could do a diaper shower. I can give you link to really cute craft called a diaper cake.

I make Diaper Cakes all the time...theya re REALLY cool!! :-)

It may just be where I am from, but my family, church family, friends, etc have thrown a baby shower for every child. No matter if the parent had one kid or five kids. Of course we don't go wild and out on gifts, usually $10-$20, unless it is some one real close to you.

I don't see why you couldn't throw some kind of shindig for her. And like Laura ^ said, you could do a diaper shower. I can give you link to really cute craft called a diaper cake.

I make Diaper Cakes all the time...theya re REALLY cool!! :-)

I know me and my aunt usually tag team and make big ones and give them a theme. We did one all bath time things, one with all kind of toys, one with bottles and pacis, and even one that was covered in hair bows we made.

Hi, first time moms get baby showers and second time around it's called a sprinkle because it's smaller gifts and mostly just a lovely get together. In this case I think a real baby shower is a must. If you can't throw it don't worry, most ladies get a small one from their coworkers. Just mail the gift and make a point of visiting her and bringing a hot meal once the baby is born.

The problem is I don't really want to throw one for her. I'm still recovering from her wedding which was less then a year ago (I had to fly out of state and use vacation time for). Maybe I'm being a horrible friend. Obviously, part of me feels like I should do something for her, but I really don't want to. I'm clearly just a horrible person. I would happily go to a shower if someone else threw it, but it doesn't look like that is happening.

Well, I don't think you're "horrible" for not wanting to throw one. But, I guess I'm not sure why you asked the question, then.... If you don't WANT to do it, it's as simple as that. Don't. Her family, another friend, a friend of the hubby, WHOEVER, can throw one if they want. You don't have to feel obligated just because she said she's sad she's not having one. That's just my two cents....

Maybe call a relative of hers or her mom and ask who is throwing one because you don't want to miss it? If there are no plans in the works, and they can't afford to buy all the baby stuff themselves, I'd say call a few friends up and get one together. Tell them it's a potluck brunch or whatever so you don't have a huge cost, supply beverages and give her a multipack of sleepers in a couple of sizes, and a first aid/toiletry kit that includes the nasal aspirator, nail clippers, medicine dropper, etc. It's practical, fairly cheap, and chances are she doesn't have those items in the house anymore, and no one thinks to buy it. Baby gifts don't have to be huge and elaborate and expensive. If they haven't pooped all over the clothes and ruined them, they grow out of them in two months anyway.

I believe every baby deserves a baby shower! It is ridiculous for people to think its not proper. sure if your kids are like a year apart and the same gender maybe you don't need a lot of extra stuff. But, my kids are 6 years apart and different gender LOL so I, like many second time mommas were starting over throw that girl AND her miracle a party, she deserves it!

I should warn that my opinion is based on the customs where I grew up, but baby showers are for moms, not babies (i.e. it is to help the mom), and they are for first-time moms only. The idea is that a first-time mom doesn't really know what she needs because she's never had a child. Hence, all the experienced moms get together to give her what she will need and to generally celebrate her entry into the world of motherhood. You don't have another "look at me! I'm a mom!" party for the second baby. You send out a pregnancy or birth announcement, and the people who feel inclined to send a gift can do so.

Then again, where I'm from, there are pretty strict social rules about "big" weddings (you only get one) and house-warming parties (only for your first home), so the one-baby-shower-per-mom rule falls in line with that. It's basically viewed as begging for gifts/attention from people who have already been very generous to you if you expect a party and free stuff every time you have a kid.

My sister-in-law is having her second child with my brother any day now. We did not have a second shower for her. It doesn't mean we love her or my niece any less.